#786 The Full Irish

Wendy has two children with type 1 diabetes. Her son has other issues as well.

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Scott Benner 0:00
Hello friends, and welcome to episode 786 of the Juicebox Podcast.

Today is your lucky day, because you're going to hear my conversation with Wendy. She is the mother of two children who have type one diabetes. And one of those kids has a number of other issues including auditory processing, heart issue, and ADHD. It's a great conversation and on top of everything else, Wendy has an absolutely rocking accent. While you're listening, please remember that nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast should be considered advice, medical or otherwise, always consult a physician before making any changes to your health care plan are becoming bold with insulin. If you have type one diabetes, or are the caregiver of someone with type one, and are a US resident, please consider going to T one D exchange.org. Ford slash juicebox. And filling out the survey. That's all I'd like you to do. T one D exchange.org. Forward slash juicebox. Go complete the survey. Take you like 10 minutes. I promise. I'm holding up my hand like I'm like I'm in court. I'm promising to tell the truth. 10 minutes.

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Wendy 2:23
My name is Wendy and I'm living in South Carolina. And I have the mother of two type one diabetics. So we're five years into the journey. Both kids were diagnosed within five months of each other in 2017. Wow. Yeah, no family history. I did try illness. I don't even have one marker. Nothing.

Scott Benner 2:47
Huh. That was can we are we gonna use kids names?

Wendy 2:51
Yes, you can. My daughter is Maeve she was diagnosed when she was four. She's nine going on 10 now and my son is aged and he he was diagnosed at seven. And he is 12

Scott Benner 3:07
I got it. Okay. Well, well maybes a really pretty name. Thank you. Yeah, I think might have been on our list for Arden. If I'm thinking

Wendy 3:17
yeah, you know, like I wanted to give my Irish first names. You certainly do. But my my husband insisted that I have to do it in a way that I use the English spelling and not the Irish spelling. Because the Irish spelling would have been really hard for people.

Scott Benner 3:32
Can I ask you why Irish navigating?

Wendy 3:36
I just read a book one time.

Scott Benner 3:39
Listen, if we get through this hour without me asking you to say frosted Lucky Charms They're magically delicious. We're gonna be doing great. So oh my god. That's fine. That's the bar I've set for myself.

Wendy 3:53
Do you know what to do? You know what's really hard for me is Alexa. Like we used to put on lidocaine on the kids for pump changes. And I would get Alexa to set a timer for 30 minutes but because of my accent, it would set it for 13 So now we know that I have to set Alexa for either 29 or 31 minutes because I can't understand it's me.

Scott Benner 4:14
It's amazing. I should complain it sometimes miss those voice assistants misunderstand me. And that's when I realized how poorly I'm mispronouncing words at times where it's just like I don't know what you're saying. And my friends.

Wendy 4:30
Yeah, torching is a big one for me.

Scott Benner 4:33
So funny enough, if you listen to podcasts, I imagine. Oh, yes, I do. Okay, so thank you. I just asked because I mean, the amount of people who are from like Irish heritage or English or that part of the country ish we get around it well and have autoimmune stuff is crazy. So the first question I'm going to ask obviously, is other autoimmune stuff besides type one or no?

Wendy 4:59
Um, No, no. I mean, there's some Pernicious anemia in my mom's family. But generally we don't have we don't have anything on either my side or my husband's side. Nothing but my husband's family is of Dutch heritage. So I think Northern European, there is a high incidence from what I've spoken to my doctor and stuff. Yeah. So I think that Northern European, there can be a greater incidence.

Scott Benner 5:26
Okay. No, I mean, everything I talked about is pretty anecdotal. But keep people keep saying the same things over and over and over again. It's hard not to I mean, you don't have Yeah, yeah. Irish to get type one diabetes, obviously. But no,

Wendy 5:39
no. And I did trial that I have no markers, nothing. So I think with my two, they both had a virus. They both had a virus about eight months before diagnosis, and they ran fevers for multiple days. And hey, presto, diabetes. Yeah.

Scott Benner 5:56
Something about you and your husband mixed together, right?

Wendy 6:01
Stubborn genes.

Scott Benner 6:03
You think that your children's immune system is too stubborn to do its job correctly?

Wendy 6:09
Pretty much. It's pretty much it very well.

Scott Benner 6:12
So they were diagnosed? Did you say eight months apart?

Wendy 6:15
No. The one was diagnosed in February. The other was July. So they were really close together five

Scott Benner 6:22
months apart. Okay. Well, I guess tell me about the first diagnosis a little bit.

Wendy 6:29
Um, with Maeve, you know, it was really crazy because I felt like she was coming down with something, but I couldn't just put my finger on it. And you know, I would take her temperature and she was listless. And I think the biggest indicator for me was, she went off for food. And she loves food. She loves anything. And I took her out to, you know, her favorite little restaurant for Chinese. And all she wanted was drinks. And she kept like drinking Sprite. That's all she wanted. She wouldn't even touch the food. So I thought I'll make an appointment with her pediatrician. And then the night before, I remember thinking to a colleague who had a type one son, and you know, you're just lying in bed thinking about it all and all the symptoms were coming to mind. And I said to my husband, I said, I think she has type one. And he was like, no, no, no, don't don't go there yet. Let's wait and see what the doctor says. So Monday morning, we went to the doctor's office. They I told them my suspicions about type one, because of my colleague, and they did a finger stick. And you know, it's not good when the doctor comes in the room, but a box of tissues. Really. So yeah, he actually came in and sat down next to me with a box of tissues in hand. I'm like, okay, I can only this one.

Scott Benner 7:45
I feel like that's a move. Like, I I think that's me. I think that's the doctor trying to get out of being the one that shocks you. So you look at the tissues, and you go, Oh, crap.

Wendy 7:58
Oh, yeah, I saw I saw him. He usually just stands there. He's been a pediatrician all along. But he usually just stands there. And he sat down. What about tissues, and thankfully, she wasn't in DKA. But our blood sugar was nearly 700. So we just went straight to the endocrinology office at the hospital and started insulin that day. She didn't have a hospital stay. She had none of that.

Scott Benner 8:22
But you weren't surprised because you figured it out a few nights before.

Wendy 8:26
I did, because thankfully, because of my colleagues, because I remember him telling me his son had you know, diabetes, and he had to wear this pump. And back then it was too late. And he couldn't shower with it and all this sort of thing. And you know, I remember like thinking, Oh, that's all for but not really thinking much about it. But yeah, yeah, there we go. And then go ahead. I'm

Scott Benner 8:48
sorry. I was just gonna ask, do you think that you used one word when you were describing how your husband responded when you said I think may have had type one? And he said yet so do you think that you had talked him into it as well, but he was just like, let's hold out hope and go talk to the doctor.

Wendy 9:02
Yes, yeah, yes. Yeah, he was he was like, let let's not let's not even you know, put that in our mind yet. Yeah, yeah, absolutely.

Scott Benner 9:10
Yeah. Yeah. Even though I'm gonna think that you're right, because that all makes sense. And so you know, hospital stay with a 700 blood sugar. How did they manage that?

Wendy 9:21
They, she, she only had anyone see a 9.4. And she wasn't a DKA. So literally, we went into the endocrinologist office first thing in the morning, and they started us on a sliding scale and insulin.

Scott Benner 9:36
How long sliding scale go for before you move to counting carbs?

Wendy 9:42
Um, I think it was probably a month or so. Like, that's, that's the thing is my husband and I are both engineers. So which was handy and not handy at the same time because you know, give me anything to calculate and I love it. But also as an engineer, when you realize A plus B doesn't equal c all the time. It might today but not tomorrow. That's, that's, yeah, that's pretty easy for us.

Scott Benner 10:08
Not a good feeling to build the bridge and have it be three feet shy of the other side.

Wendy 10:12
Pretty much. It's like, it's like, you know, you've trained all your life for this, you're like, great, I have some math to get into. And then once you start, you're like, but what happened?

Scott Benner 10:22
I'll tell you, I, for me, it was just, I just froze. It was I'm the furthest thing from an engineer in my mind. And, you know, I can remember sitting in the hospital and thinking, this is fine. Like, this is just like, you know, simple math. And then I then I just froze, and I started, I started to cry.

Wendy 10:46
There was lots of tears. There's lots of tears. I think I pretty much go into autopilot. When I'm around the kids and stuff like that, but there was a lot of tears at night. You know, when when the kids go to bed? Yeah, I tend to just really, you know, buckle down. And then when it's overweight, and you know, they're all tucked up in bed. It's it's horrible. It's horrible.

Scott Benner 11:07
No, I know, I just, I just couldn't. And my wife, she got rid of the nurse for me. And she's like, This is simple math, you know this. And I was like, what if I do it wrong? Like I just kept thinking, like, if I do it wrong, I could give her too much. Like, that's just how it felt like sitting there that at that moment, she was so small too. But But anyway, so Okay, so this happens pretty horrifying. You only have you just have the two kids, right? There's like not just two. And so at what point in the next couple of months, do you think oh my god agents got diabetes as well.

So I guess you heard at the beginning of the episode that Arden's blood sugar alarmed on my phone. Here's what's going on. Arden is off to college at the moment, and she's got a head cold. She and I actually just spoke a few moments before I recorded this ad. And I told her what I thought she should do about her blood sugar. And she explained to me what she was doing. She said it's going to be a little low like this a little longer, but I've got it don't worry. So my alarm is set at 65. So just now her blood sugar went to 64. And you heard three beeps. That easy. Arden is also getting alerted on her phone at the moment and my wife wherever she is lovely woman downstairs cleaning. I hope that sounds sexist. I didn't mean that. We're actually cleaning the house today. And so she said she would clean the downstairs. Anyway, that's the point. I also clean the house. Anyway Dexcom alerts and alarms where you set them, right so if your blood sugar's rising or falling, it gets to a certain number. That number you set in your app, you get an alarm just like the one you heard from me. I have Arden's low blood sugar set at 65 I think my wife gets an alarm at 70 Arden's alarm is set at 70. For lows, my high alarm is at 120 ordinances at 130. You can just move it wherever you want, and up to 10 people can follow you with your Dexcom if you like dexcom.com forward slash juicebox you may be eligible for a free 10 day trial of the Dexcom G six. You'll find out that as well as everything else that you need to know about Dexcom at my link, please use it when you head over dexcom.com Ford slash juice box. Guys the Omni pod five is the only tubeless automated insulin delivery system that integrates with the Dexcom G six CGM and uses smart adjust technology to automatically adjust your insulin delivery every five minutes, helping to protect against highs and lows without multiple daily injections. The Omni pod five is currently cleared for people with diabetes ages six and older and you have the option to control it from a compatible smartphone. The Omnipod five is also available through the pharmacy which means you can get started without the four year Durable Medical Equipment contract that comes with most insulin pumps, even if you're currently in warranty with another system. To get started with Omni pod five, all you have to do is go to Omni pod.com forward slash juicebox. And hey, if you don't want an automated insulin pump, but you still want to Bliss, check out the Omni pod dash while you're there. As a matter of fact, you may be eligible for a free 30 day trial the Omni pod dash find out that as well at my link for full safety risk information and free trial terms and conditions. You can also visit Omni pod.com Ford slash juice box. My daughter Arden has been wearing an omni pod every day since she was four years old. And you heard me just say in the Dexcom ad that she's a freshman in college. That's a long time with an insulin pump. And there's one reason that Arden's been using an omni pod for All that time, it works. It does what we expect it to do. It's minimally invasive in our life. And it's easy on the pod.com forward slash juice box. And speaking of Dexcom, before I go, I'll tell you Artemis blood sugar is now 71. So she was right, she knew what she was doing. And even if she didn't, we were connected. So I can see your blood sugar as it got lower. That's the kind of safety and security that the Dexcom provides. There are links in the show notes of your podcast player, and links at juicebox podcast.com to Dexcom on the pod, and all the sponsors, when you click on my links, you're supporting the podcast

Wendy 15:48
literally the day he was diagnosed, because I think I was still reeling from me if and trying to, you know, adjust to that. And just just, I think with Maeve, the biggest thing for me was just trying to show her strength because I knew that this is going to be something she's going to deal with for the rest of her life. And I never wanted her to feel she couldn't do something because of diabetes. So like, even when she was diagnosed, she was in preschool. And I remember sitting there after a week at home adjusting to shots and everything. And I was thinking, Okay, I want to keep her home. And I don't want her to ever leave my side again for the rest of my life. But then I had to say, Okay, if she wasn't diabetic, where would she be? Now she'd be in preschool. And preschool didn't have a nurse didn't have anything. But I thought, you know, I have to do this. So she can feel that she can do things that she's not held back by this because it's not going anywhere. So I remember I would take her into a preschool, do a finger stick, and then I would sit in the parking lot like a creep and go back in that intervals and fingerstick and give her shots. But I pretty much sat in the parking lot for months.

Scott Benner 17:03
All right, well, I did that too. So I'm not gonna judge you.

Wendy 17:06
Yeah, yeah, I did. And you know, by the end of it, I was helping the teacher stuff, stuff and envelopes or, you know, whatever. But I just, I want to start out her feeling capable. And then with Aiden, I never suspected anything. He had been like this Lego programming camp and all that. Remember, pink hit him up and he was tired. And he fell asleep in the car. And I thought, wow, that camp is really wearing him out. And Saturday morning, my husband's off playing golf. And I'm upstairs, you know, doing laundry and I go into his room. And I'm like, Oh, my goodness, he went to bed. And he has never, ever ever wet the bed. He's Just Not That kid. Once he got out of diapers, he was done. Right? And then I thought he went to bed. He's been really tired. He's pale. He's skinny. And I thought nananana so we have a really big take one community here. And I called one of the other mothers and she was like, Look, just do a finger stick on him. And you can move on with your day. You will be paranoid about your other kids. It's gonna happen do a finger stick and you can move on. So I did move on to the hospital.

Scott Benner 18:18
Well, yeah, what was his blood sugar when you check?

Wendy 18:21
Um, it was the meter wasn't reading it, which means it was over 500

Scott Benner 18:25
Yeah. Wow. That's terrible. Well, yeah, I mean, everyone's I always think about that, right? Like, in most cases, that advice you got from that person is 100%. Right? You're being paranoid. You're just seeing diabetes everywhere. Because maybe diagnose just check his blood sugar, so you can stop worrying about it. But every once in a while? Yeah,

Wendy 18:46
yeah. Unfortunately, every now and then it's rice. Yeah, it's where I am. That's the thing is I was trying to adjust to meet and get all that race and absorbed in that. I never even thought about a trial that I even I never even considered that we could have a second child with us. It never was even on my radar because I was too busy trying to cope with one. No, I

Scott Benner 19:07
used to have that feeling as well that um, what happened to Arden like nothing will happen to call because what would the odds of that be, you know, except the more you kind of immerse yourself in this these conversations and talk to people. You know, it's, it's much more common than you think like, even like talking to Jenny. Like Jenny. Jenny doesn't talk about her brother much. But if you ever hear her, bring him up. Like he has like thyroid issues. And you know, and her mom had a goiter and blah, blah. But you don't I mean, like it's it's a it's just the way it works sometimes.

Wendy 19:43
Yeah. Yeah. And both both of my kids now we're showing it's coming up in their blood work that they have Hashimotos but they have no signs. Okay, they have no signs quite yet. But yeah, when Aiden was diagnosed, is a one C was only 8.5. So they were both pretty early diagnosis. So neither neither of them at a hospital stay or decay.

Scott Benner 20:03
What are their TSH levels? You know, I

Wendy 20:07
don't know. I don't know off the top of my head, I would have to look it up and look it up.

Scott Benner 20:12
We'll pay attention to them over two. And even without even without symptoms. It can impact growth. Not if I'm not mistaken, and you wouldn't want you wouldn't want that. You wouldn't want to find that out too late.

Wendy 20:26
Okay, so definitely we'll look at that. Yeah,

Scott Benner 20:29
listen to those thyroid episodes, too. They're they're pretty complete. Jenny and I did a defining five thyroid series. And there's an there's a great episode with Arden's integrative endocrinologist about all about thyroid stuff. So it's worthless. Awesome.

Wendy 20:45
I'll add that to my list. But yeah, like any, you know, new new people, you know that, that we have a local Facebook page just for our local people here. And there is an incredible type one community, which I'm really, really lucky to have. And the first thing I'll do is like, you need to go check out the basics on the juice box, because the way you break down Basal rates and everything with Jenny. Really, really, it's just like bite sized pieces, and it's understandable. It really is helpful. I'm very thankful for it.

Scott Benner 21:22
Well, you're very welcome. But just know that this is the only way I can do it. It just happens to be good for other people.

Wendy 21:29
Well, it's work and keep doing it. Yeah, absolutely. Keep doing it.

Scott Benner 21:32
So you're on the podcast today, for us to learn about your family. And because one of your children has ADHD, is that correct?

Wendy 21:40
Correct. Correct. My son also has ADHD, okay, he's my overachieving child, he has a congenital heart defect as well. So yeah, it's, it's tricky, like the ADHD on top of type one, it's, it's not the combination you ever want. It really isn't, you know, and you worry because there's, there's a lot of impulse impulsivity, like these kids are just so impulsive, and they don't think like the long game, everything is the short game. Now, if they get interested in something, they're all in there, like completely all in. But more often than that, that it's very forgetful. And he also does have some auditory processing. Okay. Which we didn't find out till last year. And I'm like, No, we got his hearing tests done nice hearing is fine. And his hearing is perfect. But how they test for auditory processing is they put you in a sound booth. And you know, the check that you're hearing is okay, it's okay. But then they start layering, you know, words and ask you to pick them out. And that's hard for him. Oh, that is hard.

Scott Benner 22:54
Oh, so if there's a background noise or a din of some sort, and then talking, he, then he doesn't,

Wendy 23:01
or even if, you know, you're calling out multiple commands, that can be hard. Okay, that can that can be really hard. So I didn't understand what it was either. So it's a difference on how the brain is interpreting everything back in, like the hearing is there, the hearing is perfect, but it's auditory processing, how the brain is processing, it is a little little messed up.

Scott Benner 23:24
Wow. So you have to speak to him. Simple sentences, like that kind of stuff, when you're given directions.

Wendy 23:30
That, you know, we started at a new school this year, or last year. To help with that can help with stuff like this. I mean, he does grace, you wouldn't know how to talk to him, but he works better with like giving them one command at a time. You know, like Go brush your teeth when he's finished brushing your teeth to take your medicine, you know, did you dose now when I find is really, you know, you don't want to? It's really hard because with diabetes, you don't want to be asking them constantly. What's your blood sugar did you do? What did you eat? Because they're going to get resentful. And then they're not going to they're going to start, like, bucking the system then because that's all they hear from you is diabetes, diabetes, what did you do? So I like I like to, you know, take a look on Nightscout and I can see what he's doing. And when he's Dorst. So then I'm not asking him I'm only asking him when I see he hasn't done something. Yeah, that's a good idea. Oh, that that's that's something I do. And you know, he's getting sensitive as well. He LD 13 This year, so he doesn't want to hear alarms going off in class. He doesn't want to stand out so there is no school nurse at his school. So I text him, I text him you know, like have juice do this have some protein. And what I do is I set his alarms way higher, and for greater intervals, low alarm So non negotiable on our house, but I will set his high alarm over 300 minus lower. Because the minute I get it, I'll text him and tell him to do something. Okay, but at least then he's not getting continuous alarms all day in class.

Scott Benner 25:13
What happens if that happens that if those alarms were to happen, how does that impact him?

Wendy 25:19
Um, we've had instances of rage for listening.

Scott Benner 25:24
Oh, because he doesn't wear alarm anymore. She just gives himself a ton of insulin.

Wendy 25:29
Yeah, yeah, he wants it to he wants it to stop. He wants it, he wants it to stop. And he wants that to stop now. So, you know, and we've explained you can't do that. So actually, about six months after diagnosis, we took both kids to see a therapist. Because, again, this is a marathon, not a race. I want to make sure these kids are well equipped for this, because it's really hard. It's really taxing on them. So we revisited recently, we started, you know, he started going back to see his therapist again. And it's really, really been helpful. And you know, he's made huge strides. And even being able to, like, with ADHD, they can be very anxious and emotional. And he may not tell me how he's feeling, but he'll react in a certain way. Whereas we've gotten him to the stage where he will text me and he'll say, I'm sorry, you know, I just got really emotional and felt overwhelmed. And the fact that he can text me that is huge. Yeah. That he sees that he can, that he can, he can see it, and he can acknowledge it, and he can verbalize it back to me. Yeah.

Scott Benner 26:37
And so that's from the therapy you think.

Wendy 26:41
I think it's combination of therapy and the school ism. Okay. So he,

Scott Benner 26:47
how did you find the school?

Wendy 26:49
Um, I'm sure with the JDRF. It No, it's really weird. When we figured out he has dyslexia, dysgraphia, auditory processing and ADHD, now he went through the system in school, all the way through, we knew he had ADHD, he got his accommodations, his IEP, everything's great. And then coming up to middle school, I was like, you know, I really want to get a full assessment done, because just seeing a little more than what, you know, I'm not seeing the progress that I should. So we got a full evaluation done privately, and found out all this other stuff. And then I remember there was a lady who worked at the JDRF here in South Carolina, and her telling me her daughter had dyslexia. And she had come across this learning system. And she had helped bring it into some specialized schools in South Carolina, she would it was instrumental in bringing it in. And it's a way to teach kids with dyslexia, and other learning disabilities. So I called her, her daughter had completed a program made huge differences in her life. And I thought, You know what, it may work, it may not work, but I'm gonna give it a try. So the premise of this, it's called Aerosmith. Not like the band, it's a RR O. W. Smith, and it's based on people with learning disabilities. I think the early brain studies show that if you put rats in a maze, those that are stimulated, will run the maze quicker than those that are not stimulated. So basically, it's neuroplasticity, the brain is a muscle. So if you can do certain exercises that will exercise your weaker parts of the brain, that you are strengthening it. And once it's strengthened, it's strengthened for life. And it's going to help you either completely overcome your learning disability, or at least become better. So like, my son has dysgraphia, which is dyslexia is interpreted from the written page into your brain. dysgraphia is being able to get what's in your brain down on paper. And some people have a really hard time they're like, I have it all up here. I can't get it down on paper. Well, that was him. Well, he is writing beautifully passages in cursive now, which is insane. So it's a it's a bunch of different exercises. One of them is it's quite common for kids with dyslexia to not be able to read an analog clock. So one of the brain exercises they do is they start on a regular 200 clock, and I think they work their way up to a chronograph. And they sit there and they will read it and they will be able to tell the time and it's an exercise they to repeatedly for like an hour or two. But it really is working that brain.

Scott Benner 29:41
I'm starting to think that every kid I've ever met must be dyslexic. Because if not being able to read an analog clock is one of the indicators. I don't think I've met four kids that can do it anymore. So really, yeah.

Wendy 29:53
Yeah, it's one of the things that that kind of goes hand in hand like you know, there's a certain age by which you should be able All too, but it's, it's I mean, it's not a pure indicator, but it's a commonality. And yeah, they do all these brain training exercises all day. And it's amazing to see the progress. Yeah.

Scott Benner 30:13
Hey, because Go ahead, go no, no, please because

Wendy 30:18
because for us, I mean, he has ADHD, he has all this other stuff. diabetes is hard. So if we can strengthen his brain and strengthen his memory, then that's going to make diabetes easy,

Scott Benner 30:30
right? So hold on a second, I'm putting all this together, you should see me making my notes again. My handwriting is so bad. born with a heart defect, or developed,

Wendy 30:42
I'm born with it. We, in the middle of the pandemic, took Aiden for his regular checkup at the pediatrician, they noticed his blood pressure was high. And we're like, okay, that's weird. So they told me monitor at home for the next week and call us back with the readings. So I called back with the readings. They're like, Oh, that's not good. He was like, 150, over 90, and all that kind of way. So they were like, that's, that's really not good. So they had a C and nephrologist. And then ufologists, you know, because they're a one C has always been, you know, around the seven mark. It's never been crazy. And we saw the nephrologist, put them on blood pressure medication. Well, that didn't work. They after those that didn't work. So they're like, Okay, we've told everything at this. We need to do more investigation. Now. When they did more tests, they discovered that he had an aortic coarctation.

Scott Benner 31:41
Did they come into the tissues to tell you that?

Wendy 31:46
No, that one was even better, because I went in to you know, we got all the scans all the results. And I'm driving home from the doctor's office from the nephrologist. And I got a phone call. And it's the actual nephrologist himself. And he's like, Oh, I forgot. You're probably still driving, are you? I'm like, yeah, he's like, Okay, I'll call you when you're parked. Like, like, no, it's telling me now. And he's like, no, no, no, no, get home. And then I will call you how long will it take you to get home? I'm like, Oh my gosh,

Scott Benner 32:16
buddy. I've already lived through this story. What do you do? Like?

Wendy 32:18
I'm like, no. So I called my husband. I was like, there's a call coming in. It's not good. I don't know what it is, but it's not good. So on one of the scans, they picked up his aorta as a pinch point that's never grown. So as his heart and his aorta have grown, it was five mil instead of 15.

Scott Benner 32:38
Will they address it at some point? He's had two surgeries so far too. Okay. So every time he gets a bigger I assume they they make that

Wendy 32:46
they go in and stretch us, okay. Like they didn't they didn't know whether they depending on how long that pinch point is. They would either have to resection or they could do a stent. And we didn't know until literally the morning of the surgery, which one they weren't going to be able to do. So they were able to do a stent, but they couldn't go in and stretch from five to 15. Or they would risk rupture. So they did it in stages.

Scott Benner 33:11
How many more of these do you think you'll have to have?

Wendy 33:15
He'll probably have to have another one when he's about 17. But the you know, the cardiologist said his heart was pretty good size. You know, he's he's nearly 13. So if he had discovered earlier, he'd have more surgeries. So they'll have they'll go in and stretch that again.

Scott Benner 33:33
If his blood pressure still high or is it working?

Wendy 33:37
Perfect. That's perfect. They they staged him down off the Amlodipine down to like they had the smallest dose and they had me cutting that tablet and two and he sees a cardiologist every three months and he's doing great. He's doing fantastic. And then they discovered they discovered one of his valves and his bicuspid instead of tricuspid so there could be a valve replacement in his future to

Scott Benner 34:00
Wow My goodness. We're overachievers yeah you guys are he you gathered up all the stuff that no one else can have it?

Wendy 34:08
Listen we go big or go home yeah.

Scott Benner 34:11
I'm just thinking about all the people listening who are like I have to have my wisdom teeth out when I'm 17 you stop complaining get an amen.

Wendy 34:20
I have a friend who has identical twin diabetic girls. And I told her I'm like you want up to me? I had to you had to get two identical. So if we can't joke about it, what can we do?

Scott Benner 34:33
I agree with that 100% So Maeve must just be like sitting off to the side being like how I got out of this release.

Wendy 34:44
Oh, she's a firecracker. Oh, she's an absolute firecracker. That one. That's amazing.

Scott Benner 34:48
Okay, so I want to know about some of these impacts. So where do I start here? So the the auditory process thing has got you to a point where? I mean, because I mean, we all know like you're always yelling stuff about like diabetes across the house right? Like, what's your blood sugar to just eat something? We're having 15 minutes? Did you Pre-Bolus Like all that stuff so? So you you consciously don't do that? Did it become a habit? Or do you have to remind yourself?

Wendy 35:22
Um, some I have good days and bad days. I have days when I'm a good mom and not so good mom. You know, those days when I'm tired, and I'm just like, What did you do? But yeah, you know, they're, like, this morning, he Pre-Bolus and he was doing great, but then he got distracted. So then we had a 40 blood sugar. You know, so he

Scott Benner 35:43
didn't need he Pre-Bolus but then didn't eat.

Wendy 35:46
got distracted? Yeah, yeah. So he, I mean, he's doing fantastic. He's doing his absolute best, but these things happen.

Scott Benner 35:56
Okay. Just give me an example of something that might distract them.

Wendy 36:03
Like OLED, TV, anything.

Scott Benner 36:05
Okay? Doesn't matter. Doesn't matter. Something doesn't matter attention. And he's done that. Okay.

Wendy 36:13
Are he leaves? And then I'll look at Nightscout. And I'm like, you forgot to do this? And he's like, Oh, I'm sorry. I'm really sorry. And then he'll go in and dose. But it's not a conscious decision for him to not dose. And also, he's 12. So, on top of all that, he's his kid.

Scott Benner 36:34
So do you. Is ADHD something that you? Does he take medication for it? Or is

Wendy 36:41
it? Yes, he does. He does. He's a he's been on medication. Way before diabetes. So who takes Adderall XR? Does it help? Yes. Oh, hugely, hugely. I can tell I can tell if he hasn't taken it. And I think for him, it helps too. Because if he's able to focus better, it takes a lot of stress off him and takes a lot of because you know, kids like that tend to do have a high anxiety level. And I think when he can see our you know, he's able to keep up with the class and do stuff better. It makes him more relaxed and better.

Scott Benner 37:22
I see. And then taking the medications on him. It's something he needs to remember to do on his own.

Wendy 37:30
Yes, but I always ask them to check like we have in north a little pill box with the days of the week. So I'll ask him to take it and you know, some days he'll go to school and forget it. I'm like, God bless the teachers today.

Scott Benner 37:44
Do you get notes that they noticed right away, too.

Wendy 37:47
I have messaged and been like, I'm really sorry. He forgot it. And they're like, Yeah, we kind of guessed. I mean, he's not he's not bouncing off walls or anything. You know, he's not incredibly hyper. But he will be distracted. He will he like he needs to be refocused a lot more than if he was taking it.

Scott Benner 38:07
I see. Okay. All right. The boy, this is the part where I'm stopping myself from saying to you, I'm so sorry. All this was happening.

Wendy 38:19
I don't know. No, don't be sorry.

Scott Benner 38:21
I know. I appreciate and I know not to be I'm just saying there's it seems like a lot Are you okay?

Wendy 38:28
Um, yeah. I feel like we're you know, finally coming out of a fog but like, that's the thing is diabetes doesn't just affects the diabetic and affects the whole family. And it's, it's, it's very, very stressful. And it's stressful as a parent that you don't get to switch off you don't drop him to school and come home and breathe a sigh of relief. Because with diabetes, you're always on your on 24/7.

Scott Benner 38:53
You're not drinking or anything, right.

Wendy 38:57
Try not to not.

Scott Benner 39:02
Listen, you have to you have to be everyone's friend in South Carolina, right? Like your accent must be so different from everyone else there. They must just everyone must know who you are imagining.

Wendy 39:14
Pretty much. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. Yeah. And you know, what's really funny is, so I'm getting on my kids. And maybe it's because I get agitated. My accent is stronger. They're like, Oh, Mom, I can understand your Irish accent. And that really gets to me.

Scott Benner 39:31
They do it just to get you do you think? Yeah, absolutely. What did you say? Oh, I would do that. Yeah. Now I'm imagining I would I'd be like, you'd yell at me and go through a whole diatribe and I go, I'm so sorry. I wasn't following what you were saying.

Wendy 39:45
Yeah, and my son tells everyone that his mom is the full Irish. You guys I'm 100% Irish.

Scott Benner 39:54
Was it your intention to name the episode just though? Maybe I'm just going to jot down the full Irish. There we go. So So I hear people, I hear people all the time and tell me, you have to talk to more people whose kids have ADHD and type one because it's so hard. It's so hard. It's so hard. And what I'm always interested in, is that what people think would fill an entire hour of conversation. Because if I had if I had those people on, I said, Alright, ADHD, type one diabetes, what's so hard about it? I bet you couldn't talk for five minutes. And not that it's not difficult. But there's no there's never as much content around an idea as people believe there is. So

Wendy 40:38
while I'm Irish, I already know how to make a short story long. So

Scott Benner 40:46
I've heard that I

Wendy 40:49
did I tell you I was born ordinare. The Blarney Stone?

Scott Benner 40:53
Where are you? Or is that just something you tell people?

Wendy 40:56
No, actually, it's about 20 minutes drive from my mom's house.

Scott Benner 40:59
Oh, geez, no kidding. So you are when did you get to America?

Wendy 41:04
2007.

Scott Benner 41:07
This boy, you married? Was he here? Or did you meet him somewhere else?

Wendy 41:13
Well, I worked for an engineering company in Ireland and England. And they had an office here in South Carolina, and they needed help for a few months. So they were like, can you go over there and help out. So I did. And then while I was there, the lady sitting next to me was like, I know a guy upstairs who would be absolutely perfect for you. Just like when you go on a blind date. So I said, I'm not going on blind date with any weirdo. But I said if we're all going out, and he happens to be in the bar, I'm fine with that. So this was like early January 2008. So in May We eloped and told no one.

Scott Benner 41:49
Gosh. She says, Look, do you ever, ever look that woman up and and go punch her in the face?

Wendy 41:58
Oh, I do blame her. I'm like, thanks. Thanks for that one.

Scott Benner 42:01
Every year. Every year Christmas, I'd write her a long note about all the things that I've been

Wendy 42:09
I could be still touring around Europe.

Scott Benner 42:13
Oh my gosh, you think it meeting people does change your life? That's for sure.

Wendy 42:18
Oh, it does. I have no no intention of Yeah, but more than you know, when you know, you know, I do remember, you know, talking to my mom on a Monday and she's like, what to do with the weekend. I'm like, I got married. She was like you didn't I'm like, Yeah, did.

Scott Benner 42:35
How old were you? Oh, 32 Oh, okay. She probably She probably thought like, I didn't think that was gonna happen at all. So

Wendy 42:44
my brother was like, my brother was like, that's fantastic. When are you due? So I'm like, I'm not. I'm not you're gonna have to wait. But you know, that's brothers far. Yeah.

Scott Benner 42:57
No, my gosh, I didn't know you were pregnant. You should have told me.

Wendy 43:01
That's exactly what he said.

Scott Benner 43:06
Do we not talk anymore? What do you what's what's wrong?

Wendy 43:09
Oh, I call I called one time and I was like, Hey, do you miss me? And he's like, Did you go somewhere? Else or harsh?

Scott Benner 43:16
Did you at least take a picture of the wedding so people can say?

Wendy 43:19
Yes, yes, we did. We had a little chapel thing. I went to David's Bridal on my lunch break, picked up a dress. And there was a photo package with it. I don't like fosse apparently. I don't I don't. I don't want to be that woman who's the center of attention? It just No, no. I think I've just worked in a male dominated trade all my life. And I'm just like, nope, nope. Still get the job done.

Scott Benner 43:48
That's interesting. How long have you been married? 14 years, nearly 14 years. That's not even a little long way to get to 20.

Wendy 43:59
I heard you get out after eight years on good behavior for murder. That's just a statistic.

Scott Benner 44:06
Like, gosh, the other day I was telling my wife all about what what I think we should do for our 25th anniversary. And she goes, you know, that was last August. Right? I was like, Oh, whoops, I still have a lot of good ideas about

Wendy 44:22
your like Lebanon COVID. Oh, sure. Yeah, I was COVID. We couldn't travel.

Scott Benner 44:28
I have a question for you. I've asked one other person on a recording recently. They didn't have an answer, but I'm gonna ask you based on your experience with your son. Now I am not dyslexic. But I received a note from a woman the other day who listens to the podcast and asked me if I if I was Is there anything about me that makes you would have made you wonder if I was dyslexic?

Wendy 44:52
Dyslexia isn't classically what you think it is. It's not like writing your DS and B's backwards. Yeah, no. Oh, it's there's nothing that I would say. But we didn't know my son had it either.

Scott Benner 45:07
Because I and I have to admit, I was I was I wasn't, like upset. I just, I was like, this is weird when like, people send me weird notes and there are times where I'm like, Ha, I never thought of that or times when I think, oh, this person must be drinking while they're writing to make, but I never potentially, potentially, yeah, this looks okay, hold on a second. Is this right? A learning disorder characterized by difficulty of reading dyslexia occurs in children with normal vision and intelligence symptoms and late talking, learning new words slowly delay and learning to read most children with dyslexia can succeed in school with tutoring. That's so that's it?

Wendy 45:45
Yeah, yeah, that's it. I mean, you just the thing is, it's not like you're writing everything backwards or forwards or anything. But one thing like, you know, I like to do a lot of reading and study on this stuff. But like, for dyslexia and stuff like that, like certain fonts are easier to read. So like Comic Sans is a font that is very readable, very, very easy for Dyslexics to read. Because the DMV aren't just mirrored, they're very distinct to each other. Okay. So like, you know, the stuff like that, that you learn about. And also, like, you know, for dyslexia and dysgraphia. One thing about the school that my son goes to is cursive, because it's, it's just one continuous motion. Whereas you're constantly stopping and starting if you do block writing, and then you're finding your point each time, whereas with cursive, it has more of a flow, and it's more beneficial, but they don't teach it in schools anymore.

Scott Benner 46:48
Ya know, nobody knows how to, every time one of my kids gets older and I'm like, Hey, you're gonna we're gonna get you a Mac card now, which I don't have a bank card. I think that's an old term from Philly Mac money access. I forget what the hell

Wendy 47:02
we call it the drink length.

Scott Benner 47:04
The drink link? Yes. I think I think cool. Colloquially, people just say ATM right? But

Wendy 47:12
when I was in my clubbing days, it was called the drink Clink.

Scott Benner 47:15
I'd be honest, this is the part in the episode where everyone who thinks that I'm dirty for some reason, there's gonna be like, See, here he goes again. ATM makes me think of a weird sexual thing that I'm not comfortable with. So I

Wendy 47:29
guess I'm gonna go look it up right now. Oh, yeah. Great.

Scott Benner 47:31
No one Google that. Please. I just seriously, you'll think less of me. And I don't I don't think we need that. But I just say Mac because I grew up with it. But now I don't even remember what Mac stood for. Money access card, money access card, that's gotta be it.

Wendy 47:48
Yeah, I remember like, I had this one friend. We'd go out and you got your you know, the money would go in your account at midnight, like midnight between Thursday and Friday morning. So she'd go out when enough for like two drinks. And then she'd stand at the ATM, waiting for midnight to get her money at it. So she could go buy another round, I think and she would not let anyone near that machine. And it's dangerous sometimes because you find some places where they'll actually put it in the bar.

Scott Benner 48:17
Yeah, that's not okay.

Wendy 48:20
You're like you wake up in the morning. You're like I bought around for who?

Scott Benner 48:25
All this to say, when I asked my kids to sign the back of the cards, you should see the long pause that happens before they go. Here I go. Like I don't know how to sign my name. My son writes, like very small. Like his his letters are very small. And my end audience like Cole writes like a serial killer. And I'm like, I don't think he's just

Wendy 48:49
practicing newsprint. Yeah, it's just so

Scott Benner 48:51
small. When he writes he left handed. No, we have no idea what it's about. So my brother

Wendy 48:57
writes really, really small and nice as well, but he's left handed.

Scott Benner 49:01
Oh, cool. Isn't that neat? It's just my, my handwriting is atrocious. Like, even if I'm printing, like I write things in front of me while while we're talking. And so I don't I don't spell particularly great, because I don't stop to say the word my head. Like I like it's just, maybe I do have something, but that's not the point. Right. So, so like when you say dysgraphia to me, I've never heard that word before, and most people would just do their best to write it down. I wrote down di SGRAP H i is that even Right? Or is it wrong? HIA Oh, I did that. I actually so I got that. Right. Okay. There is an ABN but, but when I wrote it, all I was trying to do was make enough visual cues for myself that while we were talking about it, I could say dysgraphia without having to think about

Wendy 49:57
it. That's just phonetics. I think that's that's totally okay.

Scott Benner 50:01
Do you think that's all right? All sir. So in front of me right now the word auditory. Even when I'm going to read it back to me back to you, I know I made an A, my using my using completed almost looks like a C that's falling to the left the D, the D looks more like a lollipop upside down the next letter, I think I intended to be an eye. And then there's maybe

Wendy 50:28
or maybe you were just meant to be a doctor.

Scott Benner 50:31
The next ones that maybe that was it. Hold on the next one's a T, that looks more like a bee that doesn't have a complete loop. Then there's just a little mark and a y. And I think the Mark was supposed to be an O and I skipped right over any consideration of an R. But when I look at it, I know I mean auditory. If I went back to this a week from now, I don't know if I'd know what it said. Like that's how bad my writing is. So I should put this up online so people can see it. But I don't think anybody cares that much. And it's embarrassing if I'm being completely honest. So, but But anyway, where were we at with that? Jesus? God, that was a long rabbit hole.

Wendy 51:18
Yeah, dysgraphia it's just like, you know, improper capitalization run on sentences and proper spacing, writing off the line and multiple things like that.

Scott Benner 51:30
Oh, okay. Not just not Oh, wow. So structurally not even being able to lay the words out in front of yourself. Yeah,

Wendy 51:37
like, like, you know, you're right, you're writing on the line, but it ends up kind of floating above the line, mid air kind of way. And your spacing in between words is all off way off. So it really is how it's getting from your brain down to your hand. And it's what's crazy is simple things like learning cursive help, because you're developing that muscle memory. It all flows. So it flows, it slows a lot easier for the person. And like when, you know, before we found the school, I went and had all the IEP meetings, and I spoke to all the teachers and all the special ed teachers. And they're like, Yeah, that's great. We'll give them a Chromebook. I'm like, that's amazing. He needs cursive. He needs to be able to write, he can have a Chromebook. That's fantastic. He's not going to have a Chromebook attached to his hand for the rest of his life. Right? How about basic skills?

Scott Benner 52:30
Yeah, we're getting him an iPad that has a pen on it, at least if you're gonna help, you know,

Wendy 52:34
basic skills, you know, stuff like that. They're like, No, no, no. The answer to everything seems to be a Chromebook right now, which,

Scott Benner 52:44
yeah, I was gonna say that, as Arden graduates from high school, and Cole is getting ready to graduate from college, I would say that one of my bigger disappointments about raising kids so far has been the quality of the education they received. In a public school, like I'm looking, they can walk and talk and chew gum at the same time. And they probably know a lot more than I think. But it just, I don't know if it was my expectation, or, or what, but it just, it's not something that I've been completely thrilled with.

Wendy 53:19
Don't get me started on common core math, because that's a nightmare.

Scott Benner 53:23
I don't know, I didn't pay attention at all. My son is in college now and getting some crazy degree. And there are times he'll FaceTime me and hold up his homework. And he'll be like, this is math. And I'm like, there are no numbers on that page anywhere. It's math, and I'm like, okay, good luck. Yeah, you're well outside of my purview. That's for sure. You know, if I were to write a greeting card to you, I've learned over my life, I cannot write it on the card, I actually have to go type it out somewhere first, and then go back and write it down. Because when I write, my thoughts come out, just the way they're happening. And when I'm speaking it, it works fine. But but if you I would imagine reading a transcript of this podcast must be confusing, because I'm a very clear communicator, but I don't speak in a ton of complete sentences. I write thoughts in motion. You know what I'm talking about. I move in another direction I bring you I don't even know how I do it. Exactly. But so when I when I even wrote my book, like I'd I'd write something and then go back and look at it and think, Oh, I started with this thought and ended with this. But what I ended with should have been the beginning. Like my editing process was very strange. And so I can't sit down and write out a card because I'll have to throw it away.

Wendy 54:44
And I don't like writing cards because beyond hope you have a great birthday. That's pretty much where it goes. I'm like, I don't know what you're supposed to write on this thing. Happy birthday happy person. Yeah.

Scott Benner 54:56
When I watch a movie and someone sits down and thought Fully writes a note to someone, and you can see that they're considering every word and how it relates to the last word. I don't have. I mean, I could force myself to do it, but it's not my my natural inclination. So

Wendy 55:12
no, I don't like it either. Yeah.

Scott Benner 55:15
So so your son is? I mean, how do you think of him day to day? Like, what are your biggest challenges, day to day?

Wendy 55:25
Um, I mean, the amount of strides he's made, and the progress he's made is absolutely amazing. And I think he's definitely getting more in touch with his emotions, and why he's doing stuff and acknowledging it and, you know, observing that, so that's really helping what his impulse, you know, his being impulsive. But I guess, I guess just just, you know, like, I text and I remind, and I tried to give them as much autonomy as I can, but I guess it just worries me on the day that if they have complete autonomy to that, you know, cutting those apron strings?

Scott Benner 56:06
Well, that's a long way off, though. But do you feel like you're gonna have to be more involved as he's even older?

Wendy 56:14
I don't know. I don't know. I think I think he's learning some amazing skills right now. And my hope is that no, my hope is that I'll always be there if he needs me. You know, but that he has the confidence and independence to do it on his own.

Scott Benner 56:29
You know, somebody asked me last night, if I was worried about art and going to college, and I have to say, I'm not like I, I worried about it for years when she was younger. And now the times here, I'm not I'm not concerned there. You know, the person was like, have you found a doctor where she's going to come? Like she just picked the place like four days ago? Like, no, like, I haven't thought about that yet. I do have. You know, there's a lovely woman who used to work for the JDRF at the local level, and she's the person who brought me down to Georgia to speak. And, you know, as soon as we said out loud, where Arden was going to school, she's like, I'm, I'm pretty close to that. She's like, I can be her. Like, if you ever need anything I can help

Wendy 57:13
back up. Yeah. And that's the one bright side of diabetes is the community that you find in the diabetic community. It's unlike any community I've ever ever met. You know, something happens, there's always someone there to help. And you really, you're never on your own. I can remember one time. This was about 334 years back, and my son was going for a sleepover. And he was staying at his friend's house. And he's got his sling bag where it's, you know, he's PDM everything in it. And he got super excited and jumped in the pool and forgot about his bag. It was on him. So Friday, on Friday, PDM fried everything. And he was really upset about it. But within four hours, I was back up and operating. Yeah, because I just put something out there saying, you know, he jumped in the pool, but he's PDM whatever thing, are we gonna have to go back to shots? And someone's like, No, I've got a spare PDM call the manufacturer, you'll have it within 24 or 48 hours. In the meantime, here's my backup on, you know, and I really feel that you will find someone Yeah, no matter no matter where you are. It's just I think it's a kinship. Because we all know how hard it is.

Scott Benner 58:25
It's funny, when you started saying that I thought I don't have any real experiences with that. And then I went through it my head, I have put a little girl's pump on in my kitchen for the first time. I've stood in people's houses locally and talk to them about diabetes. I've had a person who we only tangentially know, give us a PDM at one o'clock in the morning. You know, and so I do have all those stories too. And I didn't even think about it. It's not something like I would have thought to draw on but when as you were explaining those things, I thought oh, we've been through all that. And, and had very similar experiences. So I it's very important, obviously. Do you know a lot of other people whose kids have ADHD and type one? One, so it's not that common? No, I don't ask around you

Wendy 59:12
don't think so? Not around me anyway. No, but I do. I do know like, my kids have a bunch of type one friends.

Scott Benner 59:19
Are those children's experiences with I'm sorry, the one person you know with ADHD? Their experience is very similar to yours. Do you find or no not really.

Wendy 59:29
Um, I think a little Think a little

Scott Benner 59:33
so if you if your your best advice on this is therapy, medication and a team

Wendy 59:44
like what we're doing, we're doing you know, we're doing all this neuroplasticity stuff. But I mean, just find what works for you. Yeah, yeah, no, I mean, I guess when it comes to anything that my kids have i i Don't just accept it. I dive into Reese. Search and try figure out okay, what can we do to help this? What can we do to make it better? And if we can't make it better, make it easier for the kids to live with? Yeah. I think I think research is the key.

Scott Benner 1:00:14
I feel the same. I love this idea of teaching his brain. You know, that's just very cool. And that you're seeing results from it is amazing.

Wendy 1:00:22
Oh, yeah. And there's there's books out there published. It's, it's really big in Canada. I think one of the first schools was in Toronto. And like, everything that they do is catered specifically to his cognitive weaknesses. So it's not just everyone goes in and does the same exercises every day. He has a full assessment at the start of the year. They see where there's a deficit, and that's where they focus on. Well, I get that that's what they work on.

Scott Benner 1:00:52
If anybody's interested, a simple internet search of the word neuroplasticity with ADHD, we'll give you a ton of like testing centers and stuff like that.

Wendy 1:01:04
But again, you know, a lot of there's a lot of brain training places that pop up now, and there's a McDonald's office. That's how I'll turn.

Scott Benner 1:01:13
So you found yours through JDRF?

Wendy 1:01:17
Because, lady, I knew her daughter had a learning disability. And she turns out, we brought this program into the schools here. Coincidence? How

Scott Benner 1:01:27
do I figure out who's good and who's bad?

Wendy 1:01:33
Go through an accredited program. I mean, if you look up Aerosmith, you're going to find there's a book or even a TED talk on Barbara Aerosmith. Young her TED talk is amazing. There's books, one of them is called a brain school by Howard Eaton, EA, T. O. N. And it's fully accredited. There's proof out there. Yeah, you're gonna find all these little pop up, you know, clinics and stuff, but I don't know how good they actually are. I'm sure they do some, but they're not as in depth as this and is it expensive? Yes, absolutely. But it's worth it. Because if two or three years of this expense helps him for the rest of his life, then we're going to do it.

Scott Benner 1:02:20
I think that's how I tried to think about college tuition. I just don't like.

Wendy 1:02:27
Yeah, that's when I send my kids back to Ireland for free education.

Scott Benner 1:02:30
We're like, we'll just we'll just, we'll just we'll get through this somehow. And then, you know, as my son's graduating, I said to my wife, I was like, how did we even do this? Like,

Wendy 1:02:41
it's insane. Because like, I got a college degree, and I, you know, yeah, I didn't pay for anything for it.

Scott Benner 1:02:50
That would be nice. I know, I won't tell you what we pay.

Wendy 1:02:54
No, but that's the thing is you get your free education, but you don't get a complete free ride. So if you're not performing, and not doing the work, they'll kick you out make you pay. So you kind of get you get one run at it. Yeah. So like, if you failed your summer exams, you could do the full repeats, to try get into second year. And if you fail, the fall repeats, then you have to go back to first year. And then you're going to start paying, guys, gotcha. So you just you can't just sit there, you know, spinning your wheels for years. So

Scott Benner 1:03:25
your Coast calls all but done. He's doing really well. So it's, it's nice, but geez, it's also been a lot, you know, I think I think it's possible, he'll come home and just sit down for a month, you know what I mean? Like literally just just try to decompress from the whole experience, Ardennes, as we just got done, by the way for anybody who, who doesn't have kids or who are old enough to know this or not, you know, our didn't pick the school that she wanted to go to. And they offered her money at pocket for her academic achievements. And then we said, this is lovely. How do we get more money. And there were ways so you know, art and did extra things to submit that got her somewhere. And then when it was all said and done, we had a lovely conversation with the admissions person and I said, it's still a little too expensive if she has other offers from other schools that are that are less expensive. You you have to you have to come closer to this so that we can say yes to this and they did. So Wow. You know, don't be afraid to ask was my Oh, that's

Wendy 1:04:37
that's similar with the school that my son is in now actually, my daughter is there too, because they run regular classes too. So he does regular class with his peers and these you know, breakout sessions for the neuroplasticity for part of the day buddies were in with his peers for the rest of the day. But because I you know I felt that the regular You know, public school wasn't meeting his needs, I was able to apply for a grant. Oh, wow. And I was able to, you know, it's out there, go look for it, because people don't tell you, but if you go, Look, we got a grant. And then on top of that, you can apply for parental tax credit as well. Because you've got, they don't say a special needs child. They call it an exceptional child. But yeah, we were able to submit for Him. And then I thought, Oh, well, we're not going to be able to, you know, get any of her tuition back because it's private. And then somebody was like, oh, no, you can get hers back because you have her in a small setting because of her diabetes. And I was like, Oh, wow. And that was too

Scott Benner 1:05:42
good for you. Hey, does your husband have anything going on ADHD? Like that kind of stuff? No, no. Okay. No, just just just just lucky. That's all. Yeah, yeah. I think I think that Aiden's body misunderstood the term Luck of the Irish.

Wendy 1:06:03
He also he also has mild scoliosis. But you know, I'll stop right there. The hell out of here. He's serious. Because it's so funny. He swallowed a tiny one time. And he went in for an x ray. And then afterwards, I was looking up the X ray, because it was really cool X ray, because you could actually he was wearing his pump when x rayed him so you could see all the guts of the pump and his skeleton. And then I was reading the notes and it was like mild scoliosis. And I was like, Ah, he doesn't have scoliosis. So I called a pediatrician took him in for a checkup. Yes, he does.

Scott Benner 1:06:37
You guys gotta stop looking. I don't I'm not usually medically, I'm not usually on this road. But just stop paying attention. Just leave

Wendy 1:06:44
this and this. And this is why during the pandemic, we homeschooled because I was like, Look, I know where my lock is. I know exactly where my lock is. I'm not risking anything.

Scott Benner 1:06:54
This COVID is gonna kill one kid. It's this one right here. Yeah, I see. Yeah. Oh, my gosh. Yeah.

Wendy 1:07:03
That's he's just happy go lucky. I mean, he's fantastic. He's a he has, he has an like this. The other thing as well, with dyslexia, they have very creative brains. And Aiden is hugely into the Titanic, and Bob Ballard and any kind of, you know, we watch drain the ocean, at the show on shipwrecks. We love documentaries, but actually saw that Bob Ballard, who discovered the Titanic was he was in the Navy himself. And He credits his dyslexia with helping him find the Titanic. Because they don't, you know, think visually, or, you know, auditory. They think more 3d they think boat. So he said, you know, he was going looking for, I think, a nuclear wreck. And he asked like the Navy while I'm down there, can I look for the Titanic? And they were like, Yeah, but they were like, We didn't expect them to find it. Because they didn't want anyone to know the mission he was on. But he said, like your their systems, their navigational systems broke down. And he was like, no, no, go straight ahead, go this way, do this. And they were like, Are you sure? And he's like, yep, yep, I can visualize it right now. And lo and behold, there was a Titanic. Wow, that's crazy. And he gives talks to children on how dyslexia can be your superpower. A lot of the grace brains have dyslexia. It's not a disability, it's just more of a lateral way of thinking,

Scott Benner 1:08:37
Do you know art and showed me a video last night of I think this little boy had autism. And he had a whiteboard in front of him. And a man off screen I imagined with his father would say the name of a font. Then the kid could immediately without pause, write words in that font, like like, like handwrite a font. And I mean, he must have done six, eight of them in a row, just rapid fire and not like eat like Joker was one of them. And he's making the dots and the lines and everything and just moving right on. I was I was fascinated about it.

Wendy 1:09:15
Yeah, like, like Aiden, he builds a Lego. And I mean, he'll just get it into his head, or I'm gonna build a replica of the Titanic. I'm gonna build this. And he, he'll make like, he's, you know, he plays fortnight and all this and Halo and all these games. And he's like, yeah, so that's the gun that he has. And before I know it, he's stripped one of the pens. He's taken out the spring. He's used like an elastic, and he'll actually make something with a site, you know, where you can actually draw it back and click it on me. This is just what Lego

Scott Benner 1:09:51
I cannot think that way at all. As a matter of fact, if my navigation gets confused on what way my car is pointing, I can stay Aaron stare and stare and think this thing wants me to make a laugh. But I don't know which way left is now. Not not that I don't understand left, but because my you know, the little representation of the car is wrong on the screen, I have trouble figuring it out.

Wendy 1:10:12
I don't I, I am an engineer by trade. I can follow instructions fantastic. But I wouldn't be the most creative person, I don't even doodle, you can put me in a meeting for six hours. And I will not take pen to paper unless it's got a purpose.

Scott Benner 1:10:29
It's really interesting, isn't it? Because as I sit here, right now, if you put me in a room and said to me, how do you think we can help people with diabetes, I have so many ideas that I know will work. And, and I just don't have the I don't have an infrastructure to put any of it in motion. But I know how to help people with all kinds of things that they need. If they're if money wasn't an option, and I had people at my disposal, I could build, I could I could literally build an empire is the wrong word. But like a collection of things that would help people with type one and other autoimmune issues, just off the ideas in my head. But, but if you asked me to write them all down, I don't know if I could do that you would need to sit with me. And let me just talk. And,

Wendy 1:11:17
and that's where like for some kids with learning disabilities, a laptop and a keyboard is actually way better for them. Because it takes away the pressure of writing. And it's more of a float. Oh, okay, and taking pen to paper. So I do have another friend who has dyslexia. And she said, starting on a keyboard was what really helped her because it's like your fingers know where the keys are. Sometimes once you get, you know, once you're used to the keyboard, and yeah, taking a pen to paper is stressful. You know,

Scott Benner 1:11:53
if you asked me if I can type, I'd say I'm a rudimentary typer. But last night, I answered 100 questions online in rapid succession while I was also listening to an episode of the podcast for an edit. And I never once thought about looking at the keyboard, but I don't know you're in the zone. Yeah, I just don't know that. I can type though. Because I yeah, I don't even know like I can type from my brain to my fingers. But I think if you asked me to read something and then replicate it typing, I think I would go very slowly at it.

Wendy 1:12:29
So there's something at the start. Wouldn't know who knows?

Scott Benner 1:12:32
What am I got time for them? I don't learn how to type now. You imagine, took me took me 20 years to figure out what Cordy meant. Look, do you

Wendy 1:12:42
know it messes me up as well as because when I came from Ireland over here, even though it's a QWERTY keyboard, it's slightly different. Really like the shift key and stuff like that. It's slightly different. Okay. Yeah. And also for typing an Irish like the I can't remember the sequence but a lot of fodder on words like the accent. You don't have that on the keyboards you get here.

Scott Benner 1:13:07
Well, I don't even know what father is so funny. Okay. When is there anything we haven't talked about that we should have?

Wendy 1:13:17
They both loop. Oh, cool. Yep. How long? There was nothing. But three years? Wow. Yep. Which definitely with ADHD, it's definitely reduced the amount of time we spent talking about diabetes.

Scott Benner 1:13:33
Well, it's one thing it definitely has helped. At first, I thought three years you've been doing that, like, guy's been doing that for a long time. But then I thought, oh, engineers, you probably were thrilled when you heard about it.

Wendy 1:13:43
Do you know what I was really annoyed at is that when it came to building it, we made the decision. We got the MacBook we got all set up to do it. I got up on weekend morning and my husband was like, Oh, I've uploaded the code. I'm like, I wanted to do the code.

Scott Benner 1:14:00
Had a little geeky fight there in your kitchen. Did you? Like I wanted to do that? Well, you want to come here and do it. I I hate it. Every time I open up. I can't even remember the name of the program. That's how bad li i hate it.

Wendy 1:14:16
What What I really love is the auto bonus. That to me has been a game changer for us. Really, really a game changer. Yeah. Because even if they do get out of line, it brings them back in without me having to be on them all the time.

Scott Benner 1:14:30
Yeah, artists, artists blood sugar tried to go up today at like 715 Probably when she was waking up. And this thing has been hammering at her for two hours and did it do a great job as she back where she was when she woke up at like 85 She's not but she's been 120 to 130 the entire time and she has not intervened. So she's at school. Being a school person, and this thing is is holding her here. My my idea about my idea about understanding diabetes, and knowing how to handle any situation versus once you have that understanding what day to day looks like. That idea is maturing for me. I'm not saying that. I'm not saying, I'm not saying that everything I've said before is bull, I'm not saying that what I'm saying is that if while my daughter's in college, she lives some days with a 121 10 121 25, blood sugar for six hours with stability and doesn't get low later. I'm gonna call that a win.

Wendy 1:15:37
So and that, and that is definitely a concession you have to make, because while it could be perfect, they're already making so many decisions a day. And it does lessen the amount of decisions that we're making. Yeah. You know, because both of mine are in the middle of puberty right now. And I couldn't imagine what their agency will be like, without looping. No, no, my stress levels.

Scott Benner 1:16:00
And all that becomes incredibly important. And again, if you if you told me right now, Scott, go make her blood sugar 85 and keep it there, I could do it in two seconds. Like, that's not my point. And I will, at some point today say to her, hey, look, you know, you could have just made a Bolus right here. And this would have been, this would have been enough, you know, you could have you could have chopped 2025 points out of this number, it wouldn't have been difficult you and you wouldn't get low later. And but that's going to be the next level right now. We're probably only about six or eight months into the after the conversation that art and I had where we were like, Alright, look, you're going to college this year. Let's just, I'm gonna step out of this pretty far. You go ahead and go. And she's been, you know, working it out on her own, and it's gone incredibly well. So, you know, people are always like, How was she going to do it one day, if you've been involved? And the answer was, you won't

Wendy 1:16:58
you haven't? Like, while you've been involved, you haven't been taking it over completely. So you're involved, but you're still teaching her.

Scott Benner 1:17:06
She's heard everything. I've cognitively said everything out loud for years so that she'd be involved in conversation. So yeah, the transition was actually pretty easy.

Wendy 1:17:18
Actually, one of my biggest fears when Aiden was having heart surgery was his blood sugar. I think I was more concerned about his blood sugar than anything. And the anesthesiologist who's kind of in charge of doing all the stuff in the surgery, I was like, well, he's gonna leave his pump and Dexcom off. Because he's looping and he was like, my wife is type one. That's awesome. No problem. Yeah. And they took his phone right in there into the car. And, you know, they, they contacted me if they needed to do anything. And when he was in recovery, which was hilarious, he, he came into recovery. And they're like, Aiden, would you like some ice chips, and he's like, I'd like a burger and fries. I miss breakfast. And they're like, you're in recovery, maybe ice chips. He's like, I want a burger and fries. They got it for him, and he ate it. Oh, that's amazing. Good for him. But the anesthesiologist, he was like, what pump is sent again? So by the end of the surgery, I think he was interested in you know, getting his wife looping. Yeah.

Scott Benner 1:18:18
Well, I completely I, first of all, I love how many options there are now. It's, it's fantastic. Like not everybody is obviously going to build their own yourself algorithm. But between control IQ, next generation control IQ on the pod five, which I haven't laid my hands on, yep. But works, I think, at its core differently than some of these other ones. You know, Medtronic is going to whip out another one at some point, I would imagine. All these options are nothing but good news for people. So they are

Wendy 1:18:49
I mean, if you have to have a sucky disease, it's a good time to have it.

Scott Benner 1:18:52
Yeah, that's for sure. All right. Well, yeah. Wendy, thank you so much for doing this. I appreciate you taking the time. And I hope you appreciate that. I didn't ask you to do that Lucky Charms commercial and Google redundance. Basically.

Wendy 1:19:06
I know I don't use Irish Spring soap. Well, no. Why? Well, yes. And yes, I did kiss the Blarney Stone.

Scott Benner 1:19:15
I guess I would if I was there, right. Yeah, people don't pee on it today.

Wendy 1:19:22
It is an old bathroom. Sorry to tell you. Well, then we make tourists kiss it all day long. So it's amazing.

Scott Benner 1:19:30
I think you're just laughing No. Okay. Well, thank you. I thank you very much. First, I'd like to thank Wendy for coming on the show and sharing her story with us. And then I want to thank Dexcom, makers of the Dexcom G six continuous glucose monitor and remind you to go to dexcom.com forward slash juice box for everything you need to know about Dexcom and even if you'd like to get started with If that's where you do it at my link, same goes for Omni pod five and on the pod dash on the pod.com forward slash juice box, head over there right now and get started. Do not delay, easy to Bliss, automated. It's all waiting for you. Omni pod.com forward slash juice box links in the show notes links at juicebox podcast.com. A few quick things don't forget to go to T one D exchange.org. Forward slash juicebox. And take the survey. Also, we have the private Facebook group for the podcast Juicebox Podcast type one diabetes over 30,000 members right now there's a conversation happening right now in that Facebook group that I swear to you be incredibly interested in just anything you click on. Oh, you want to do it together? You don't believe I can hear that. You don't believe me? If I'm hearing you, Ben. Alright, ready? I'm just gonna roll through real quick. Got a lot of people celebrating diabetes Awareness Month. That's very nice. Did you know November is diabetes Awareness Month? Well, it is. Here's a person who asked me a question about their child who is staying low, even though they're giving them juice boxes 40 minutes old. That's how old the the the witty hot. The post is. There's already nine comments. Scrolling, do you have to wear on the pod five and Dexcom on the same side of the body? If you're interested in knowing the answer to that, and you don't know, you put a little post up in the Facebook group and boom in 53 minutes, you've got a conversation that already has six responses. Here's a cute picture of a small child who had a couple of unicorns today lovely reached 3000 People in the just the last two hours here's an adult who's sick and looking for help with their blood sugar's oh my god, this child is adorable. Who put this kitten here are using deluded human blog and talking about it here with a bunch of people. It's another adult talking about type two diabetes. Somebody asked me for help with AMI pod five. Here's a person talking about how to use their pharmacy and people are helping them. Here's a looper celebrating their blood sugar 25 people and a conversation that is now been going on for two days. Talking about where people get someplace person says they use us med it's just it goes on and on. At the top of the page. There's a feature tab all of the different series within the podcast and the feature tap diabetes variables diabetes pro tip here, variables pro tip Quickstart episodes how we eat. Ask Scott and Jenny defining thyroid type two diabetes stories. Oh my god there's all the ask Scott and Jenny's are laid out here in case you wanna know what the topics were. Here's a bunch of episodes about bolusing for fat and protein. Popular episode list. Here's 20 episodes of me talking with children 10 episodes about disordered eating. Talking about celiac and diabetes nine episodes. There's like all these defining diabetes 44 episodes of defining diabetes on a list right here in the feature tab. I can't just go over there. Facebook. You know, Facebook. You've heard of it before. Juicebox Podcast type one diabetes. Anyway, thank you so much for listening. I'll be back very soon with another episode of The Juicebox Podcast.

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