#554 Kate the Great

An adult type 1, a mom and so much more.

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Scott Benner 0:00
Friends Hello, this is Episode 554 of the Juicebox Podcast. And I am here to welcome you to it.

I hope you guys know me well enough by now, to know that I would not bring you crap. You understand what I'm saying? It's a great conversation with Katie. And I want to give you a little teaser about it. But if I'm being completely honest, I'm rushing to get these episodes together. Mom's having a little bit of a health issue, and I need to get these up on the internet for you. So they arrive when you expect them to. But I don't have a ton of time. So Katie's cool. She has type one diabetes. She's had it for a long time. She's gonna talk to you about a bunch of stuff. If I'm remembering correctly, she was pregnant during this and yes, indeed, I have a follow up email from her to let you know how it's going or how it went. And I mean, listen, trust me is a great conversation. You're going to spend the next hour absolutely enjoying yourself with your headphones on. Please remember, while you're listening that nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast should be considered advice, medical or otherwise. Please always consult a physician before making any changes to your healthcare plan, or becoming bold with insulin. And if you want to keep somebody in your thoughts today, my mom's name is Beth. This show is sponsored today by the glucagon that my daughter carries g vo hypo pan, Find out more at G Vogue glucagon.com forward slash juicebox. This episode of the podcast is also sponsored by touched by type one, they just want you to head over and check them out. Touched by type one.org. They're also on Facebook, and Instagram. And by the way, the dancing for diabetes extravaganza. You know about it. If you don't head over to touch by type one.org to find out but if you do know about it, and you want to get tickets, they're available right now. The big event is on Saturday, November 13 at 7pm. It's in the Walt Disney theater at the Dr. Phillips center in Orlando, Florida touched by type one.org Tickets are on sale now. They are not expensive dance fans head over. If you're not a dance fan, you just want to support a super great organization helping the people with diabetes. Do it super great. Not a real word. I'm sorry. I'm rushing links in the show notes links at Juicebox podcast.com.

Kate 2:39
Alright, well Hi, my name is Kate. I am 38 years old. And should I just go through a little brief synopsis of my

Scott Benner 2:52
I I you know, I think it's time for me to complain. I love screwing with people and just being like, go Introduce yourself because I'm so interested to see who will like some people are very worried about the content. Some people are worried about saying too little too much. I'm all fascinated by you have to say just keep going. How old were you when you were diagnosed?

Unknown Speaker 3:10
I was 18 that was 20 years ago. Right? It was? Yeah. carry the one. Yeah, I found out right before our prom my senior year in high school, huh?

Scott Benner 3:25
That's not fun. And it

Unknown Speaker 3:27
was typical standard signs losing weight really thirsty vision issues when I when I had always had perfect vision. In fact, my friends thought that I was believing because I was still eating so much but losing so much weight so that there was an intervention regarding being bulimic and I you know, of course ended up not being that my stepfather at the time was a emergency room physician and swore because I played a lot of sports outside tennis and softball and and we were living in Georgia at the time, which of course is hot weather and he saw that I was dehydrated. So he hooked me up to an IV in my room because of course being a physician have all of those materials at the house and my mom was a are still as a labor and delivery nurse. So she also for having two clinicians at home had a urine sample cup and so they had me do that. And she brought that into work that evening. And then we got the call that I was you know on the verge of going into a diabetic coma and I should get in right away and something else my stepdad at the time had given me with some sort of like, relaxer Um, so driving to the hospital I was just in this days of like, I don't know, trying to see like some sort of a triangle And so I vaguely remember being in the hospital even though I was 18. I kind of just remember it's so weird. I've had so many endocrinologists over the time over the years, and I don't remember a whole lot of names, but I do remember his, um, and he's Canadian, too. He had a, you know, different accent, of course, very different than most of the people in Georgia. And he had held my hand and said, You know, this was an opportunity for me to become an endocrinologist and to develop a cure. And that would be very, you know, critical to that development. I always think back to that conversation at one point, I had thought about going to medical school, and then you know, going into the specialty, but then the thought of being in school for that long deterred me.

Scott Benner 5:53
The empowerment of one Canadian well, meaning man did not overwhelm you that much.

Unknown Speaker 5:59
No, yeah. So I, you know, I and I always go back and ask my mom, like, do you think that that was relevant? And I think, looking back now, I would have said it was relevant. But of course, as an 18 year old who is like, slightly drunk. I really think I can do it

Scott Benner 6:16
as an 18 year old on tranquilizers in DK. Yeah, exactly. He didn't feel like Career Day to you. Right? I can see I can see the, the desire from him. You know, like your pet your family's in medicine. He's probably trying to make you feel like, you know, here's, you know, an empowering moment and everything like that. He didn't know that. Your dad had whacked you out of your head. And you didn't know. You know, it's funny, as you're telling that story. A friend of my daughter's has two nurses, for parents. And I remember one time on a FaceTime call when she was sick, she had the flu or something looking at her, and she was on an IV in her bedroom. And I remember thinking, like, what the heck, and my daughter's like, Oh, yeah, her parents are nurses. And I was like, No, I didn't know that meant you could take it home with you. But yeah, exactly.

Unknown Speaker 7:07
And this was, you know, however many years ago, so maybe not possible anymore. But you

Scott Benner 7:15
think your dad just walked out with it just slung over his shoulder? Like, I'm just leaving with this stuff? And they're like, exactly. It's the 90s you can do whatever you want. Yeah, I don't know. Well, okay. That sucks. But how did you make out afterwards? Did you? Did you bounce back? Or was it a rocky ride?

Unknown Speaker 7:32
Um, it was, I mean, I think probably similar to a lot of people's stories at you know, I didn't. At that time, of course, there was no loop. There was no Dexcom it was manual injections. And I think the hardest part for me was just the timing of it. At the end of my senior year in high school, and I was getting ready to leave for college, and you know, just a few short months. And so I think that was really hard for my mom. And you know, leaving me at the dorms with this newly diagnosed disease. I don't know that I handled it the best that I could in college between beers and pizza and hamburgers and french fries. And then, I'm surprised that worst things didn't happen before that, you know, they they did. And I had a seizure. I think my first seizure when I was in, after a long night of partying in Spain when I was studying abroad there. Um, I think that was my sophomore year of college after my sophomore year of college, and then that was kind of like my wake up call, like, I need to get a little bit more serious about this.

Scott Benner 8:47
Hey, studying abroad is code for drinking in another country, right?

Unknown Speaker 8:51
Yes. And, let's see, then, the fast forwarding a little bit, let's see I you know, I started to clean up my act. I after college actually moved abroad to Peru. So I studied finance in Spanish in college and really the amount of Spanish that I learned while in Spain was minimal. And so I decided that I needed to go on my own somewhere and that I had a teacher in college who we used to be the former director of the an English Institute in Trujillo, Peru. So I've moved there. And then my best girlfriend shortly followed after and then I was on the time I was on the I think Medtronic 512 pump and which they said at the time that it was waterproof. I can't remember what else but I ended up on a trip and like a remote beach in northern Peru and the pump broke and of course, I'm What was I 21 traveling by I mean literally like one of those jansport backpacks so I didn't have the pharmacy with me so I had no I had no insulin I did have a syringe I think was what I had with me and then we would plug that into the vial from the pump or what I was using to refill the pump is maybe what it was I can't remember now it's been so long but and then every like hour and a half giving myself insulin until we got it was an eight hour bus ride back to Trujillo because there was only one doctor in this town and he knew nothing about diabetes. I remember calling my stepdad on the phone just in tears because I'm like, what did people do here in Peru? Do they die? And I think they do at that time I think they did die from diabetes like you know back in the early 1900s so I thought that my trip was ending short and I was coming back to the US and after discussing with a private clinic in Trujillo what I needed they found what is it called like an NPH insulin

Scott Benner 11:14
like regular and mph you were probably never on that though.

Unknown Speaker 11:17
No I was never on and that's the one we're like has a peak 30 minutes after you take it Yeah, yes so they gave me that and it was like a used vial that they had already had and it was in the refrigerator I mean it's so weird but they like showed it to me like is this what you need?

Scott Benner 11:32
And so

Unknown Speaker 11:34
yeah, so I started taking that of course they didn't explain it to me about the 30 minutes I had no idea there you know I ended up having a seizure in Peru which is I don't recommend to anybody and go into a public hospital my best friend who you know found me in the kitchen was terrified

Scott Benner 11:52
I'm waiting for clarity you do not recommend having a seizure in Peru is that right? Yeah, so what was happening is you were taking that insulin the way you were taking your previous insulin but it didn't work anywhere near the same way.

Unknown Speaker 12:07
Exactly. Okay. And because I had no guidance I mean from them they didn't know I'm

Scott Benner 12:13
the doctor that gave you an open vial of insulin was no help Ah, yeah.

Unknown Speaker 12:19
It was better than having to get on the next flight back to the US but

Scott Benner 12:23
yeah, cuz that was Your other option was to get on a plane and go into DK in the sky and just hope somebody comes and scoops you up at the airport right?

Unknown Speaker 12:30
What am I yeah guess I could have you know I could have made the I think it was I think is eight hour bus ride to Lima I could have done that and maybe there would have been a private clinic there that would have been more advanced

Scott Benner 12:42
Yeah, okay. But

Unknown Speaker 12:44
yes, it was quite the quite the experience well I opted to not well I couldn't go back on the pump at that point and then when I did come back to the US I there was a boat trip and for the week like a memorial day weekend trip and I think that was like right as Medtronic release oh you we said this was waterproof but it's not and I said okay, I'm not doing the pump thing anymore. I hated the the cords the cables the wires and trying to figure out where to best wear it. It may I hate figuring out what to wear every day and that just made it extra challenging. Gotcha. So at that time, I went off the pump and I stayed off the pump until I after having my second kiddo

Scott Benner 13:32
after the second one. I love how some of you diabetes old head say the pump By the way, just in case you're wondering. I love the pod. I know not even that just like a pump. It's like the pump. It's a weird I love it. It's absolutely hearing but you don't realize that it's other pumps? Well, I just that younger people don't seem to say it the same way they speak. And I think it's because at some point in history, there was a pump, which made it the pump. You know what I mean? Like you go on the pump. It's not like there were 10 of them. And you're like, Oh, we didn't have choices. Yeah, there were no choices. I just I think that's the right one. I mean old had in the nicest way. Like you've had that. Yes for a while. Yeah. Which to me is a is a absolute Badge of Courage. So I think of it as a great thing, but I just have always please it always just delights me to know and so you so how long is it from leaving the pump? until you've had your second kid?

Unknown Speaker 14:28
Oh gosh. Huh. That was around 21 until my second kiddo now is two and a half.

Scott Benner 14:40
I can't believe you sat still long enough to have children because it sounds like you were on a med terror as a young girl. Yes,

Unknown Speaker 14:47
I mean, I traveled all over the world like my work travels brought me all over the world. I enjoyed myself for quite some time and didn't really find my person until much Later in life so

Scott Benner 15:01
I just feel like at any point in my life if you would have said to me Do you want to go to Peru I would have gone No. And that would have been

Unknown Speaker 15:11
I have loved to travel and I have never let diabetes hold me back. In fact, I love listening to some of the especially the one about the daughter who I think it was went to Mount Everest maybe that was really interesting to me because right before we found out I was pregnant with the first I actually had my trip booked to do the Annapurna circuit in Nepal. And the this scariest part I guess from my partner, my now husband, but partner at the time was that I wanted to go by myself I'd had the trip planned before him and I met and him knowing I was diabetic and you know, some of the things that could come up in high altitude etc. He insisted on going and so it was last minute, we decided, Okay, fine, you can come with me. And then I think it was like that weekend he got the approval for work, you know, from his work to be gone. And we're about to book it when we found out I think it was literally like that Tuesday we were going to book his trip on Wednesday. So I ended up not being able to go do the Annapurna circuit in Nepal, but maybe one day but that that podcast was really helpful because of you know, high altitude challenges and what equipment to bring extra equipment and all of that it's

Scott Benner 16:35
interesting that I've that the girl's mom has been on and told that whole story, but I can't seem to get her to come on. Oh, really? Yeah, I

Unknown Speaker 16:42
heard the mom episode. Yeah, I've

Scott Benner 16:43
given up on trying. I just I don't I think it's just something she doesn't want to talk about. I'm not certain back then she was writing articles about it. She was everywhere. And I couldn't get her to come on the podcast. So I was like, Oh, I think the

Unknown Speaker 16:54
mom Isn't she a journalist? She is Yeah, yeah. Well, maybe it's she doesn't like her voice. Um,

Scott Benner 17:01
I don't know. I would love to hear that story from her from her mouth. A couple of people. I can't get that. I'm baffled by Mike. Wait, you won't do this. Right. Okay. We'll figure it out one day. How so you haven't been married that long?

Unknown Speaker 17:18
have not been married that long. You're living my dream life.

Scott Benner 17:21
Minus the proof.

Unknown Speaker 17:24
We have crunched so much into the time that we've been together. It's ridiculous. I mean, since 2000, or seem, we have built a house together had two kids together. And now pregnant with our third.

Scott Benner 17:45
It turns out when you're older, have good jobs and a little money saved. Life's not that difficult. Yeah, we need a house. We'll just make one here. You want to have a baby? It's got to be easier than that time my insulin pump stopped working on a beach in Peru. Sure. Why not? You have a much different perspective. It's that's a really nice story. You are what I point my children towards. I'm like 30 years old at minimum before you're really serious with anybody. And yeah, I think they look at my wife and I and they're like, yeah, don't worry. We see you guys have been together for freaking ever and somehow aren't that old. That's I think that's really cool. So yeah,

Unknown Speaker 18:28
but I am going into this third pregnancy and I, you know, have a few gray hairs now. And I'm like, I'm just really tired. I can't believe that I'm going to have like an infant almost going into my 40. So that's a little scary.

Scott Benner 18:43
Oh, no, after doing a lot of things, right. You screwed this last bit up, but I didn't want to was fine. Kate, what were you doing? No, no. I my wife said to me a number of years ago, she's like, what if we just had another baby right now? And I said they'd probably kill me. There's just the staying up at night is a lot of what it was like, I don't know that I can like there's part of me that thinks I figured out diabetes so I could sleep.

Unknown Speaker 19:09
Yeah, and that I can't imagine being a parent. I always you know, now that I have kids, of course, I'm really emotional. Whenever I hear kid stories and thinking about folks that have to go through their, you know, two year olds and even younger being diabetic. I'm like, I would never sleep

Scott Benner 19:27
never. There was a lot of writing

Unknown Speaker 19:32
it in fact, it wasn't until our our second kiddo who he never slept through the night until he was like 13 months old, and I was a walking zombie. And there were times where people were like, Do you need help, I'm going to come stay the night and I'll get up with them. And even then, because I was just still on my injections, but I was wearing a Dexcom and the alarms would be going off all night. So even though they were helping me I still couldn't even sleep because I was postpartum my numbers. Were still Like I'm losing weight, but I've also breastfeeding so my, you know, my, I'm burning calories that was just like a weird I always struggled a little bit postpartum with my blood sugars and figuring out, you know how to keep it. I mean, it's like a daily adjustment and then on top of the baby not sleeping through the night for 13 months, that is when actually I found your podcast. I don't even know how I found it honestly. But that is when I decided to get on the Omni pod and then eventually go to the loop. There were some logistical challenges and getting on to the loop. And also wanting to be on the on a pump again, I just always refer to myself as like this diabetic robot and I didn't want to have to wear another device and, um, and wanting to wear a bikini and not have all these things on me. But of course my like my bikini days are over and worrying about that. So less of a concern and it was really only about fleet at that point.

Scott Benner 21:02
I thought you were a humble bragging there for a second. I thought you were like, yeah, I had two kids in my 30s I'm pregnant again. And I do get into a bikini still. That's where you were quietly going with that like everyone just just you know, feel jealous now okay.

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Unknown Speaker 23:23
Yeah, and in fact, the kiddo was probably like the least of it because at least I couldn't feed them and go back to sleep but you know the blood sugar thing wasn't just high or low I mean it was like a roller coaster all the time. I just um yeah, I had challenges and luckily my undergrad my endocrinologist at the time. In fact I think I found him I had like a real nasty and archeologists I I live in Nashville, Tennessee and when I first moved here in 2014 I just found one that seemed like was a good one and she ended up not being one and then you know I kept trying to find the right one so it was kind of like this revolving door. I mean, I wish that for all diabetic especially type one diabetics that there was like the the pediatrician interviews like when you find your pediatrician, you can go out and schedule these like 1520 minute interviews to see if it's the right pediatrician and I really feel like you should be able to do that for endocrinologist too. Because it was it was really challenging to find the right one and event there you know, I believe in signs and things happen for a reason and I was at a friend of mines birthday party and back when you had those things, and she there was another girl there and I noticed that she had an omni pod device on her arm. And so I started talking to her about diabetes under her knology or and finding the right endocrinologist. She Manjit oh and she also used to be an omni pop rep so she knew all the endocrinologist in the area and she mentioned the doctor that I see now and he's just been great like he's the one that said okay you know why don't you just wear you know the all your ads about just do the Omnipod trial so I was I was like okay this isn't you know so bad and then listening to the the loop conversations on the on your podcast I'm like that is what I need like I don't I need to figure out how to make this work so that I can sleep again and it was like light years change for me just to sleeping through the night and not having the Dexcom going off all the time.

Scott Benner 25:43
No kidding well it's so it's interesting too because you've had a long history with diabetes where you didn't have any of that technology where you could visually see it and then you bring the Dexcom in but you're still doing shots so the Dexcom to you in the beginning probably just felt like oh good a visual representation of how poorly I do with this is that how

Unknown Speaker 26:03
or no I wasn't doing so poorly I mean actually, I got on well I'm gonna say that and you're like well that sounds pretty poor but I was traveling so much for work this was in my late 20s I was traveling a lot for work like all up and down this was just nationally all up and down the East Coast and assassin for hire the actually people used you know would say make jokes about that just because I was flying you know diamond level or whatever Delta now and now of course because there's been no trouble for a year I'm just a peasant and coach but the stories of for my travels were one time I had them pick me up in the limo at I think it was a limo It was a car I mean still it was nice they like literally before everyone started you planing a guy in a suit appeared and he said are you you know Are you okay? And he took me down to this private car so I went down like where they bring up the luggage and they took me to my next gate well it only happened once but I mean at one point I was um

Scott Benner 27:15
you were you were going good there for a while now

Unknown Speaker 27:19
Now I don't want to travel because I'm just you know in like the middle seat in the back

Scott Benner 27:25
it's easier when someone else is paying for it That's for sure.

Unknown Speaker 27:27
Yeah, so well so anyways that you know I I was having I was going through this really rough time I mean not even looking back I wish that my endocrinologist at the time was like well let's look at your whole because I was on that I was on an injection so but it still they could have changed my basals and they could have adjusted maybe when I took the and you know split them up or something but I was having seizures my blood sugar was getting too low at like three in the morning and I was dead asleep so I'd wake up in this fog like even walk to the refrigerator to get something to eat and end up having a seizure in the kitchen. One time I hit my head in the bathroom and so I didn't want that to happen while I was traveling. Um there was a time I remember going from my hotel room not having a snack with me that was bad you know bad preparation which of course would not happen now. Um but I had to walk to the vending machine on like a different floor I'm in my pajamas in a hotel at like two in the morning I mean so I ended up getting on the Dexcom because of that and so that stops me from having you know at that time Gosh, I was having like had like 10 seizures and they actually thought that maybe I was epileptic so they did a sleep study and it was just bad basil control Yeah, that's really what it was and

Scott Benner 28:53
we go way too much Basal insulin without you using way too much basil and so on like what are the deck Yeah, I'm showing you

Unknown Speaker 29:01
I think that's what it was I honestly don't remember um, but with the Dexcom I mean that was also what years I remember that was like I was probably in my anyone sees then at that time was like 6.2 6.3

Scott Benner 29:21
you were low a lot though. Right?

Unknown Speaker 29:24
And I was low a lot in the middle of the night. Yeah,

Scott Benner 29:27
that's how you kind of you had cheated that they once a little bit the test.

Unknown Speaker 29:32
And then I got on the Dexcom and then I went from like a 6.2 to like a 5.8

Scott Benner 29:38
and you don't pass out anymore?

Unknown Speaker 29:41
I don't I don't think I've had a seizure since

Scott Benner 29:44
should we knock on something just yeah, I'll knock on wood somewhere. Want to be the one who's like, you know, like the sports announcers like that guy hasn't given up a touchdown and oh, touchdown like it I don't want to be the one to jinx you. Yeah. But but that's amazing. Just to have That well I bet you feel differently about being a robot now.

Unknown Speaker 30:03
Yes. Oh I when the technology isn't working like I've been having some Dexcom challenges this week and I've been on the phone with their support people with for a few days this week. I mean, I I'm so like, this is so critical to my well being and I think I was like a sob story on with their support. But I'm like, you know, I woke up with a blood sugar of 303 this a couple of few nights back because the Dexcom sensor, you know, the message that you get when the sensor is nearing expiration, um, like, you know, connecting, what is it set center morning, connecting in three hours, or whatever it is,

Scott Benner 30:46
and when it's over?

Unknown Speaker 30:48
Yeah, and it didn't connect all night. So my blood sugar, I had had a low before going to sleep. And then I ate some ice cream, which was also a poor choice. Knowing that I don't always get that exactly right. Yeah. Um, but you know, I had a dinner with a little bit of fat in it. And so that's what caused my blood sugar to go low, because of the timing of it, which is what I what I'm struggling with a little bit in this pregnancy right now is the timing of the insulin. And so I on top of the dinner, and then the ice cream, of course, my blood sugar Shut up. But anyways, I was on the phone with them. And I'm like, I can't be pregnant and have my blood sugar at 303. Like, this isn't gonna work. They were convinced that it wasn't a transmitter problem. And I was telling him it was a transmitter problem. So I ended up changing the transmitter and then everything was fine. I called them the next day. I'm like, Look, this needs to be fixed your if your transmitters aren't going to run for three months, don't have them at a three month term, so that my insurance only pays that have to be a two and a half months. Did they replace it? They did. They're sending me a transmitter and a sensor. Yeah, I

Scott Benner 31:55
found. What do we have something recently one of them got stuck. And they send us to, they're like, here, here's an extra one for the trouble. And I was like, Oh, yeah. And I was like, thank you very much. I've also had that where I took a sensor off one time. And I called in and I said, Look, I'm I know how to use these things. And this one doesn't work, you know, so we switched it. And I said, I'd like you to replace it. And he goes, Well, if you would have called in, I would have told you it was working. And I was like well, that would have run counterintuitive to the fact that I didn't have any numbers here. And I would have told you no. And he just like, like he pushed back. He was doing his job. You know what I mean? And I stopped him and I said, Listen to me, I am not on the phone trying to scam you out of a sensor. Is that what this is about? like is that what this line of questioning is about? I'm like, I know how to do this. I never call about replacements. We overall my daughter's Dexcom last 10 days constantly, which must infuriate people don't have the same experience. But we make it to 10 days all the time. We're really good at you know, sometimes it is user like, not error. But a little bit of anything gets bumped or something you just don't know like what you're doing. Sometimes you don't know how to like work things out. Like for instance, while you and I are recording. Arden is down to her last unit and a half and our pump. And like so we're getting every minute every ounce out of that pump. And you'll hear people say, Oh, my pumps don't last very long. Like, you know, like, you kind of get it after a while. So I just made the point that I'm like, Look, I'm like, just send me another one. And then he was like, okay, and you just realize like, it's his job to make sure you're not shaking them down.

Unknown Speaker 33:33
Yeah, like they see the medicine questions. Where do you have it? And like I have it in the same place. I always have it.

Scott Benner 33:39
Some of that's for the FDA. Yeah, those questions the FDA makes them ask some of them's for their own collection of data. And some of it's just to make sure because when you're when you're an honest person, you don't recognize how many people aren't, or how many people might be in a situation where they can't afford it. So they're just trying to get an extra one somewhere. Right, that that goes on constantly. Anyway, right? I'm glad they sent you on.

Unknown Speaker 34:01
Yep. I mean, I think that they're really great. And I want them to do as well as possible, obviously, because of you know, it is so critical to my well being and when I am with like in that the two hour window when it's warming up. I mean, I feel like I'm naked.

Scott Benner 34:16
Yeah. And that's something How long have you had it?

Unknown Speaker 34:20
The Dexcom or

Scott Benner 34:21
Yeah, CGM.

Unknown Speaker 34:22
So that was when I would have Yeah, late 20s. So it would be we have probably about 10 years now.

Scott Benner 34:32
10 years you've had it. Wow. So you had like the first Jeff Dexcom? Four or seven plus? Which? Where did Where did

Unknown Speaker 34:40
I Where did I start? I don't remember where I started. I'm on the six now. Yeah. Wow, that's

Scott Benner 34:45
crazy. I I listen, I have to agree. It's the single most important thing that we have. Yeah, and I want nothing but success for that company.

Unknown Speaker 34:55
I know. I know. And when I forget how I forget his name right now, let's just work. But the I think it was the CEO that you had on and he was shocked yes Kevin how I'm having folks in the hospital where I think it was you know around COVID and all that and how how great would that be for those folks that are in there to be on a Dexcom rather than getting finger pricks would be incredible and connecting that into which is my line of business into the electronic medical record in the hospital so that the you know nursing and staff are just getting alerts in the same EMR that there yeah, that they are getting alarms for everything else and so that they see those trends would be incredible like you know, BM for people on steroids that does such a you know has such an impact on your blood sugar's and I'm just getting a spot check every once in a while we know that that's not effective I

Scott Benner 35:55
always think through that that that exact scenario is such a great backdoor way of training medical people about how insulin works and what it looks like for real to have type one diabetes or diabetes of any kind to be able to really see blood sugars you know how valuable that would be to a nurse they how much they learn from watching your blood sugar's then what they can apply to the next person that they met. Exactly Yeah, it would be such a big deal I oh

Unknown Speaker 36:18
my gosh, I remember I cannot remember which kiddo it was but

Scott Benner 36:23
you've passed out 10 times in your life

Unknown Speaker 36:26
so there was one after we're having one of the kiddos they had me Oh I know it was the first one because that one I actually you know went through a long labor and all that but they hooked me up with what you know whatever glucose to give me to keep my blood sugar from going low because it was an eating all that and after having the kiddo and then after you know eating and getting that on they never turned it off. So then of course I spiked um it's like come on, come on people.

Scott Benner 36:57
Now they don't they it's hard to get them to understand I just interviewed somebody yesterday who is a fairly newly minted CDE who says they work at a really great institution and still the level of what people don't understand is shocking. So hey, um, is there any chance you heard the pro tip that I just put up with Jenny about postpartum no not yeah I'm just thinking as I'm as we're talking I'm like I never do this but I should have sent Kate an email last week and said hey, can you listen to this ahead of time but

Unknown Speaker 37:28
yes oh I will I'll that'll be my priority today at some point to listen to that because that is just where I struggle.

Scott Benner 37:35
Well you have so you've had this is your third right and first pregnancy MDI?

Unknown Speaker 37:42
Uh huh exactly Yep. And then and it was and here's the reason I you know, I stayed on that throughout even the next pregnancy was because I think my agency was like 5.2 at the end of the pregnancy and so my good my maternal fetal medicine my high risk ob I mean she was like if this is this is working let's not change it I'm not gonna afford to you know ask you to go on the pumper change anything if you're doing so well in fact my husband was like, we need to just keep you pregnant. So yeah,

Scott Benner 38:16
he was kidding

Unknown Speaker 38:18
yes and no thank you like the getting their pregnant the trying to

Scott Benner 38:23
get pregnant tell him we can do that without me having to carry baby for night? Or honestly, is he not allowed to do that unless you're making it No,

Unknown Speaker 38:31
no, no, but um yeah, who knows who the listen to this of parents or you know whatever will listen to this but he's kidding

Scott Benner 38:41
when I say that you're saying personal people in your life you don't want to think you're not putting out is that what this is a very 90s way of thinking about it you know, the kids don't think about things it's much more fluid now. It's it's not your job to give anything away. It's his job to earn it from you. What do you think for a while, and that's not how it works. Anyway, if your parents are listening Hi, what's up?

Unknown Speaker 39:09
Yeah, so yeah, and talking about parents it's funny because you know, my first pregnancy I told my mom You know, my mom is a labor and delivery nurse and so she sees pregnancies that don't go well or deliveries really that don't go well. People that take care of themselves and people that don't and how things can go south and I think my mom is still or was anyway still in like Steel Magnolias days and that you're, you're gonna have a baby and you're gonna die. So the first pregnancy was went so well. I mean, it really became like a second. A second job full time job, though, and managing my blood sugar's to keep to be at that 5.2 um, a lot. I mean, at the end of the pregnancy, it's just so many physician appointments. I'm staying on top of the blood pressure. And all of that and then of course the postpartum challenges which I'll listen to that episode with Jenny. And she's great. And I've learned a lot of things or at least that like validate some of the challenges I have so I don't feel so alone and you know some of these things

Scott Benner 40:16
yeah, I can't tell you how often I hear that. That was another thing about the podcast I didn't expect like I expected to tell people things that they didn't know. And that happens but I never expected that just saying something that somebody would go Yeah, that's been my finding to how valuable that feeling is. I didn't I didn't recognize that at all. And Jenny is terrific. But yeah, so so the first pregnancy goes well you're on MDI you've got a nice low a one c so it goes well on paper but Did it go well otherwise fetal birth weight was where you wanted it stuff like that.

Unknown Speaker 40:49
Yeah, everything was really great I mean I did have a like a 13 hour labor and which you know I even got to the point I was having contractions I think like every two or three minutes but baby's heart rate kept falling down and so when that happened like the third time were dropped substantially the whole team came in and said okay, we're moving into an emergency c section and so that was it and then um, but baby was healthy I was healthy I just I just had some challenges with like the roller coaster after baby and that and that baby was also sleeping through the night at 11 weeks so that was perfect to and that is extremely helpful in getting better and like being more stable when you're up every like two to three hours it's hard to to know which way is up or down.

Scott Benner 41:42
You find your intern insulin needs change almost immediately after you deliver the placenta

Unknown Speaker 41:47
yes and so they want to say they drop it by half almost I mean almost really to back to where you were pre pregnancy

Scott Benner 41:56
that's exactly what Jenny said when we when we did that episode, but there

Unknown Speaker 41:59
is still so much fine tuning because of course you're like burning those calories not sleeping but you still have you know one of the other surprises for me was like I thought when you delivered baby that your weight was going to go back to normal and that doesn't happen right away which seems so naive now but yeah, it was still like I had a baby in there so there was still a lot of weight to be lost and I was very committed and motivated to lose that weight so I wasn't I mean by the end of my maternity leave I mean I was back down to my normal weight and then eventually even because of the breastfeeding was down below it so they're worse I mean when I lose a couple pounds like I need to be adjusting my insulin right? And that was so hard to see postpartum exactly what those weight losses were on a daily basis and so I struggled there.

Scott Benner 42:47
Let me stop you make sure I understood what you said. You mean normally when you're not pregnant if you're losing weight, that means your blood sugar's are a little high.

Unknown Speaker 42:55
When I'm losing weight, well I guess depending on which way you look, if I'm gaining weight Yes, if I gained a few pounds, it does have a big impact on my my blood sugar's and same with the losing although these days I'm not really losing as much.

Scott Benner 43:13
How are you right now?

Unknown Speaker 43:15
Well, just in general, I'm not losing much but let's just

Scott Benner 43:18
I'm the third pregnancy Kate, how pregnant are you right now?

Unknown Speaker 43:22
nine weeks Oh, yeah,

Scott Benner 43:23
you can't lose weight now you're making a baby.

Unknown Speaker 43:26
Yeah, you're not I'm not trying to lose weight. But

Scott Benner 43:29
I was wondering if you were saying that high blood sugars were putting you in like a ketone situation and that's why Oh,

Unknown Speaker 43:36
no, I'm not that high. Okay. Oh, yeah. Well, I mean, high for me is you know, I don't I don't want to be going above 160 Yeah. So first pregnancy went so well, we decided to get pregnant at when our first kiddo was eight months. So we found out we were pregnant with our second when we you know, had an eight month old so they're kind of 18 months apart.

Scott Benner 44:01
Let me do a little detective work here. So and we're not going to say your last name, but your last name makes me feel like your husband is Catholic. Am I right?

Unknown Speaker 44:09
Um, I do not have my husband's last name. Okay. But yes, I was raised Catholic, but my husband was raised I believe Protestant.

Scott Benner 44:18
Okay, so it wasn't just that like we need to Pisco, paleo and I mean, okay, so you're not just trying to make babies because that's how things are done. Well,

Unknown Speaker 44:25
oh my gosh, but the very Catholic part of my family. I have a one she's a second cousin and they have 11 children. Oh, my, my mom is the oldest of seven. Yeah, there's a lot of mother kiddos and baby

Scott Benner 44:39
making a lot of tired uteruses. I would imagine. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 44:42
I mean, how do they do that? I have no idea but

Scott Benner 44:45
basketball I would imagine. just silly putty. So okay, so you You're joking, but it went so well. You made another one. But are you not joking? Is it a bit of your age, you're like, Okay, this worked and are older so nothing

Unknown Speaker 45:01
yes there was that component to it and also just liking the idea of having kiddos closer in age to

Scott Benner 45:09
yeah it's love having kids that was that if I could go back to that spot in my life and not have all the like tired and indecision like if I if I could now somehow be younger with what's in my head now I would love to raise a baby again like I know like I really feel like I know what to do now and I would really know how to absorb like the great parts of it you know and not be so like worried all the time about stuff and you know

Unknown Speaker 45:37
worrying about sleep deprivation I mean it is a big deal a big challenge

Scott Benner 45:42
yeah I even like I look at them and immediately I'm like oh my god I gotta pay for college they don't even care and you're like how are you gonna pay for college? Like I start thinking about that right away but now I really did love it but okay so your second baby comes similar experience or no

Unknown Speaker 46:00
second baby was a little bit different like the pregnancy was similar It was not you know my a Wednesday at the end of it was not 5.2 it was closer to six and that could be also because I had like another baby at home so I didn't have as much time to devote to that second full time job of managing blood sugars so and it was a scheduled c section for that one because of the risk of like a uterine rupture having been so soon after the first c section

Scott Benner 46:36
was that just timing was that your age or was that diabetes? Was it a combination what was that concern from just

Unknown Speaker 46:44
because of like the first c section scar not are not scarred but the first c section not has I mean they say to wait like 18 to 18 months to two years to get pregnant again after a cesarean section and we waited eight months

Scott Benner 47:02
why was the first one c section

Unknown Speaker 47:04
because his heart rate kept dropping and so they they were like because my contractions were you know every two to three minutes they actually had to slow him down at one point because of the heart rate challenge but there was no point I was ever going to get my water at already broke and my there was no point I was going to be able to get to the point of even pushing because of the heart rate

Scott Benner 47:24
I'm sorry I know you said that I just ate it slipped out of my head for a second I want to make sure

Unknown Speaker 47:28
yeah that's okay i mean for me it's like it's so it's like a matter of fact so maybe I didn't say you know all the details but yeah that's why that that's why that happened so you know I'll never have that normal delivery but at the at the end of the day it's just important that you know baby's healthy and I'm healthy and all of that so um second pregnancy not as controlled baby was a little bit bigger so our first was like seven pounds whatever else is normal and then second kiddo and I think that that did have a large part because of my control was eight pounds I want to say something like nine ounces or something like that

Scott Benner 48:16
yeah there's the component to your blood sugar and the birth weight of the baby yeah okay

Unknown Speaker 48:21
interesting when they are tracking it because you know they do all the sizing a lot of sizing every like almost every other week or every week and the at the end of the third trimester and they had they were tracking me at like seven pounds so they didn't foresee that but of course that's they're doing the measurements via the ultrasound so they don't really know for sure but yeah, he was a little bit bigger Okay. Um, the interesting thing that happened with that postpartum Of course I had the same I had similar challenges as before but I was a little bit more aware of them so I think I was handling them a little bit better but what happened next was just totally off the wall and not expected so and you know, similar to any mom postpartum, I was extremely exhausted and tired. And after getting baby down for the night, I wanted to go to sleep so it's like 7pm because that would be my longest stretch of sleep so maybe for like, five hours or something like that. And I started getting ready for bed and I just started to feel like really lethargic and tired like so tired that I was holding on to the wall to get to the bed like I couldn't really hold myself up anymore. And then I got into bed and my hands were tingling a little bit and sometimes that happens if like if I My hands are cold, I'll lay on them a little bit to warm them up. And so I was like maybe I was laying on them funny. And then my feet were tingling and I'm like okay this is really weird I just don't feel right I look at my blood sugar and like okay it's not low yet but it was kind of on its way there like maybe in the 70s like maybe I should just have a couple cookies and then I'll I'll start to feel better so I had those I was in bed for like 45 minutes and I just couldn't fall asleep so I my husband came up and he was actually packing and getting ready to go on a trip and we both traveled a lot for work at that at that time. And my sister luckily was there who had just moved back from the Peace Corps in Liberia and so she was staying with us I think for three weeks and he came up and was talking to me and he was like oh my god I'm gonna go get you some more orange juice and cookies and so he brings up orange juice and cookies oh this point this will sudden my blood sugar you know skyrocketing but I'm doing it because something isn't right. Yeah, and then I you know, I'm talking to him, but he can't understand me. So he goes to get my sister and she comes up and she's like, this isn't right. So they immediately call my stepdad and he's like, if this isn't her blood sugar This is neurological and she you need to call 911 and get her into the hospital so at this point, like I am coherent so of course if your blood sugar is so low that you're you know you're incoherent you don't remember any of that. I am remembering everything very clearly. I hear myself talking and it's like coming out slowly and the thought process is slow I can't hold my arms up I can't get out of bed. I know something is really wrong and the first thing I think of is like am I having a stroke like this is what I've heard of all the signs and Is this what this is Yeah, so they call 911 the ambulance comes they do these did they do the test I don't know if they did the test in the in my in my bedroom at that point um but they were convinced that I was not having a stroke that it was just a low bloodwork because at this point my number was low even though I'd had and that was the weirdest thing it took my blood sugar forever to come up it wasn't even until after I was in the emergency room after some time that my blood sugar finally came up and so they were convinced even then that it was a low blood sugar but the two you know coincided for whatever reason. Um, but yeah, I remember Gosh, even like when my husband was they were there the EMTs were like, what do you want to cuz I'm in my nursing pajamas. They're like, what do you want to get something to wear to the hospital and my you know, my husband goes to kidney clothes and he actually gets my clothes or his clothes for me. And

Scott Benner 52:59
boy, so I am most useless most of the time.

Unknown Speaker 53:02
Yes. So in my so I'm saying this out loud. Like I had a more at home, like get me my clothes, but no one can understand what I'm saying. No kidding. Um, it was so frustrating. And I remember like trying to signal like what I wanted to say and I couldn't so he ended up just giving me my bathroom. So I'm wearing my PJs and bathroom to the hospital.

Scott Benner 53:24
But he has a blazer and a change of pants. So that's it.

Unknown Speaker 53:29
So luckily, my sister was there she stayed with our first kiddo and the ER Well yeah, because we ended up bringing baby because I was just two weeks postpartum so that I could breastfeed so baby goes with us to the hospital. And in the emergency room, they give me like, I don't know what it's called. It's like dextrose like 8000 or something. Like you actually like feel it go through your body. Yeah, and I was like, Why don't people want this like before like a softball game or like a tennis match? This is incredible. Um, but yeah, then I was my blood sugar was high for like, the next 48 hours because of all that stuff that they you know, that I had had already and that they had given me and then that's when they brought in the neurologist and started doing all the tests for having a potential stroke. And, you know, I they found out that I had a Tia. So a trans ischemic attack, like a mini stroke. And what they do for that is they give you if you're within the three to four hour window of having it, then you can take what's called a TPA, and it's a risky drug and that if you do have any sort of bleeding anywhere that you know could kill you. So we had to have like a quick group family grouping in the hospital like Should we do this or not? And you know, they had done a CAT scan and didn't see anything. So we opted to do it and then had to stay in ICU for a few days for observation and and you know, everything ended up being okay. So of course they tried to find out, you know, why did this happen? And they did an invasive Echo, I think, and which they gave me the, whatever the drug that Michael Jackson was taking. Yes, in order to go under for that and I'm like, Oh my god, this is the best nap I've had in a long time.

Scott Benner 55:36
Excuse me. No, wait, that's a beta blocker.

Unknown Speaker 55:39
That's not what was the first one you said?

Scott Benner 55:42
Oh, hold on. Let me just type in Michael Jackson juice and see what comes up. Yeah, proof propofol, PR Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 55:51
that sounds great. Okay, so they checked for that and that all looked good. They did a bajillion MRIs and didn't see anything so every you know, I was leaving there knowing that there wasn't there wasn't any damage from it which was great but also not knowing why it happened and so the last thing that they were going to test what they're gonna do a blood clotting disorder panel but they couldn't do it so soon after having the baby because it could come back with like a false positive and so I had to wait I think another four weeks or it was like at four weeks I went and did that and they come to find out I do have a blood clotting disorder called pro thumb and vector two and so of course pregnancies and surgeries both of which I had had are super high risk and also along with long trips in planes and in cars which I had done often I mean I was on like a monthly 10 hour flight to Chile for like the last two years at that point Um, so luckily that didn't happen on the plane where you know people would have thought that that was just kind of like how I talked or you know, that was normal for me What's that

Scott Benner 57:17
the clotting disorder called

Unknown Speaker 57:19
pro thrombin factor two

Scott Benner 57:23
is that better news then I might have a stroke later in my life

Unknown Speaker 57:30
well what that means now is that and I think you can have that I mean, you could actually have that your entire life and not know it. Um, what it means now is that I have to take a baby aspirin every day um and now and also what it means during pregnancy which I you know, I have a you know, I had to talk with my high risk ob prior to trying to get pregnant to make sure that it would be okay that I got pregnant so not only am I type one, but now I have this other condition and then 38 and she was like, Oh yeah, we'll get you on blood thinner shots and you'd mean you'd maintain those blood thinner shots throughout the pregnancy and as well I think through six weeks postpartum and I have plenty of patients that are profound in factor too so if she was not worried and she's like the best of the best Um, so yeah, so I've started taking Lovenox shots once or twice a day one in the morning one at night. And I mean, I don't I'm not worried. Of course my mom who was still on Steel Magnolias

Scott Benner 58:39
days dead 10 years ago so I mean, she

Unknown Speaker 58:43
was begging me to never get pregnant again and actually it was like well what why would you even do that and of course I don't want to die so you know I've been very diligent and researching and going through and doing all of the right things and really trying to manage the blood sugar hence my call to death or my calls to Dexcom about the the needing for the things to work because you know I don't need any more challenges here Um, so yeah, so that is that's that

Scott Benner 59:14
that's amazing. That's it really is like a whirlwind like your life feels like if it goes 100 miles an hour since you were like 18 years old.

Unknown Speaker 59:27
Do you have Oh, you only have one life well

Scott Benner 59:30
you're getting your you're getting your mileage out of this thing Okay, so right now you're in this third pregnancy all this has been true the nine weeks is the first trimester Is this the part where it's not too tough yet blood sugar wise?

Unknown Speaker 59:47
Well it should be it's interesting I you know, I it's crazy because you know, our kids are only three and two still so it's not like it was that long ago but I think you probably know after having kids that your memory just goes,

Scott Benner 1:00:01
we wait last night, I was working out in the basement and Arden was walking on the treadmill. And she said, Have you noticed mom's getting a little old as she points to her head? And I'm like what she does, you probably don't notice because you're married to her and your lover, but she's slowing down a little bit. And I'm like, wait, what's going on? She goes, You are too but not as bad as what is happening here. She's not as sharp as you used to be. And I was like, but I know more now. And she goes, it's unfair, isn't it? I said, Well, yeah, it is. But But she notices it. And I do too. There are sometimes I reach for words, and they're not there. And they are words I know. And I commonly use, and I'm a person who talks like a million miles an hour, so you might not notice it. But in any hour of this podcast, I have to choose a different word three times because I can't find the one I want.

Unknown Speaker 1:00:49
Right? And then you didn't tell her it's all because of her.

Scott Benner 1:00:52
Yeah, Oh, don't worry, I immediately blamed her. Are you kidding? I immediately, I was like, given the idea how rested I would be without the two of you.

Unknown Speaker 1:01:01
I think I mean, it'd be interesting to know the poll on folks that haven't had kids like, do they get gray hairs later in life than those that do have kids because I honestly think that that's the main cause.

Scott Benner 1:01:15
The first time you get a white hair inside your nose is come to Jesus moment. I'm not very young. And my vision is now I had perfect vision my whole life. And a couple of years ago, I suddenly needed reading glasses. And last night, my son says, I need to throw a little bit like can we go outside? No, I'm like, Yeah, sure. So keep in mind, I'm going to be 50 in a couple of months. And he plays baseball in college. And so I got my glasses. Oh my god, I look up at him. He's blurry, right? He's 50 feet away from me. I can't focus on him. The balls coming in, like a meteorite strike, I can't see the roundness of it anymore. And I'm catching it in front of my face over and over again. I walked inside afterwards. And I said to Kelly, I'm like, I gotta get glasses. Just have a catch with him. Yeah, I was like, because he's gonna kill me with that ball. Like he's just tossing it to me, that kick can throw a ball over 90 miles an hour, like I'm gonna eat it at some point. And I can barely keep up. Now. It's either

Unknown Speaker 1:02:15
get glasses or get like the full catcher's here.

Scott Benner 1:02:20
But I'll make another person catch with him. Like, I'm gonna hire a person because there is going to be a moment. I already can't throw to me at full speed. Like, that's just we stopped doing that a number of years ago. I just like you can't do that anymore. I can't react that quickly. But it's the it's the telling your son that. That's disappointing.

Unknown Speaker 1:02:41
Yeah, that I'm almost 50 and sorry, you have to be a little bit more delicate.

Scott Benner 1:02:46
Be gentle with me. Yeah, no, and he doesn't see anything special about people listening to understand know that he throws a lot harder than most living people. But the point is, is that he doesn't think of it that way. Yeah, he thinks of it as I am at this level. And this old guy can't keep up with me. And apparently, the witty banter that my wife and I are feeding to Arden is not quick enough anymore.

Unknown Speaker 1:03:10
To pick it up or not.

Scott Benner 1:03:11
Well, and how am I going to do that? I'm exhausted. Yeah, exactly. Anyway, yeah, I really want to keep in touch with you because I feel like when that kids 20 you're going to have like abandon the minister By the way, you're gonna have just like, left them somewhere by mistake. You know what I mean? Like, oh, mommy didn't leave you at the Strawbridge and clothier on purpose. But I needed a break. Cuz I'm 50 because you're gonna be 55 when this kids what like know what will I be? I'll be 13 they'll be in their teens. How old Will you be when the last one graduates from high school?

Unknown Speaker 1:03:47
I don't know Scott. Don't make me do that.

Scott Benner 1:03:50
I just want you to cry once while we're doing the pocket.

Unknown Speaker 1:03:54
Please now Yeah, too old too. And I think about you know, because I'm fairly certain This is going to be a boy and we have two boys already and that in itself, you know is called the gray hairs it's I love the boys. But they are a lot of work especially when they're younger. Yeah. Um, girls

Scott Benner 1:04:17
don't become trouble until they're teenagers right and you're gonna trouble it's just it's, it's that's where their hard part comes in. And boys are just like, they're like rockets that are untethered, and they just keep going off all day long.

Unknown Speaker 1:04:32
Yeah, so right now I'm like a jungle gym. I mean, they're like punching me climbing on me hitting me screaming running around like there's no calm moments. I feel like that our friends have little girls are like playing with their dolls and it's all quiet and peaceful. Like we don't have that.

Scott Benner 1:04:49
Run around the house in full costume. Sometimes he would be mortified if he knew I said that. But he had a spider man costume that he would just wear when he was like three years old.

Unknown Speaker 1:05:00
Little our oldest has like a superhero everything so he'll have different superheroes on and his underwear and socks on his shirt. He has a cape that he wears around the line he's really in the superheroes too as

Scott Benner 1:05:15
well but I know the part like my wife has said to me She's like, you know, I probably have been hit in the face by the kids a half a dozen times. So I like like heart and they don't do it on purpose. Like they're swinging their hands around or something and you're just like, you'll walk into it or something like that. Exactly. Yeah, it's really something but is it great? Like if I can get away from the the tone of the conversation and ask you a question. You waited until you were a little older? You had a full life when you were younger you were more prepared like probably emotionally and financially I'm guessing everything Did you do it the right way for your money? Do you feel good about it?

Unknown Speaker 1:05:49
Yeah, I think so. I mean, I think as a diabetic you always just have to think about like how I think maybe how well your body can recuperate after having kiddos so late and that's my only you know and Adam and I set a name when my husband and I got together we you know we said oh we want five kids so you know that Catholic background in him I only having one sister and they're 10 years apart It was like he was an only child and he loves going home and being with my family and it's a huge family and it's a lot of fun and so he wanted a big family so that I but because of the timing it just wasn't gonna happen there's no way I could have two more kids and we could adopt and we've we've talked about that but I just think because of age it's just not it's probably not going to happen and of course I've always wanted that little girl but I don't think that's going to happen either. I think I'm destined to just be a boy mom but don't fall

Scott Benner 1:06:43
into that trap like don't fall into the like we'll just give it one more shot you'll end up with four years yeah, we're three boys and one girl who just looks like a deer in headlights for 10 years.

Unknown Speaker 1:06:54
Yeah, exactly. So who knows? Yeah we'll see it could be all no I think next week for sure.

Scott Benner 1:07:03
Looking like a boy is it like an ultrasound?

Unknown Speaker 1:07:07
Oh no next week I get the lab work that'll tell me for

Scott Benner 1:07:10
sure. Okay, but did you but a minute ago you said like you think it's going to blue is it just because you think you're just gonna have a boy is for some reason

Unknown Speaker 1:07:17
well there is this test you can take and right now I'm forgetting the name of it, but it's you can take it at home which of course is like a finger prick for us diabetics that's no big deal. And it just you know you have to have a clean area because what it detects is male DNA and if it detects male DNA then it's a male if there's no male Why did chromosome found in it then it's a female you're supposed to do it at you can do it as soon as eight weeks that's when that Y chromosome can be detected and we had a strange week in Nashville we actually had snow and our kids were home and we were able to go sledding that happens like every five years here and I had ordered the test in advance so that I was ready to go right at the eight week mark and I just lost I ordered it and had it there and I did it a week early I just lost track of time and thought this is the Saturday I do it. And I realized that after I did it and packaged it up I was like oh my gosh, I wasn't supposed to do this for another week. So I really did it at seven weeks. So I wrote them and I said hey, you know I accidentally sent this in early I don't know if that's going to be like legit still valid and Should I get another one? And they're like well you know you'll most likely get so they responded to the same day or at least I saw the response the same day I got the results and they're like most likely you are going to get a girl result because it doesn't detect the male chromosome or Yeah, the male DNA until eight weeks or that's at least when it can be guaranteed. And if you did get a male result then it could be what was it could have been compromised are the word I'm looking for. I'm drawing a blank on right now but it could have been

Scott Benner 1:09:19
like whatever, like your husband touched you or something

Unknown Speaker 1:09:22
like that. Yeah, like in that was why it was so specific. Especially because we have even now even our dog is a boy. So they're and they said that, you know, even pets can you know be part of that male DNA. And if they detect that then it will show that it is a male. Um, and you know, the only thing that I did that could have potentially contaminated that's what I was looking for. Is I you know, I washed my hands numerous times, but I dried my hands on the towel that we all dry our hands on.

Scott Benner 1:09:56
So the test came back that you're having a Schnauzer, is that right?

Unknown Speaker 1:10:00
A golden doodle

Scott Benner 1:10:03
I wouldn't have said that out loud but I hear you

Unknown Speaker 1:10:08
My husband is convinced I mean it's my He is my favorite guy in the whole household He is my easiest easiest person to deal with in this house. Although not really a person but here's here's my favorite it's gonna say so yeah so if you know but even then I drive my hands on that towel but then I use an alcohol swab for where I was pulling the blood from on that finger

Scott Benner 1:10:33
so you would say okay so what does it did it come back and tell you what

Unknown Speaker 1:10:37
boy came back and told me boy Yeah, you're just

Scott Benner 1:10:41
trying to hold out hope I hear what you're saying. It's the dish towel hope Yeah, I am I'm gonna start betting I know which way I'm gonna put my money down so I'm good yeah maybe you guys just make boys

Unknown Speaker 1:10:53
that and that's exactly what our doctor said that you know some people you know the males they just have male chromosomes I guess is you know that's what they contribute and that's that's it so I think that that's Adams

Scott Benner 1:11:07
oh just have seven more and one of them will be like please don't yeah like I just I could you afford to like keep making babies or like At what point would you just say to yourself like financially I can't do this like

Unknown Speaker 1:11:18
I have not done that financial analysis but I wonder that like you have to make a lot of money to do all of that Yeah,

Scott Benner 1:11:27
yeah the the the range for college right now is Community College three to $5,000 a year up to what is this Hold on a second this isn't supposed to happen? Give me one second

that phone is not supposed to run through it can be from like three to $5,000 per Community College up to there are some private colleges that cost $75,000 and I'm not saying you need to go to one of those I'm just saying that if that's the range

Unknown Speaker 1:12:07
well that's well that's when you have to bank on your kids getting financial scholar or academic scholarships are

Scott Benner 1:12:14
but there's a certain amount of money that you make and if you make that amount of money then that's not going to happen either and it's just it's a maddening world to be in and then to have your kid come home from college and go oh, that semester was a waste of time and you're like Wait, why?

Unknown Speaker 1:12:30
Yeah, what about the X amount of money I just spent on whoa whoa, no,

Scott Benner 1:12:33
no, no, no, go back and learn something. Yeah, it's a it's an that was I can remember when we had kids your kids age which is so weird because I'm not that much older than you but the amount of money we thought was going to send them both through college ended up being the amount of money it took to get one of them through college. And now Arden has let different designs on college which might end up being cheaper and helpful very much but if they both went to the same type of institution we wouldn't have we wouldn't have had nearly enough set aside and still you know you're taking out loans and it's just a disaster. Anyway Good luck.

Unknown Speaker 1:13:19
We started with college fun for both of them hopefully that'll get us through right

Scott Benner 1:13:23
now it'll be it'll be the money you throw at them and good luck we had good intentions Good luck with this. Did you enjoy soccer when you were seven then shut up?

Unknown Speaker 1:13:36
Yeah, right now we're in swim lessons and it's just yeah, I'm not looking forward to all the the carting around to all of the activities

Scott Benner 1:13:43
you sometimes you fall into a thing he just kind of become the people that do the thing like baseball, and softball ended up being what happened around here. But you know, it could end up being anything maybe you just have like maybe the kid will just be like I would like to sit in the house and play chess. I hope not know what if they do what if they're anti Kate? I don't know what if you're like we're going to prove and one of your kids is like, No, we're not.

Unknown Speaker 1:14:10
I also I also wouldn't mean knowing that that's what I did. I also wouldn't want my kiddo to be like I'm going to Peru it's just scary and the things that happened to me there too. I didn't even get into that but um, yeah, that is scary too. And like the letting go of you know, being the parent. And them growing up is got to be really challenging, but we've got some time before there.

Scott Benner 1:14:34
Yeah, find finding the balance between what you were okay with for yourself and what you're okay with for them is tough. Yeah, but you have to try to remember that the things you did probably turned you into the person you are and if you stop them from doing stuff like that, then they'll just become some homogenized version of themselves. Right, you know, but how do you not worry about them? Like do you know I think I've said this in the podcast once. Maybe I've been a day driver of an automobile since I was 13 years old. Because I grew up in a house with a mom and didn't drive and my dad left. And we

Unknown Speaker 1:15:08
Yeah, I think I do remember listening to that. If

Scott Benner 1:15:11
that were true of my kids, I would be out of my mind.

Unknown Speaker 1:15:15
Mm hmm. Right? Gosh, I can't even I am not looking forward to the day that we they are going to be driving a car. I've also been in some really serious car accident. It because of other people on the road, never my own fault. And that is also terrifying.

Scott Benner 1:15:32
They drive away the first time and you think oh, so I put 17 years into this, and now it's gonna die. That's exactly how it feels when they drive. Yeah, that's terrible.

Unknown Speaker 1:15:42
I mean, I think but at the time, my kids are driving, we might all have like self regulated, you know, hovering cars. And you know, the statistics of how many people have died in car accidents is going to be a distant. Yeah, it'll be back where they're like, Oh, my gosh, I can't believe that many people died from car accident. They'll just be something

Scott Benner 1:15:58
new to worry about. Yeah. Do you know how many days of my senior year of high school I did not go to school? No, yes. How many? 3052. I just went to work and said like we were broke, and I needed the money. So I'm just getting up in the morning and go to work. Wow. And the place I worked was like, Are you allowed to be here? And I'd be like, Yeah, sure. It's good. Don't worry. Just Yeah, that was it. And that was in the 80s. Whenever they were like, Alright, me if he's gonna work, I ain't gonna say anything. And, and that was sort of the end of it. But if my children missed a couple of days of school every year, I'd be like, Hey, we got to really rethink what's going on here. So yeah, you know, it'll be something it'll be something else like, you know, I agree with you like cars are probably going to be self driving, and there'll be algorithms that keep us from bumping into each other and then it'll just I don't know, who knows,

Unknown Speaker 1:16:53
but who knows what it will be them I can tell you this.

Scott Benner 1:16:57
After living this year in my house, all of those possibilities are preferable to not Yeah, I would rather I would rather live a life of risk and reward then a life of no risk and staring at this wall.

Unknown Speaker 1:17:13
Oh, my gosh, I I remember listening to a podcast I don't remember which one it was that where you were talking about like how you had to go in and pick up your food but you forgot your mask. Maybe it was like Arden had a low blood sugar or something and and you needed to get the food and there was a lady in there that your people that were looking at you like you're a Martian from outer space because he didn't have the mass which of course is normal anywhere now, and I'm guilty of it too. And especially now because I'm pregnant. Um, but yeah, it's just so weird. I cannot wait for it all to be over and where this is like a distant horrible nightmare memory. Yeah, my expectation

Scott Benner 1:17:53
here is that vaccines rolled out farther and farther. The weather changes and that pretty much changes people's focus. And then I don't think personally again, like I'm all for doing whatever is valuable for people like I really am but i don't i don't know i can't imagine what would have to happen to talk people back into their homes for an extended period of time again,

Unknown Speaker 1:18:22
yeah, or to wearing masks forever.

Scott Benner 1:18:25
Yeah, it's funny like there's part of me that's like I can't wait to not need to do that anymore. And there's part of me that's like you know, I didn't get sick at all this year. Yeah, I have kids either as incredible Yeah, like maybe I would put a mask on at the grocery store still if I didn't need to or something like I don't know what I'm going to end up doing like once this part is passed,

Unknown Speaker 1:18:45
but or maybe more antibacterial whenever you go out I don't know

Scott Benner 1:18:49
like I don't do the hand sanitizer as much as I did in the beginning I just cover my face in public and I have not been I haven't even had like a cold in a year.

Unknown Speaker 1:19:01
I know I know. And with a three and a two year old and then being at school I mean we were going through cycles of colds like all the time well even like one time our oldest got him foot mouth This was when he was like I think a year or nine months or something like that and my husband got really bad like blisters all over his feet and hands and throat and um but yeah, whatever the end like the stomach virus when that goes through the house. So yeah, this year was pretty incredible. Not being sick, but then like who cared. We were all at home in our sweatpants anyway.

Scott Benner 1:19:36
Yeah, I might rather have the flu.

Unknown Speaker 1:19:39
sustain that for another year

Scott Benner 1:19:41
hand foot mouth is what proceeded Arden's type one diagnosis.

Unknown Speaker 1:19:45
And so do they think that that can or they you know, is there

Scott Benner 1:19:47
nobody guesses but I mean, it threw her auto immune system into overdrive and it didn't get rid of the hand foot mouth. So yeah, you know it. She had an autoimmune immune response and if I look back now it I mean, that's probably what happened hand foot mouth, autoimmune response. And then like a month later, she had the hand foot mouth again and my doctors, like you're not supposed to get this twice. That doesn't make any sense. So it's possible that it never handled it the first time.

Unknown Speaker 1:20:14
Yeah, it's interesting. And you know, for the record, I was never sick before. Like there was never any sort of major diagnosis for me that

Scott Benner 1:20:23
stress or anything like that even. There was some stress

Unknown Speaker 1:20:28
to be there. Were there actually, some major stresses?

Scott Benner 1:20:33
Yes, I found it. You don't have to tell me what it is. But that's probably what happened.

Unknown Speaker 1:20:37
Yeah, like familial. Yeah. So could that be it? Maybe?

Scott Benner 1:20:43
Yeah, we think we think that a school stress might have flipped my son's thyroid around recently.

Unknown Speaker 1:20:50
Stress is such a bad I mean, obviously, you know, that's like the what that does to blood sugars. Yeah, I see that firsthand. But a lot of people don't know, like, what stress is actually doing to your body? Yeah, but at least we see that.

Scott Benner 1:21:04
No, I, I completely agree. Like it's one of those valuable spots where if somebody with type one can say knowing what's happening inside of your body is actually valuable in a lot of different ways. And most people don't get any view into that at all.

Unknown Speaker 1:21:17
That's it. That's for me, that is it for me, as well as like Chinese food. I just like I'm like, I can't eat it. Yeah, yeah. No, I don't know what's in it. It's hard for me to manage it because of the unknown. And yeah, I'm sure you know, if I wanted to spend some time and really like work on that I could, but it's not worth me. So I don't

Scott Benner 1:21:41
I wear a CGM one time. And it definitely pointed out a couple foods. I'm like, Yeah, I don't want to I just won't eat those anymore. Because my body doesn't do well with it. Yeah, exactly. And you learn that from watching Arden eat all the time, like what impacts you so harshly that, you know, I'm not worth it. Mountain of insulin doesn't help it, you know, you gotta make some choices. Well,

Unknown Speaker 1:22:03
well, and speaking about also with COVID, i, this might be interesting for the pregnant community. It's interesting. And, you know, the differing opinions on it, but you know, it's like my, my ob told me to go ahead and because I had a scheduled for a vaccine at the end of February, and I reached out to my ob, like, in the case I can get scheduled Should I go ahead and do it. And they of course, sent me all this literature from like a cog and all the other ob resources that said, Yes, go ahead and get it. Um, and then when I spoke to my maternal fetal medicine physician, who is like world renown, smart lady, she said, I had an appointment scheduled for the next morning, I was like, Hey, I think you're gonna say okay, but I just want to double check, like, should I go ahead and get the vaccine tomorrow? And she said, No, I'd wait until your second trimester. I know someone else that just is like nine weeks, just like I am. And she got the moderna vaccine, like they were pregnant, but didn't know they were pregnant yet. And it was like, so few weeks back, and she ended up in the hospital for a couple days. I don't I don't know the specifics of it. So I mean, it could be unrelated. Who knows? But I don't know that it is either way. I'm like, I don't know that. I want to be the first

Scott Benner 1:23:25
we'll find out. Yeah, that's where that data is gonna come from is that just these anecdotal things that end up getting reported? Because the, you know, the vaccines are out in an emergency, you faster authorization. So they haven't been as extensively tested as you would have to to have an FDA clearance. And so you're going to wait and see, and then it's going to take time for them to collect data and have better answers. Yeah, I don't.

Unknown Speaker 1:23:51
And I think just because there's so much development in that first trimester is, you know why I'm guessing she said that, and,

Scott Benner 1:23:56
yeah, she doesn't know either. I'm sure she's just like, Look, right, this is probably the safe thing to do here safer. It's all mitigation of risk risks. You know, you're just you're just making decisions about like, is this a better decision than that one, then we'll do that one. There for the same reason that I'll end up getting a vaccine because, you know, I, I think I'm okay, I think I'd be one of those people who would just get it like a like a normal, but I don't know if I'm going to be one of those persons who is going to need a five way bypass afterwards. So I'll take a vaccine, you know,

Unknown Speaker 1:24:30
right. That's all Yes. So So now I'm going to get one of the end of March but I mean, she's had many patients end up in the ICU. So she's very much pro vaccine, but I think it was just the timing of it and not knowing like I actually had a friend from high school that just had a baby and she is a physician. So she got it in I think December the vaccine, or either that or early January, and so she got it in her third trimester and she just had the baby a few weeks back and baby's fine mom I'm fine. And so there are those anecdotal stories, but there's no one that would have had the vaccine in the first trimester and already have delivered a baby. So I'm like, I don't know that I want to be one of those. Like, let's wait and see.

Scott Benner 1:25:12
Right? Yeah. And you won't, you know, and those babies haven't grown up yet. And nobody's tracked them. And there's, there's a lot of Listen, there's a lot of valuable reasons to do either. To be perfectly Yeah, you know. And so if you can stay in your house and keep your mouth covered and wait a little longer than why not if that's something you're able to do.

Unknown Speaker 1:25:32
Yeah, it's just three more weeks at this point.

Scott Benner 1:25:35
You find out you're having a little boy and you can get vaccinated.

Unknown Speaker 1:25:38
Yep, exactly. Then I'm a free woman.

Scott Benner 1:25:40
I'm telling you right now, I if you have if you're if you find out, it's a girl, I want to know immediately. Please don't even tell you

Unknown Speaker 1:25:46
how I will be screaming it from the mountaintops, you'll hear you'll hear it.

Scott Benner 1:25:50
That's excellent. Kate, I am having a very good time talking to you, which is how I can say we've been talking for almost an hour and a half and probably don't realize it. But I want to thank you for doing this and ask if there's anything we didn't talk about that, that we might have missed?

Unknown Speaker 1:26:06
Yeah, I don't think so. I think we covered and let unless you can think of something that I should share that you think would be helpful to you know, for everybody. I'm always happy to do that. But I'm, you know, always available. If someone wants to contact me, you have my email. You are welcome to send them my way.

Scott Benner 1:26:23
Okay. Well, if somebody reaches out, I will definitely send it to you then. Okay, yeah, that's amazing. I really appreciate this. there's part of me that wants to stop the recording and ask you about all the bad things that happened to you in Peru. But anyway, I do have one question for you feel Hold on just one second. Give me one. Sure. Thanks. All right, everybody, we're back for a second to ask Kate, one more question. Are you or have you put your kids through trial net?

Unknown Speaker 1:26:48
Yeah, so I can't remember at what point they can join it I want to say it's like two years or two and a half years where you can go and get that initial bloodwork. And so our youngest is actually at the point where he could do it now but because of COVID I'm like we'll just wait until we're all in a safer you know that we're all vaccinated basically, I mean, I'm not them but the larger community and I'll take him to do it I did take the first you could go I think the location here I think the only location here in Nashville was in at Vanderbilt and I will say that it was really really hard to bring a two and a half year old there, you know, to get blood from their veins. He was screaming at the top of his lungs and then was slightly frightened because I called it the doctor to ever go to the doctor again. But it is hands down worth it. I totally believe in everything that they're doing and they can you know, of course, I'm worried about our kiddos could be type one diabetic and that of course could come at any point but if we could get in sooner than later just to delay that or and also help you know, provide data for research to find a cure for type one diabetes? Well, you know, we'll do it I'll deal with that our have really tough time getting blood, you know, from a two and a half year old.

Scott Benner 1:28:15
Did he have any bodies?

Unknown Speaker 1:28:17
He did not have the antibodies? Good. Yeah, so you know, I'm sure at any point that can be developed. And I actually learned that as part of my pro thumb and vector to work is because not only did they find that I was positive for that, but they also found antibodies that were present that made that a little bit more severe to some extent. So they did another follow up in which they found out that the antibodies then went down. Um, anyway, so I know that that is relevant to some extent, because of that.

Scott Benner 1:28:50
That's interesting. Well, I'm glad that we chatted for a second and brought that up because I I think it's a great thing. I'm actually interviewing someone tomorrow who makes that drug that they give you now when they find out that you've just been diagnosed or that when you have the you know, that drug that they say kind of stretches out the time that it takes you to get diagnosed with type one.

Unknown Speaker 1:29:11
I'm yeah, I just listened to that podcast that you had that you I'm looking at my phone right now. Number 443. That was the one I was listening to

Scott Benner 1:29:20
laugh with the person from trauma. I'm actually going to talk to somebody who works at the company that developed the drug tomorrow to find out more about what the drug does.

Unknown Speaker 1:29:28
That's awesome. I will be listening to that.

Scott Benner 1:29:31
Alright, thank you. Alright, now I'm gonna let you go for Thank you. Okay, thanks. A huge thank you to one of today's sponsors. g Vogue glucagon. Find out more about chivo Kibo pen at G Vogue glucagon.com forward slash juicebox you spell that GVOKEGL Uc ag o n COMM forward slash juice box, hey, one more time, touched by type one.org. It's an organization doing incredible things for people living with Type One Diabetes. And they put on a really spectacular dance show. That harkens back to the beginning of this organization. If you haven't heard that episode with Elizabeth forest, find it. It's in there somewhere in the catalog. She tells you how she started this whole thing for now touched by type one.org. And a huge thanks to Kate for coming on the show. And I promised you an update. An update on Kate, a Kate date, a cup, a cup date, a cup date? Oh, no, a cake date. I'm sorry. I'm rushing like I told you earlier. And I apologize. My thoughts are not forming correctly. Kate sent a note that said this. It's a boy, three boys for an under please send help. I have come to terms with the fact that it will be pure chaos around here for the next few years. Congratulations, Kate and family. That's really amazing. Kate said that since we talk she thought of things she wish she would have brought up during the podcast that happens to everybody. Don't worry about that. She said that she's had a slight increase in her insulin needs at the very start of the first trimester. But then it plateaued and even dropped a bit again. And there's some other private stuff here. She told me it's not for you guys, but that's fair enough. Right. Kate, thanks for reaching out. I mean, I'm assuming we recorded this so long ago. Your son's probably in college by now. Mazel Tov. Thank you so much for listening. I'll be back soon with another episode of the Juicebox Podcast. And by the way, if you're enjoying the Juicebox Podcast, please leave a beautiful glowing, well written and thoughtful review. Wherever you listen. And don't forget to attach as many stars to it as your app allows. Like if your app has like a five star thing like the apple podcast app, give it five stars, they put a real thoughtful review down that might make someone else interested in listening to the show. I love you guys. I'll talk to you soon. Bye.

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