#980 Academic Advisor

Chrysten is a 29 year old T1D, diagnosed at 7. She’s an academic advisor who works with students transitioning from high school to college.

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Scott Benner 0:00
Hello friends and welcome to episode 980 of the Juicebox Podcast

Welcome back everyone. Today I'll be speaking with Kristen she's a 29 year old type one diagnosed at age seven. She's also an academic advisor who works with students who transition from high school to college. We're going to talk about her job and her life, how she was diagnosed, what her experiences were, and everything else. While you're listening, please remember that nothing you hear on the Juicebox Podcast should be considered advice, medical or otherwise, always consult a physician before making any changes to your health care plan. We're becoming bold with insulin. Would you like to save 40% off your entire order at cosy earth.com That'll be easy to do, just use the offer code juice box at checkout. If you'd like to save on ag one use my link drink ag one.com forward slash juice box. And of course, don't miss the private Facebook group for the Juicebox Podcast. It's called Juicebox Podcast type one diabetes. It has over 40,000 members and there are endless conversations happening right now that you'll be interested in.

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Chrysten 2:15
So I'm Kristin I'm 29. And I am currently talking to Scott.

Scott Benner 2:21
Christian, you're 29 You look like you're 12. And this photo was? Is that what you look like?

Chrysten 2:27
My whole? Yeah, I mean, that picture I think I was taking I was like 25. Really? So yeah,

Scott Benner 2:34
if you told me you were 18. And that photo, I would 100% believe you.

Chrysten 2:38
I know this is an ongoing joke. Actually. i We took headshots for my job, like a few years ago and this woman in my department was like, Are you serious? That's your photo. You look like you're in grade school. And I was like, Thank God, I'm sorry. I'm sorry about my pace. I don't know what to tell you.

Scott Benner 2:57
Does it hurt you at work? Like what can you tell me what kind of work you do without telling me where you work?

Chrysten 3:03
Oh, yeah. I'm a counselor, like an academic advisor? Does it hurt me? No, I don't think so. I mean, sometimes I'll get students who I do have some adult students. So sometimes they're older than me. So that's kind of can be kind of awkward, but we kind of roll with it. No, I wouldn't say it hurts me.

Scott Benner 3:22
Okay, bye. Good. My wife was in a position of I don't know how to say that. She She managed people, I was gonna say a position of power, which is true. But like she managed people at a young age and had a razor sharp understanding of the business. And she said that she would sit in meetings sometimes with people who were twice her age. And they would look at her like, why is this kid telling me what I have to do? And she said it were people who had it rubbed up wrong against that's why I was wondering.

Chrysten 3:53
Oh, yeah, I mean, if and when I more if if I ever moved into a management position? I know it would be that I'm sure that would happen to me. But as of right now, it's fine right now. It's

Scott Benner 4:03
not a problem.

Chrysten 4:04
Yeah, right now Well, that's a future problem. Yeah. So

Scott Benner 4:09
you see you being hopeful that you're going to continue to look like you're 12 for your whole life.

Chrysten 4:14
Like I've This has always been how I am like what am I saying? I've always looked younger than I am so I'm just like it is what it is at this point. So if everyone keeps telling me when I'm older, I'll like it but

Scott Benner 4:27
Well, I was gonna say the same thing like I can go or you can get away with way younger than I am. So it is nice for now. It's all about keeping your hair dark by the way. Really? Yeah. And keeping the wrinkles off your face that's pretty much the whole thing.

Chrysten 4:41
Well, I'll try I noticed though on Zoom now, when I'm you know, chose your camera and I have like a line in between my eyes and I'm like, oh my god, I'm getting old scruff.

Scott Benner 4:55
I have squinty eyes already. I hate that the I would like there's there's death Like a world where I would be to some flight surgery, if it was

Chrysten 5:04
low Botox here and there. If my

Scott Benner 5:06
eyes would appear open, that would be nice. And then I'd probably do some liposuction and a couple of spots. I think that'd be it. I'll meet

Chrysten 5:13
you. That'd be it. So down with liposuction, right? You know, who's got money for that?

Scott Benner 5:20
My wife's like, I'm coming up, I don't need you to come up. I need the document. I need an email me the doc, not you.

Chrysten 5:32
Well, don't ask her how she feels about liposuction.

Scott Benner 5:35
Oh, please, she doesn't care about me. Don't be insulted. Like, whatever, we don't have money for that. We do seem to have money for the things she likes, though. If I'm being honest. Yeah. Well, that's how it works. Okay, so why did you want to I'm this one specific. So let me ask why you want to come on the show.

Chrysten 5:56
So I work with students who transition from high school to college. And over and over again, I think when I emailed you was probably in the middle of our summer program. And over and over again, I have students who talk about how they had a 504 in high school, and they want to be normal in college. Right? And so I, after the 25th conversation I've had about this, I was like, You know what, that's such a thing for diabetes as well. And, and it pops up in the Facebook group from time to time about that transition from high school to college. And I also did it myself as a diabetic. So that's why

Scott Benner 6:33
that makes sense. It's and it's a great topic, honestly, what do you think they mean by normal?

Chrysten 6:38
Yeah, so a lot of times, I think they want to leave their diagnosis behind so and right. So I have students with, you know, a whole range of reasons as to why they'd have a 504. So a lot of like ADHD, and I've had some students on the autism struggle, sorry, autism spectrum or learning disabilities, things like that. And I think it's, they want to get rid of that known fact about themselves, if that makes sense. So like, you know, how in high school, they, every every teacher knows what your diagnosis is, and they want to get rid of that when they go to college and kind of start fresh is their idea, I think,

Scott Benner 7:25
is it fair to say? They just want to get rid of their normal? Yeah. A fresh start. So people not knowing. But is that conducive, though? To what? No, not at all right. Like you. Because if you get if you have in there, I think I'm right about this. If you head into college, and you have not set anything up. It's hard to settle up later.

Chrysten 7:48
Yep, that's exactly. And that's why as this happened 500,000 times, that's why I reached out to you because I was like, you know, I remember myself saying these words when I was in high school and going to college. So that's why I was like, Okay, maybe this is like a larger issue. But to your point, yes. So what happens is, they will get their accommodations, they often will crash and burn in the fall. And they'll reach out to me and like, you know, November and be like, oh, so I think I need these accommodations. I'm like, Yep, so that we have to kind of rush to get them off. And by then a lot of times, we can't get them till the spring.

Scott Benner 8:25
You work with kids who have all kinds of needs, not just diabetes.

Chrysten 8:29
Yeah, I actually worked for a program for economically disadvantaged students. And so it's a really broad spectrum of students that come through, but I haven't, I can't give you a number but a decent amount who, who have had disabilities in the past or have disabilities and want to get accommodations?

Scott Benner 8:47
In college? What, um, what does economic disadvantages? How does that How do you help those people?

Chrysten 8:54
So the program I work for it, really, I think the biggest focus is assigning them to a counselor. So myself and the other counselors in the program, and we have a smaller caseload. So what we can we can assist them more often than like a general advisor, because their their caseload is like crazy. It's like one to 700 whereas we are like 130 ish, I would say, and so we can assist them with whatever it is they need to transition. A lot of it is like, helping them with college jargon. So you know how people throw around words like that, you know, the registrar's office, that kind of stuff, right.

Scott Benner 9:36
And you're like, What the hell does that mean?

Chrysten 9:38
Right, right. Exactly. So we help them with a lot of that a lot of like, talking about how college is different than high school. Sometimes we'll connect them to services, like if they need like, additional support, like, you know, we had kids with like housing insecurity, food insecurity, stuff like that. Not that often but that just happened to you stuff like that. It's great work. I like

Scott Benner 9:59
it. Okay, so you you set those people up to understand the system they're getting involved in how to navigate it, and how to show them what's available to them and how they can ask for it. Exactly. Yeah. And there's not a lot of difference between that and medical, honestly. Right? Because it's still the same, like we didn't know right away. When Arden went to college, we're like, Well, I mean, somebody probably has to know, you know, but what do you do? And so, if you if you're not contacted by the school, what do you do you contact them and ask if there's like, who would I contact that the college to ask if I'm not hearing from them on it?

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Chrysten 14:00
Right, exactly, so it's every school has. Its sometimes now called Accessibility Services, or disability services. And those are the people who would process accommodations for college students.

Scott Benner 14:14
Okay, so we contact them and say, Hey, listen, I have type one diabetes, and I'm on my way to college. Or they're two different people, or they're the people who have accommodation set up already and want to try to transfer them. And there are I imagine people who who made it through high school without accommodations and are now thinking they might be more necessary in college.

Chrysten 14:35
Yeah, exactly. So it's definitely easier if you had like a 504 plan or a medical plan in high school, or an IEP if it's not diabetes, right. But then yes, there are people who or you could even get diagnosed with something in college, right? Or even there's like, you know, temporary stuff like you get a concussion or injury or something like that. So yeah, so there's two different like paths. Athletes I suppose to go there.

Scott Benner 15:02
Do people take advantage of this?

Chrysten 15:04
Yes and no, it it really depends from what I understand. And I'm also talking about this in the context of working out one university. Right. Yeah, of course. But yeah, I think it really depends on the school. I don't really have that answer. I also, so I don't work for Disability Services, specifically, like I'm more of like the, like, I work for that. The program I was talking about, so I don't have too much information on like, what that looks like, if that makes sense.

Scott Benner 15:31
Yeah, well, but you have type 1am i right. Yeah, yeah. How so? How old were you? And you're diagnosed? Seven. Wow. Now we know of course, you're 12. Now from your photo? And 12. You've had it for five years? Yes. So you were diagnosed at seven? Did you have accommodations in school?

Chrysten 15:50
No, I had a medical plan of some sort. And high school, I believe, but no, I never had a 504 which is interesting.

Scott Benner 15:59
Which you have an IEP? No, no. Did you note from your doctor? No. But see, this is a good point, though. Because you had it. And you don't know what it is? Yep. Right. And so when you go to college, did you try to take it with you?

Chrysten 16:17
I did, actually because my my, my mother forced me.

Scott Benner 16:21
Okay, more interesting. You didn't want to? I did not want to know, because you wanted to be normal and start over again.

Chrysten 16:29
Pretty much. I went to Penn State and I loved the idea of you know how people hate the idea of like, being just a number. I thought that was great. I was like, yeah, no one bothered me. That was my perspective. So I was like, No, I don't want to bring this up. I'm just going to school. Like, leave me alone. You know,

Scott Benner 16:48
so you like the idea of going to a big school in the middle of nowhere, and just existing for four years and doing your thing?

Chrysten 16:55
Yep. I love anonymity. Like I was all about lecture hall classes. I was like, That sounds amazing. Let's do it.

Scott Benner 17:02
I have a side note question. Why do people who have gone to Penn State act like that's where Jesus lives?

Chrysten 17:09
Because it is. Yeah, no, I'm in. I'm in the cult. I am very okay with it. It's the best place on the planet.

Scott Benner 17:19
Yeah, I don't know. i The flags that fly in front of people's houses a decade after their children have graduated. Their babies running around a little Penn State outfits. Amy? Yeah. Yeah, all that stuff went on with the football team didn't bother people at all. They're like, whatever. Penn State baby.

Chrysten 17:38
Oh, yeah. No, nobody cares. If it's, there's something about it. I don't know. It's, it's like its own little

Scott Benner 17:47
cold already. I think you were there.

Chrysten 17:51
I meant cold. I honestly meant cold. But uh, yeah, I remember my, my dad being like, are you going to college? Are you going to Disney World? Like, what is this? And I was like, it's amazing. So

Scott Benner 18:02
because you were having so much fun.

Chrysten 18:04
I loved it. Yeah. It was amazing. I was so excited to go there. Like it was it was

Scott Benner 18:09
awesome. So how did it go? being just a number like, how did that change your diabetes world?

Chrysten 18:15
I loved it. Honestly, how did it change my diabetes world? So for me, I'm very, I was always very anxious, quiet, keep to myself kind of person when I was young, which you wouldn't think now as I like, don't shut up as I'm talking to you. But so, for me, it was always very hard to advocate for myself. So like, I would be the type where if I was low, I would just take the test and not do well and not say anything about it. Yeah, so when I went to college, that stuck with me, I think I learned I definitely learned as I went through to stop doing that,

Scott Benner 18:56
though. So it's a momentary thing, then it's you, you wanted to try it, then you try it and you're like, This is not valuable for me. I'll stop doing this.

Chrysten 19:07
Yeah, essentially, after it affected my grades negatively so many times. And I was always a good student. I was like school. It started to, I was like, Alright, I gotta stop doing this. I

Scott Benner 19:20
got no, I'm sorry, God, keep talking.

Chrysten 19:23
No, I was gonna say I was thinking of a like, one time for example, I had a, I had a Medtronic pump at the time. I had that for like, a year and then I was like, after got caught on door handles us over it. But so I had a Medtronic pump, something happened with it where I think it wasn't connected or something. And I was like, 300 and this was before I had a Dexcom. So I you know, I didn't realize until I checked my, my number and I was like, oh, yikes. And I was about to go to an exam but I had to go back to my apartment and get cheese Ah, the cartridge or whatever. And so I actually ironically ran into the TA as I was walking to my apartment. And I was like, Hey, I'm so I'm in the class CTA for I know, we have an exam, I explained the insulin pump thing. I was like, I just gotta run to my house and then come back. And then so I'm going to be a little late to this exam. And she was so nice. She was like, yeah, no, don't even worry about it. She was like, I can let the professor know, you could take it another time when you're feeling better. And I went into the exam with a 300 blood sugar. Like, why? For what purpose? You don't? I mean, I would do things like that a lot. Right? You know?

Scott Benner 20:35
Is it fair to compare that feeling that you had to when a person makes a drastic change cutting their hair or changing their clothes? Or? Like you don't? I mean, like, Were you just looking for a shift? Like, let me get away from this diabetes thing for a minute? Possibly, yeah, I mean, because you haven't for we had it for like, 11 years before you went to college ish. So how would you describe living with diabetes as a kid? And then into high school? Did it go like, easily? Or was it? Is it a bad memory?

Chrysten 21:09
So I started, when I started, it was back in like, what is it mph? And the other one, regular? Yeah. And yeah, and you would like mix them in the one injection or whatever. And you had to like, eat 45 carbs a meal at specific times, and then 15 carb snacks, three a day, and you couldn't deviate from that. So that sucked. And from there, I switched to Lantis. That was a big deal to switch to Lantis when I was like, hen and around, I would say around like 11 or 12. I really did everything myself. My parents didn't help me with it, which they were, which is interesting. I think I totally lost track of your question.

Scott Benner 22:02
I'm gonna just ask another question. I'll get you back. Okay. Why was it interesting that they stopped helping?

Chrysten 22:07
Oh, why is it interesting? I mean, I'm thinking of a time like my, I was at a diabetes educator appointment. And my mom was like, my mom was like, oh, yeah, I was like, 12. And my mom was like, oh, yeah, she does everything herself. I don't know. I have no idea what she does. She just does it. And the educator was like, she's 12 I think she probably needs some help. And I was just like, okay, you know, so I, I guess,

Scott Benner 22:37
did you need help? Yeah, what was your agency ish? Like about?

Chrysten 22:42
I want to say I floated in the eights. Yeah.

Unknown Speaker 22:44
So you needed help?

Chrysten 22:45
I needed help. Definitely.

Scott Benner 22:48
Let's delve into your parents for a second. Were your parents like hands off people? Or were they just under the impression that it was going okay, because you were alive.

Chrysten 22:57
My parents are not very nice people. Honestly. So they, yeah. I'm serious.

Scott Benner 23:09
Do you have a relationship with them? Yeah, yeah, that didn't sound exciting. But you go on Christmas, like, that kind of stuff.

Chrysten 23:17
It's kind of it's, they're, they're just not very nice. They're very self absorbed kind of people, you know. So I think that especially with my, my mother was so anxious. I don't think she could handle the diabetes, honestly, like, she was just like, this is another thing. I can't deal with this. So So I did it. So I you know, I kind of had a raise myself kind of childhood, you know,

Scott Benner 23:41
I say, Okay, I am. Good.

Chrysten 23:45
No, is gonna say now that I intended to delve into that. Sorry.

Scott Benner 23:48
No, no, no, I'm just I just have to tell you that. I don't have a number on this. But it's a big number. For when we get to it in the conversation where people are like, Yeah, I just did it by myself. And I'm like, that's weird. Did your parents not help you? And they, and no one just comes out and says, yeah, no, my parents just bailed on me. Like, no one ever is honest about it. Everyone defends their parents, no matter what. It's when they're being recorded. It's really interesting. By the way, it's interesting. How many people stop recording. Yeah, I couldn't tell you about my mom because it would break her heart. And I'm like, Oh, okay. But you were just like, No, they're not nice.

Chrysten 24:27
I believe they never find this.

Scott Benner 24:29
Are you? Are you nice? Yeah. Because I mean, that was pretty honest. Some might say not nice.

Chrysten 24:37
Yeah, I mean,

Scott Benner 24:40
I appreciate it. Listen, I appreciate it. If your 12 year old has a massive medical condition that includes them using a medication that if they use it incorrectly could kill them. And your idea is, she seems to be doing alright. I mean, I'm not I'm not here to judge anybody but if you put Put me in the situation where I was I be judgmental of that. So, yeah. And so I appreciate you saying that. That's all. Okay. So now I have some, I'm also trying to give people context for why their kids might want to forget about their diabetes. Sure, when they get to college, and not only diabetes, it's to be said that it is not uncommon for a kid to go to college and try to find a way to be unconscious.

Chrysten 25:26
Yeah, and, you know, I think the whole thing gives, actually, I'm glad we talked about that, because I think it gives a good context to where I was, was, when I went to college, I wanted to really start over like, I was like, I'm getting away from my parents and the whole shebang. And yeah, so I think that's why I don't know, that's, that's why I went in that direction.

Scott Benner 25:48
Listen, this isn't for this conversation. But I'm happy to have this conversation with somebody else at some point. I don't want to be overdramatic Hold on a second. I think what I was gonna say was, like, a little too overdramatic. But it's a crisis, that after spending 17 years with their parents, that a number of children's focus, they say it's about a coin flip about half f kids that go to college are going to drink by the way half of them don't. It's interesting, like how the numbers, right, but it's one in two people is thinking, I need to go somewhere and get really high or really drunk and get away from my own thoughts. I mean, that's a that's a cultural failing, if one in two people feel that way. Oh, yeah. It's interesting how it doesn't get talked about because from people who are not drinkers, using drinking as an example, they don't say anything. They're just like, I just hope my kid goes to college and doesn't fall into that. I'm just going to hope for that the other half of people are oftentimes almost proud of it. Like, oh, they're gonna go to school and get blackout drunk. Mike, is that not an issue for you? Like, you know, it's not it absolutely isn't. So then there's this competing culture, because the kid who doesn't drink also probably has some stress and anxiety and things didn't go right for them either. And those kids have no outlet. And then the other ones are using an outlet that's so big that it you know, it becomes it can become a way of life to like, we don't talk about the fact that in society, most people are anesthetized in one way or another. That's true. Yeah. We just don't talk about it from like, yeah. Anyway, are the ramifications

Chrysten 27:31
of that? No, no, I think that's a good point. And, and the ramifications of that, like socially, and, and mentally and all these different things? Absolutely. That's huge.

Scott Benner 27:40
Yeah. I mean, from like, you know, from a person, I don't know, who's an adult who's just, you know, using wind to get through the day, or, I mean, I mean, one of the Rolling Stones sang about it in the 60s, right, like just the pill, just take the edge off. And right up to like, you know, I have no trouble with the smoking weed. But if you're smoking weed all day long, because you can't function. To me, there's something's wrong, like, right, like you should be able to get through life without being altered, sometimes at the very least, anyway, and then these kids head off and wanting to kids this coin flip of who you are, some of them are going to have diabetes. And like so some of you are going to send your diabetic child off to college, and that kid's going to fall face first into a keg. The only way they're going to know my expectation to safeguard themselves from a low blood sugar is going to be to keep their blood sugar high. I mean, that's what I get from conversations I have with adults who are formerly children with diabetes. So it goes one way or the other people were just like, I don't drink it doesn't matter. So anyway, that was a bit of a soapbox for me. I did not mean to do that. Oh, it's fine for you, but about the people listening, they're like, Shut up, man. I like to drink. So it's all good. You should have grown up with my parents. You drink too, by the way, I did grow up with your parents and I have compassion. Okay. So what I wanted to tell you was that when Arden went off to college, we had a nice experience where the school, you know, designated a person to speak to us about diabetes. We had a video chat between the three of us, my wife, myself, and Arden. And the first thing you notice is you're talking to somebody who generally speaking, big surprise doesn't understand type one diabetes. Exactly. And so you have to begin to educate them without scaring them. Right. And, and so we were doing that on the call. And I said at some point during the phone call, I said, I don't know if you can tell like we're very uncomfortable with this. And she's like, how so I said, we don't want to be doing this. I said I Don't think Arden needs any of this. But if she does, I don't want for it not to be there. Right?

Chrysten 30:10
And that's how I wrap my head around it to like, it's like there's there's always that one. I'm trying to think of a nice word, and not curse. There's always that one professor, right? There's always that one person who's gonna make your life miserable for no apparent reason. And so it's just, it's really like, a catch all to make sure that you're covered is really how I think of it. But does she? Like, I mean, I would imagine Arden doesn't really need to use it often. But it's just, it's just there just in case.

Scott Benner 30:40
I don't, I don't think I'm gonna go over with you what we did. Okay, but I, I don't think with the exception of the fact that she's she has a tiny little personal refrigerator and smaller than you're imagining, like it only it would only fit maybe like three softballs inside of it. It's very small. And that's what she has her insulin in. And you had to have a an accommodation to have a refrigerator. Right for and that was a bit of a lift, because people didn't ask for it generally. So it was when you got to the person. They were like, I don't know if I'll get this done. But I can't just say yes to it. Now. It's funny, because what you just tried to artfully say a minute ago, I actually just said on the call. I said, Oh, really? Yeah, I told the person I was like, Look, this is all just here in case one of these professors is an asshole.

Chrysten 31:31
I was that was the word I was going to use. But I'll try not to curse. Oh,

Scott Benner 31:34
you're very nice. I mean, not to your parents, but to me, and I appreciate so but but I mean, in truth that's what it is. Right? Like it's a Get Out of Jail Free card in a world where you shouldn't get put in jail, but somebody might do it to you. So you get to whip it on go. You can't do that you have diabetes. So exactly, but you don't want to say it like now the person we spoke to said there are people who wear it like I don't know like they wear it right on their chest. Their every time you see them, you're going to hear I have this and I am allowed and she's like, look, we accommodate those people too. And I said you're never going to hear my daughter say she has diabetes. Like Like there's no less she's passing out and she says give me a juice I have diabetes like that. Even then we've learned people don't even know what that means. So you know anyway, so my wife and I want to get my wife full credit because let's be clear, this is well written and organized which means I had nothing to do with it. But she broke it down into categories for the school. She so the first category she has is absence lateness and scheduling. Court we of course registration, housing and medical, medical self treatment, nutrition proximity to class and food supplies and Wi Fi accessibility. That's how we have it broken down. Okay, what do you do you see anything that's missing there?

Chrysten 33:04
No, no, no. Okay.

Scott Benner 33:06
So what we we first explained it so absence lateness schedule. My wife has blood glucose levels are impacted by many variables, including but not limited to food hormones, adrenaline, temperature, physical activity, illness and stress. Each type one diabetes person responds differently to these variables are in may require flexibility around class attendance due to type one, because of things like prolonged overnight hypoglycemia, emergency room visits, hospitalization for DKA, or a hypoglycemic episode. So we listed out everything that could happen to her. But none of it do we actually expect to happen. Right, right. And then she says this is the combination we're looking for. excused absences. And lateness is for diabetes related reasons. ability to access class notes during excused absences. And lateness is for diabetes related reasons. Extra time, or ability to reschedule exams, projects, due dates, if ability to complete this, the thing is impacted by hypo or hyperglycemia. And so like, that's just one category that my wife, like, laid out. And we went through for all of them. Like, she explained how course registration could be important, just things like class time. Like it'll be it would be great for our not to have to be in a classroom at like, 8am you know, like that kind of stuff. And like, you know, blah, blah, blah housing, that she needs a refrigerator like I can't read this whole thing. I mean, I could read this whole thing to you, but I'm not going to you know, I could make it available online to be honest with you, but yeah, yeah. And so like, so we went through all that. And then the response we got back from the school was very, like, easy. Like, everything was easy after that, because and part of me thinks it's because we made that person's life easier. We explained it to them. We said look Look, this isn't we're not here to like hold you up. You know, we don't we're not asking for a, she doesn't need a puppy or a Ferris wheel. You don't I mean, or something like that. And as a matter of fact, she's probably never going to mention this to anybody. But Arden said that in her first days of every class she has someone pulls her aside and says, I got your accommodations. But she said one professor pulled her aside and said, Hey, look, we're not supposed to ask you What's up, but what's up with you? And goes, Oh, I have type one diabetes. And the woman goes, Oh, really? That it? And she goes, yeah, she goes, it's cool. It's so so hard and goes, Do you want to know anything? And she's like, No, she's like, if you need something, just do it. It's fine. Like she had a real like, adult conversation, right? And what I didn't realize was this with this person with this specific professor. I've just need to live my life. And if as long as I don't take advantage of this, somehow, this person is going to have no problem at all. And the teacher goes, like, I appreciate you sharing it with me, because some kids just have really like, scary issues. And they don't tell us exactly all the time. She's like, I want to know what to be ready for Arden goes look, the worst that might happen. She's Arden said the worst that I can imagine happening is that if one of my devices stops working, I might have to leave. And she's like, in from a safety standpoint, my blood sugar could get low. And I might need help. And like drinking juice, she's like, I have juice with me. But even some of the things that we started to set up, we found ways around like, you know, the campus is pretty spread out in this in this little city. And we were like, well, what does she do if she's across town? And her pump site fails or something like that happens, right? And so we started talking to the school were like, could we put insulin like in different locations? And the woman's like, I don't? I don't think so. Like she's like, I mean, you would need refrigeration in a building and you'd want to put a medication in there. And I'm like, Yeah, I'm like, I don't I don't see how we could do that either. And what they landed on for that is, is that Artem basically has like a super uber card. She's got a phone number, and she can call campus security. And if and they'll whisk her back to her room, wait for her and take her back to class. That's so cool. What a good idea. Yeah, if that ever happens, which by the way, it's likely never going to happen. And even Arden said like, If that really happened, she was I wouldn't do that first because I would first see if like my roommate could just bring me like a pump and some insulin or something like right in the beginning. For like the first two weeks. She carried it with her. She took like a cold thing. She put ice in it, she put her insulin in it. She took a pump, like she was ready put it in her backpack. It was like two weeks later after she was there. And I was like, Are you still carrying insulin to school? It's a class and she goes on. I stopped doing that.

Chrysten 37:59
I was gonna say that's gonna get old real quick. Yeah. Not just Yeah. Yeah, no, I mean, I've even I having been at work a couple times with a site failure. I just leave insulin in my personal and have an extra pod, like an open one.

Scott Benner 38:15
Okay. And it's been fine. Yeah. I mean, in a regular life, like you just, you know, I've talked about on here before, like, when we leave the house, there's like a distance. And that I think of, like, if we're at least as far away, bring it with you. If you're at something that you can't, like, just stop doing. And you'd have to go home and come back again. Bring it with you. But I mean, if you're going up the street to go grocery shopping, and your pump fails, then just go home. You don't I mean? So, okay, so you go into Penn State, the end all be all of higher education, where everything is amazing. Yeah. And and what's your experience? Like?

Chrysten 38:55
In terms of diabetes? Yeah. Fine. Is that a good answer? So no, I'm getting. So yeah, it was absolutely fine. I mean, I think the biggest issue I ran into was getting going low from walking so far, because the campus is so big. That was definitely an issue from time to time, I probably made some poor choices with drinking, I'm sure. And then I that's the biggest thing I can think of, I mean, I have like, I had some moments where it was stressful. You know, like, I remember taking an exam one time, and not realizing that I had to change my pod, within X amount of hours, whatever it is, and so it started beeping in the middle of an exam. And so I took it out to, to, like, you know, make the noise stop. And I remember being so nervous because I was like, this woman is gonna think that I was cheating. You know, because I took out a device and like, hit you know, hit the ball. And then put it back in my purse. So I went up to the professor afterwards and I was like, hey, just so you know, I'm a diabetic, I was not on my phone in the middle of the exam. And she's like, Oh, I don't even notice. I was like, okay, cool. So that was most of my, you know, experience, any issues I had, the professors were lovely. And I think I can think of like, maybe three times that I had to disclose to a professor about it. And that's about it. It was pretty mundane. Honestly,

Scott Benner 40:25
I remember once in high school, we went to like back to school night, I think Arden was like a freshman. You know, we did the whole thing and tell you. It's the song and dance the teacher does. And then do you have any questions? And I said, I do have questions that how do you think her diabetes plans working out? And she goes, what? And I said, Arden, like with her insulin pump and everything. Is that all been okay. And she goes real honest. And I said, sure she was until you just mentioned I forgot Arden had diabetes. Oh, Jesus. And it's funny. You think of it as like, oh, no, like she forgot. But I thought it was like, good. Like, that's cool. Like, you mean, we have it so well planned that you don't notice it at all?

Chrysten 41:06
I guess so. I guess so I just I think of it in terms of like, god forbid something happened. The teacher should have an idea. Yeah, I mean, you're younger. Yeah. And I

Scott Benner 41:15
think she knew, but like, it wasn't top of her mind when she thought about art. She didn't think about diabetes. And I thought as you were saying, yeah, yeah, I'm sure if I, you know, by the by the way, she had remembered it when I said it wasn't like she wouldn't know you're talking about the wrong kid. But I always thought that was that spoke well, of the plan we had set up and about how Arden executes the plan. And you know, and how to be honest, it stops being a plan very soon, it just becomes a way of life.

Chrysten 41:46
That's a good point as to, I think why kids want to get rid of their diagnosis, right? When they go to college is they don't want people thinking of that. Think of their diabetes, or what have you. About them first, right? Like, that's not the first thing I want anyone to think of me is that I have diabetes, it's all these other things about me. So, and I think that comes with time. And age, honestly. So, you know, to your point on that one? Yeah,

Scott Benner 42:17
yeah. It does shine a light on the idea that, like, look, there's no doubt that I think most people don't want to be thought of as sick. Like, I think that's just, you know, they don't want to end they don't want to go through the explanation about diabetes and autoimmune and, you know, a lifelong, like, nobody wants to say that about them. They don't want to you think it? Look, you can say all you want, the people need to do their job and be nice. And they do. And that's why there are rules in place. But the truth is, is that on a, you know, on an instinctual level, we are people who we rank people, in every situation, like in every situation, we look up and we rank people pretty to ugly, powerful to weak, smart to like, it just it's just what happens like it's is it right? It's not right, it absolutely what happens if you don't believe me read Malcolm Gladwell Bill's book about what is the one about 10,000 hours, I forget what it's called. But in the first chapter, he talks about this unconscious bias, where a kindergarten teacher on day one, I'm going to get this bastardize the story a little bit probably, but identifies the attractive children. And they are kind, they are kinder to them. They're more forgiving of them. They, they treat them better. And then you go back and interview those teachers like really like scientifically interview them, they'll just ask them like, hey, you'd be nice to the blonde kid like not like that. Right? But like, pick them apart psychologically. The teachers don't know they're doing it.

Chrysten 43:50
Oh, yeah, it's definitely unconscious. Some subconscious.

Scott Benner 43:54
Yeah. And by the way, when your daughter gets to a certain age, they could be treated poorly, by jealous people. If you're a certain way, you're smarter, you're prettier, like whatever, like whatever insecurity the teacher has, if you're the mirror image of that, like you could get treated poorly. And again, if you pulled the teacher aside said, Hey, you're being you know, you're being course to that pretty girl over there. They'd be like, No, I'm not. But talk to the talk to the girl. And they'll say no, that lady hates me.

Chrysten 44:26
It's interesting. Yeah, cuz it is interesting. Yeah. Cuz we all project our own crap, whatever it is, to people without realizing it. Yeah,

Scott Benner 44:34
absolutely. So the key is, obviously people shouldn't do that. And you should defend yourself against it. But if this is the way the world works, you can't get mired down in the fight. Like you got to find a way through my opinion. You know what I mean? Like, I'm sure that's not what I'm sure any institution would say. No, our teachers shouldn't be treating you like that and yeah, okay. And but until we find a way to make people act against their own, you know, work as enemies or angels, you have to be ready to live through that, like, so that's the thing that we talked to you about art. And I said, Look, I think generally speaking in 2023, at an art school, you are going to find a lot of very agreeable people. And they are not going to hold you up over you having diabetes or a need around it. But you might bump into somebody, and and you're going to need to know how to artfully deal with that, and not just throw the rules in their face and yell, because that person still gets to give you a grade three months from now, too. And again, they'll say, Oh, I, you know, don't worry, like, you know, you're being treated very fairly and like, Sure. So if I hold you up in the first week and get into an argument with you about something that's not going to affect me later moving forward. Right? Because there's a rule i Yeah, rules are helping everybody fix in the whole world. So I think that what may be most valuable, like we always talk about this people, like how do I get ready to send my kid to college? You know, what about taking care of themselves, it's all obvious. You take care of it before you go, if you want, if you want your kid to know how to take care of their blood sugar in college, you practice at home. If you want them to know how to get past a teacher, that's an asshole, you tell them that explain it to them and explain the world to them? And if you don't understand if you're one of those people who's like, oh, no, everything's great. And this is how people should be, then you're going to be the people that get hosts sometimes. Because there's like a real world and then there's the world you're hoping to live in? And yeah, yeah. Anyway.

Chrysten 46:33
Absolutely. No. And I think like, it's a lot of I mean, I'm not a parent, but just being a counselor, right? Like, it's a lot of knowing your kid and knowing, like, where their areas of growth are, right. So like, for me, it was, I like to not advocate for myself at all right? And so that's what I had to work on. Whereas you might have kids, like you were talking about earlier, like, the other end of the spectrum, where, you know, they're 90 Diagonal down, and they're like, I'm low, I'm gonna die. I can't go. Like that kid. That kid exists, too, you know. And so, so I think it's a lot about like, knowing, you know, knowing your kid and, and, and, or the, you know, kids, students doing themselves and where, what direction they need to push themselves. And

Scott Benner 47:21
Kristen, you're saying it without saying it, right. Like we said, most people are great, but you might run into a teacher who's an asshole. Some of your kids might be assholes. Right? And you need to know that to be honest. Right, right. Like, yeah, there's

Chrysten 47:37
some, yeah, some are gonna milk it, and some are gonna be the polar opposite end of the spectrum. You know, both directions happen, right?

Scott Benner 47:46
You're such, you're the perfect person to talk about this with because, you know, the diabetes space is, is it's great about giving people information, but a lot of the times the information is static. And it's not always as helpful as it could be. It's like perfect world information. You know what I mean? Like, set up this? I mean, look, I keep reading it to you, we did it, we did the thing. Arden is covered six ways from Sunday. Okay, on paper, and then the marching orders are, if you can help it never refer to what we did. Like there's,

Chrysten 48:21
there's, it's a catch all baseline kind

Scott Benner 48:23
of thing. We're trying to cover both realities. There's the real world where you live where nobody gives a shit if you have diabetes, and there's the, you know, collegiate world where you are able to set up this accommodation, so set it up. But if you really want to succeed in life, try hard not to lean on it, because people smell that out as as weakness. Like that. It sucks, but it's true. You know, like, not everybody. Some people are very kind. By the way, I wouldn't see you as weak if you had diabetes. I don't see it. No, I mean, obviously, my daughter has type one, like, I don't see it that way at all. But there are plenty of people who are going to see an insulin pump on your arm and right away think something's wrong with them. Right. And there are competitive people in the world that you if you're not a competitive person you don't know about those people will slice your throat to take a step ahead. Yeah, and they'll use anything. They don't even care what it is. They just they're looking to be one step ahead of the next guy. And, and that's a real thing, too. So right, you know,

Chrysten 49:25
sorry, okay, I was gonna say, right, and like those, like, some people, I think, see it and they're like, oh, that's gonna be annoying. That's gonna be a problem. Like that kind of attitude towards people with diabetes, which I think is again, like you're saying, like, really slim, but there are people are out there like that. Absolutely.

Scott Benner 49:41
Oh, there are people who don't have patience for other people who are right away going, Oh, this is going to be a thing. And there are people who have already run into someone who's who have made it a thing and they're like, Oh, here's another one of them. You know what I mean? Like you're, you're running up, you're also going to meet i Listen, I don't want anybody crying. You're also going to meet a lot of lovely people who aren't We're gonna do what my daughter's profession is like, what do you got diabetes? That's fine. You need anything from me now? All right, good. If you do, let me know. Okay, good. And then bobblehead it's on its way should never think of her like that again. And that's it. And you met somebody who was cool about you taking a test, and then you know, you will, overwhelmingly the world's full of kind people, it just, I think it's just true, you know, like, overwhelmingly, most people mean, well, and they, they, they are not actively out there trying to, like, you know, cut your throat. But there are some people that are those people are out there, too, and they exist. So, you know, it's six, a one, or you got to decide, you got to decide how you're going to handle this. And the best way, in my opinion, is to be, you know, be the master of your situation really, like, like, as best you can be on top of yourself. Like, don't leave it to somebody else's decision. It's, you know, I don't know, like, you don't want to go first in the home run competition at the All Star Game person, then because if you hit 19, the next guy is going to hit 20, you want to go last? So you're in control. So you can, it's on you, right? And this is not a thing, that if you can help it, you want to put on someone else. Now, if you are really taxed by this, and and you're the other side of this, this discussion, where you're just you're not going to make it without someone else's help, then I think you have to make that clear, and find people who will act in good faith. And that yes, you don't I mean,

Chrysten 51:40
I do. And I think I think it really comes down to like, you're the expert on you. Right? It's like, you're the one who lives with it lives with it every day, and you're the one who knows yourself best and how you're gonna react to things right, like all the different variables and whatever. And so you also exactly like, you have to recognize where it is that you need help and, and where, and know that like you're the only one who can, who can advocate for yourself the best, you know what I mean? Yeah,

Scott Benner 52:12
you got to avoid having a victim mentality. And if that's who you are right, then then work on that first, before you throw yourself into the next situation. I don't know if I'm being clear about this. But I feel like I see a small amount of people who are like, I can't function, you have to help me. And Okay, everyone, like I'm for that, by the way, like accommodations are really important. But there's a spectrum there of the accommodations that are necessary. And, you know, for the people who genuinely need them who have trouble functioning, for reasons of like, you know, high anxiety, depression, like things like that physical ailments, I don't think those people are going to be treated poorly. I think that people are going to help them and they're going to follow and it's going to go, Well, I'm talking about for the other people who are just, you know, I don't know, if I'm being clear, like, I think you have to like, you have to fight for yourself. You can't just expect that things are going to be easy because you wrote it down somewhere. I think it's the argument you see online. It's the closest thing that I can say about this is one of the most argued about things on line is whether or not a person with type one diabetes should get a pass to go through lines faster in amusement parks, I have never good.

Chrysten 53:33
I've seen it blow up so many times. Yes. Every time someone posts it, I'm like, oh, here we go. Again,

Scott Benner 53:38
say the word Disney so that I can watch you all fight for two days. Because what happens is, you get these two camps, the K we deserve help camp and I or, or I need help, like, I'm not lying to you, I can't stand in this line in this heat. And the fight for yourself, be strong. It's almost like watching. It literally is the same argument around COVID When you heard people say, like, just take your vitamins and don't be fat. And I'm like, well, that's not the whole story. If you're not old and you're not heavy, you're gonna be fine. And I'm like, Ah, that seems overly simplistic, but okay. And then and then the other side, just like help me, help me. Help me, help me help me. I don't want to help myself. And then there's everybody in between. But those two sides, they it's just interesting to watch. I know, it's a weird example. But to watch people. It's accommodations, like some people do not want to be thought of as weak.

Chrysten 54:38
No, I don't think it's a weird example at all. I think it actually really is exactly what we're talking about. Because it depends on so many things. Right. It's like, it depends on where you are in your diagnosis. I think where you are currently right because diabetes changes from week to week, you know, hour an hour, week to week. Right. And I think it also really, it comes down to the question of like, I mean, the way I think of disability right is like, we have to deal with something that some other people don't. And that's really just what it comes down to. Right. And sometimes you might need, you want to, like have equity, right and level the playing field and give you give people with diabetes or whatever Right? Was the word I'm looking for shoot the shot, like a bit. Sorry, what,

Scott Benner 55:29
like a fair shot?

Chrysten 55:31
A fair shot? Yeah. So like, the ability to Yeah, it's just a donor to take care of yourself is really it? Right. Yeah. And so yeah, I think that I get why people get all up in arms about it. But really, like, it's something that people that type one diabetes, people with type one diabetes have to deal with things that people without it, don't have to deal with? Doesn't make it, you know, and it's like, it doesn't I think it's diabetes is a weird example, though, because it doesn't affect you. Like it affects you every second of the day, but at the same time, it doesn't, right. Like, it's like my,

I don't know, what's my blood sugar right now? 108. Like, whatever it's called, leveled out, right? So it's like, right now, it's not really, like, I

don't have to think about it right, the second, but then suddenly, we're low. And then we have to think about it. You know what I mean? So does that make sense? Am I talking in circles?

Scott Benner 56:20
No, you're, you're 100% make sense? I think I understand. Like, what you're saying is 1,000,000%. Right, I stand behind it. I obviously my wife and I put together like an iron clad, ask for my daughter. And yeah, and so every, I think everyone should have that. I'm not saying otherwise. I'm also saying that you shouldn't, like fall into it, like don't fall into it like a comfy bed and be like close to school, I don't have to be a class on time, I'll just tell them my blood sugar was low. Or I can turn this in three days late, because well, diabetes, and you can argue with me because I have an accommodation. And like, because that's not good for you. Like it might get you through the class, that's not going to get you through life, you are going to get to a point where you get a job one day where you're like, I can't do this, because my blood sugar was low, and your boss is gonna go, well, I need someone who can do this. So you're fired, and or we'll move you into another, like, some states can fire you for any reason. And some and some states will say, Well, we're gonna move you into a dead end job that you'll hate. And I'm gonna put somebody who can get this job done in this position. And that might not be all above board. And you might not even hear it happening. But it's gonna happen. Like, you know, people run businesses to succeed not to, you know what I mean? Like, like, you know, not, it's not a place for you to sit and go, I couldn't write my report today, in my opinion, put your effort into figuring out how to not let your blood sugar get low all the time.

Chrysten 57:50
Exactly. Exactly. Right. It can happen. Like I mean, even like, as an adult, right? Like, I can think of maybe a couple times I had to go in to work late in whatever five years that I'm like, I'm sorry, like, I'm sorry, I cannot I'm really wrestling with this low. I'm going to be a few minutes late, right? But if I did that every day.

Scott Benner 58:12
Christian doesn't come to work. The the, the reasons almost aren't important. I saw a friend of mine. Why do simple words leave me a person who works with them? What is the person who works with you, a colleague, Jesus, oh, my God. And so yeah, my friend of mine has this colleague who has a fairly like, you know, bad, like anxiety issue. And they'll say, like, this person hasn't been in work for three months. And like, I'm all for their health and everything. But we're behind significantly now because of this. And so they bring in another person to, you know, help carry the load. And it starts going well, and then a month later, the person wants to come back to work. And they're like, I want my job back now. And they're like, Well, someone else is doing it. Now. We give you a different job, you know, and then the person is all upset. They're like, Well, you didn't hold my job for me. And they're like, No, we held your job. You know, this is your job. Still, you but you're not involved in this part of it anyway. And I was like, I'm like, what? They were mad. And she's like, Yeah, and I was like, That's interesting, isn't it? Like, because everyone just sees their own side. Like, like, the employee is not thinking about the business, and the business is doing what they're legally supposed to do. And, you know, at the business level, and in the human level, people have a ton of compassion and empathy for the colleague. And so like everybody's, and there's an example where the person just can't, there's nothing they can do about it. But if that if their anxiety was a low blood sugar because they don't know how to Bolus for dinner, but we could teach you how to Bolus for dinner, then let's put some effort into that and keep you out of this. Mr. Ghosh, which is huge, and I don't want to go into what it means right now, but it's a big mess. Okay. Like you don't like you know, Word do what? Aren't you Catholic? Yeah, I was gonna say you by the way, not to generalize but you look Catholic. I was gonna name is Catholic.

Chrysten 1:00:11
I was gonna say you could tell them Catholic.

Scott Benner 1:00:12
Yeah, you're like out of anxiety, anxiety. By the way, I tried to look up the Yiddish word I missed. I missed I came up with a completely different word. So I can't do it for you right now. Now I want to find it. I got it. I got I got it. All right. It's Yiddish. mishegoss craziness, senseless behavior activity. Synonyms are of course, like foolery. indulgence, lunacy, tomfoolery. I'm not saying that your thing is tomfoolery. I'm saying that if you can avoid this, then freaking avoid it. And and if you can, if you can't, then right on Lin, let's lean on it and get it like get you into a position where you can because the playing field should be level. Like I'm behind that. 100% By the way, there are plenty of people who are not behind that idea. Oh, no, I know. Yeah, absolutely. So they're gonna be in the world, too. And there are people who are just gonna see life as a race. And if you don't, if you can't run as fast as them, then you lose. And that's that. So I don't see it that way. I do think you deserve, you know, a level playing field. And,

Chrysten 1:01:22
yeah, just that and just not to get beat up by me. Like, it's like, all right. You all sit down and chill woman in and then come back? You know, I don't know. I kind of think of it that

Scott Benner 1:01:33
we don't want to graduate from college and feel like you just fought the Second World War, right? Like, you know, like, yeah, like, I went to college, it was a valuable experience for me. I had a reasonable time. Yeah, it didn't feel like somebody was fighting against you constantly. But you know, not that that has anything to do with this. But other people. I was making this point to someone last night, I hope my son doesn't mind if I share this. But he's got his first job. And he's telling me some stories about how it's going. And it's going well, he is being recognized. And they're teaching him next level things where he sees that some of the people he came in with are not being taught these things. And so everything to him is indicating that he's doing like, well, you know what I mean? And I just he tells me the story. And I said, that sounds like you're doing well. And he goes, I don't know. And I went Wait, what? He goes, I don't know, it seems like it but I'm not sure. And I really thought about that. And I realized it was from growing up playing baseball. Where it's not always about how good you are. Sometimes it's about if that kid's parents made a donation to a building? Or if that guy's dad is a coach, or owns the training facility you work at? Or is the neighbor of a guy like you have, like the politics in like kids sports is insane. And it goes right through high school and you think, Oh, I'll make it to college. It won't exist. They're both there. It's just about money. Like, you know what I mean? Like it's an and so what I realized is that my son has been taught that it doesn't matter how good he does, there could be an unseen force stopping him. A thing that he can't possibly know exists until the day he walks out on the field and says, why is that person playing? That doesn't make any sense. And then you said, Yeah, and so and it's following him into his into his adult life.

Chrysten 1:03:38
That's, that's interesting. Because when you said that, initially, I was thinking, the transition from having being in school to having your first job, I think it's tough. Also, because in school, you're graded on things, and you're constantly getting feedback. And then you go into the work working world and you're like, does anyone want to give me an A for this email that I wrote? No,

Scott Benner 1:04:01
no, my, my competitiveness runs through my children. So they're there. They're trying to win. Right? He's at his job trying to win, because he sees it as an ability to get a different job, and to win at that job so that he can like he does see the world like, to some degree that he also, by the way, isn't a person who would do something that he doesn't enjoy. He turned down a really I'm gonna go as far as they lucrative offer to do a thing that he just didn't jive with. Oh, and I was like, huh, I was really proud of him. He turned down an opportunity. Try to imagine a six figure opportunity out of college. Because he was like a 22 year old. Yeah, he ideologically did not align with what the job would have been. Wow. And he said I would rather make less money than do that. So I was very proud of him then. Yeah, you know, I grew up broke. I would have I would have If I would have done anything, I would have been like it's fine. kill puppies. Sure. Like, you know, no, I wouldn't have done that. But you don't I mean, like he. He was just like, No, I don't. It's like, I don't see myself being involved in that. And I was like, okay. Oh, yeah,

Chrysten 1:05:16
well was proud dad moment. Yeah, I think, see, I think when I was like 22, I would have had principles, but now I'm like, Nah, I would have taken them on.

Scott Benner 1:05:27
Pay me. Well, maybe. But what I also took from that was that he feels safe. Yes, yeah. Which I was also comfortable with. But then like I said, you get to this next thing, and why am I telling you the story of my son like going? I don't know, I guess I'm doing okay. It's because the system can sometimes work against you. And it sometimes will be in ways you see, and sometimes it'll be in ways you can't see, but you will feel it afterwards. And oh, yeah. And people don't deserve that. Especially if it's around a medical thing. That's just, that should not happen. And that's why you set one of these things up. So I think I've made my point at this point, person. I don't know.

Chrysten 1:06:07
No, I think I think you did. No, absolutely. It's just you know, it's just in case it's like a just in case plan is how I how I really think of it. But I don't want to be like I the vast majority of people I've interacted with have been lovely about it. Quite honestly, like, even bought like bosses and, and co workers and whatever. They've been absolutely lovely. I actually had a boss at my first job at a college we had to. I was at a high school. So we had to teach as well as counsel and I went so low. And I was like, Listen, I'm really sorry. I was like, Can you watch my class for a few minutes? Like, I got to sit? And she was so lovely. She she was like, yeah, no problem. She watched my class. And so I went back in, you know, however, many minutes later, and I'm teaching and she comes back, my boss comes back into my class, and I'm like, What's she doing here? And she hands me a juice box. And I was like, That's so nice. Like, oh, I talked to her about it afterwards. And she was like, you know, I just thought about, like, what you go through and, and I really, I thought what I needed in that moment would have been a juice. And so I just wanted to bring you a juice. That was amazing. Yeah, thank you. She was so so sweet. And so and that's been my experience with most people have been so lovely. Every once in a while, you know, you get an asshole. It's it. You know, that's the world, right? Yeah.

Scott Benner 1:07:32
What are you gonna do? Right? Listen, I feel like I've been, I feel I'm a downer here. But I want to say that I agree with you, the great many people that Arden has intersected with have been terrific. And in the vague talk, you know, few times that she's had a problem, no one has pushed back. And I think that there's, you have to look a little bit about who you are in the situation to like when artists had a real problem, even though it can't be substantiated. Nobody has said to her, I don't believe you because she's a person who generally doesn't take advantage of it and doesn't seem like somebody who would try to take advantage of their situation. And so the person who interacts with her says, Yeah, that's fine. And it's been from I mean, she told her story about having a seizure after her prom, right. And one of the first things she did when she got her wits about her was to email a teacher and say, Hey, I just had a seizure. And I don't think I'm gonna have this thing in tomorrow. And the guy? Yeah. And the guy's like, why are you? Like, why? Like, why are you beginning to tell me and I think that's why she didn't have a problem, because she's a person who, after coming out of a seizure, thought about our responsibilities. And then the teacher knows that about her. And so there's no problem. And it is as much about how you present yourself as it isn't about anything else. If you're if you come off as a problem to people all the time, then that's going to be their, that's going to be their first thought when when you intersect with them, they're going to be like, oh, here, this comes again. You know, and so, it is a little on you to it is yeah, that's how you put yourself into the world. And I mean, I think people when they see these topics, what they want is like, give me a list of things to say you don't I mean, or do or write down and a lot of times it's not that easy. Like a lot of times there's work for you to do you know and and I will like I said I'll share this document my wife put so much effort into it. It's so clear people could add from it subtract from it, they could use it as it is however they would want to do, but you know, little things like Wi Fi, here's what they don't tell you to college. You're paying them all the money in the world and they didn't spend any money on their Wi Fi system. It sucks.

Chrysten 1:09:44
The Wi Fi is horrible. Yeah, everywhere I've ever been. Yeah,

Scott Benner 1:09:46
terrible, terrible Wi Fi a college. Food is bad nutritionally.

Chrysten 1:09:53
Oh, don't get me started, right? I distinctly sidenote, I remember. I used to eat the sip. particular sandwich when I was in college and and then I noticed one day I was like, Oh, the nutrition facts are on here. I don't have to guess the carbs or whatever. I called my mother like borderline crying. I was like, Do you know how much fat is in this sandwich? Eating? Like, what? Like every other day? I was like, What is going? Yeah, it's not the food was rough

Scott Benner 1:10:18
food, the food's bad. Like it's nutritionally, like, it might even taste good. You might be like, Oh, it's amazing here, but it's not going to be like clean. And, and it's going to impact your blood sugar. Yes, you're going to be surprised that when you have a medical issue at school, they're going to tell you to go off campus to urgent care and take care of yourself. There's no school nurse sitting around waiting to help you. So that doesn't exist. And even housing. Like, I'll tell you my son was sick for his whole freshman year, and I think it was because of his housing. Oh,

Chrysten 1:10:53
yeah, absolutely. That's the that actually. Sorry, that brings to mind that there was one episode with the girl. She like went up to each of her professors and said that she was a diabetic or something. And they were all just like, okay, it was so the way she told his daughter was so funny. Like, she was just like, trying to be like, all proactive. And they were like, We don't

Scott Benner 1:11:14
care. I don't care. Yeah, yeah. Birthday. Yeah. Because people don't understand, like, half the podcast exists because people don't understand diabetes down to the people who you're sometimes counting on for medical help. Oh, yeah. And so to just go to like, I know, people want to look at somebody go, oh, that's a college professor. It's a person. You don't I mean, it's just a dude. Yeah. And you know, your doctor, a cop, your college professors, the lady at the grocery store, Donald, just people, likely 80% of them, if someone would just give them a free bag of money once a month would not show up at this thing. You know, and you're like, I have diabetes, and they're probably thinking my wife cheats on me. What do you want? Like, like, like, me, like, I got my own problems. And, and I don't like this job. And I'm doing it like you really like put yourself in other people's shoes sometimes, like, you're coming to them and giving them more to do. Yeah. And you're not offering them or you don't like, hey, great news. I have diabetes, but your pay is going up $3 an hour. They'd be like, Oh, well, right on, tell me about your hypoglycemia, you know, but we're just saying like, here's another thing to be responsible for, to be worried about. And you're not going to make another penny. And so there's certain people are going to hear that and be like, Oh, God, leave me alone. You know, and I'm just telling you, like, everybody is not Mr. Rogers.

Chrysten 1:12:42
No, no, they're not. And honestly, sometimes it's better if they're not sometimes if they're just Okay, cool. That's, that's sometimes easier, quite honestly, at least in my experience, go do your thing. Like, yeah, like, no one cares.

Scott Benner 1:12:54
I joke about this. Sometimes there's that there's that guy. It's like, really? I don't know. Obviously, I don't listen to his podcast. But like, in the zeitgeist, I'm aware of him. He's like a marine or something. Or he was a Marine. Like he says to people, like, who's who's gonna carry the boat or something? It's like a SEAL Fit. I don't know. Obviously, Chris, and I don't pick things up. His message is, I'll do it. Right, like, hard things need to be done all take care of it. Oh, I see. Yeah. Like, I'm not counting on you. Are you? Are you I'll carry the boat. like that idea. I guess the boats get carried somewhere. Again, if you were counting on me, we probably would have lost every major war. I don't know the ins and outs of the boat. Yeah, but apparently, if a boat needs to be carried somewhere, this guy is going to pick it up over his head and take off with it. I'm gonna stand in the back and go, Hey, my knee hurts. Can you guys get this? So. But the point is, is that it's that it's that idea of like, something needs to be done. I'm going to do it. Not I'm gonna wait for someone else to do it. Or I'm gonna bring them a note that explains why I don't have to do it. Like, you know what I mean? Like, and if you're, if you're in a situation where I don't know, the boat needs to be carried and you're not a good person to carry the boat, perhaps look for a different situation. You know, like, I'm not saying, you know, give up on something. Because it's hard. But I mean, if there's a reality where you don't like if you're a square peg, and you're trying to get into a round hole, like eventually you're gonna have to realize that I don't know. Is being honest. a bummer.

Chrysten 1:14:32
No, no, no, no, I think this is all like the actual reality of what it looks like. You know that you know what I mean? Like it? No, I don't think so. It is what it isn't. And not to mention, like, everybody, so many people, everybody has their shit. You know, like, it's like, I can't tell you how many kids have this disorder and this and the other thing, right? Like diabetes is just one of them. You know?

Scott Benner 1:14:59
One person said one Time, like I, I, I wanted to be a fighter pilot. I think that was the example. And they were kind of like, but I have diabetes now. So I can't do it and they were pissed. And I get them being pissed. Right. It's incredibly disappointing and like life altering and angering, and it's not like, don't get me wrong, I understand all of that. And I also understand why the government might not want you flying a $30 million jet through there. Sure, yeah. Makes sense to me. And so like, not fair, but practical, you know, like, and so, you know, and now there's better technology. And you're seeing people be pilots, like for major airlines who have type one and stuff like that. And that's all great. Like, if there's a way to do it, that's great. But prior to that, 20 years ago, you know, what people knew about diabetes is sometimes John passes out. You there's no CGM, like you don't even Oh, yeah, like, I can't put I can't let John fly the planes, like, John passes out sometimes. And now, I'm using someone's name. I don't mean to use because I think there's actually a guy named John who does this. If John, if you're listening, I didn't mean you could try to pick a generic name, Kristen. And look what happened to me. But like, now, there's now there's this stuff and like now, suddenly this, it's okay. And that's amazing. It's great. But anyway, I just, I don't know, I feel like I'm trying to defend both sides and one voice and it gets confusing that way. But you're gonna,

Chrysten 1:16:25
I don't think it's confusing. Like, it's, I mean, like, I don't know, as a counselor, like, I'm always, like, my thing I always say is, it's all about balance, right? It's like, you know, you don't want to go too far in one direction and be like, okay, little Johnny, do your, you know, you got this, do diabetes by yourself. But you also don't want to like, you know, be be a be super melodramatic about it. Right. And so yeah, no, I think it's all about balance and finding, you know, finding what works best for you.

Scott Benner 1:16:52
People Deserve support. And, yes, they deserve all that goes along with that. And people also should be practical. And this is my, just my opinion that that's all. Yeah, I agree. Yeah. And I'm assuming that when you say to somebody in your in your profession, look, we have to find balance in the back of your head, what your thinking is like, you got to figure this out for yourself. Like you have to see, like the reality of it and try to find your way through it.

Chrysten 1:17:22
Yes. And I think, you know, as a counselor, it's also like that thought, and I'm here to help you do that. You know what I mean? Like, I'm here to bring it down as much as we can with you. So that, you know, to make it easier, but you got to I tell them all the time, I'm like, You got to meet me halfway. Like I can't do all the work for you. You know?

Scott Benner 1:17:40
Yeah, yeah, absolutely. Yeah. Anyway, I just think that everybody doesn't fit into every situation. No, and that I have sometimes seen people say, I think it's in the pursuit of the, of the advocacy is what I mean, in the in pursuit of advocacy, and proving that anyone can do anything. That which I believe, you just, it's not everybody. It's the guy that you know what I mean, it's that girl who was on the show a few months ago, right? You know, when her legs don't function, and she's out in a wheelchair, like racing in the streets or something like that. And like, she's the one who does that. We all don't do that. You don't even like she's a special person. In that situation, the guy that picks the boat up and runs. It's not everybody, you don't I mean, and so I like it when people like, I have been at the forefront of this for 15 years with my daughter, every one of her 504 plans through school was incredibly detailed, but as streamlined as possible. It covered her for every situation that we could think of where someone or thing or the machine might come along and mess her up. But then we steadfastly tried never to use it. But that's just how we've done it the whole time. And we end because you run a risk of treating someone like they can't. And then maybe it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy to which I think you know what I mean? Like, you have to be careful of that. You have to be careful not to aim too low. I think that makes sense. Yeah.

Chrysten 1:19:18
Because no, it doesn't make sense. It's, yeah, it's like, it's like that like learned helplessness. You don't want to like make people feel like they can't do it. But you also don't want to like Like, like, like I was saying with the balance before right. But you also don't want to like miss the second half, but you also don't want to, like leave them on their own either. Right? Like it's Yeah,

Scott Benner 1:19:41
I mean, yeah, by the way, you look how smart you are. You said learned helplessness. That's like a fancy word.

Chrysten 1:19:48
That one I pulled deep from the depths of some somewhere I don't

Scott Benner 1:19:52
know right out here but like, I know this one from somewhere.

Chrysten 1:19:56
It was I might even used it wrong. So please don't

Scott Benner 1:19:59
know i It made sense to me when you said it. I just love how I was just like pulling basic words out of my mouth. You're like, yeah, learned helplessness. I'm like, Oh, that's not what that is.

Chrysten 1:20:10
I paid attention for like a day in college.

Scott Benner 1:20:12
Well, yeah, well, you know, Penn State and watching that football in the snow and drinking, there was nothing else right?

Chrysten 1:20:19
That is pretty much what I did. Yeah, but I did pay attention to the learned helplessness lecture that one day you heard that thing? That one day? Yeah. went to class.

Scott Benner 1:20:27
Weren't you trapped in a valley? Yes. No worries about that ever. No. Like, what if it snowed, you were just caught there and they couldn't get food in and y'all had to start eating yourselves like animals or something like that.

Chrysten 1:20:41
That kind of sounds like we would just drink if that happened. Yeah, if we had snow days, we would just drink all day. It was fun. Those Penn State

Scott Benner 1:20:47
flags are really they're like markers, right? People drop beer at your house. That's why they're all in front of everybody's houses.

Chrysten 1:20:54
Yeah, there's like an underground society kind of thing. And we just like, you know, we go through the tunnels and we drink

Scott Benner 1:21:00
and say it's one of those schools that if you drive too far away from here, and you say Penn State people go, I don't know what you're talking about. But if you say if you say it around here, you might think that that Harvard,

Chrysten 1:21:11
yeah. Oh, 1000 Present. You know, it's funny to like, I, it all have pens, T shirts and stuff. And if I were in Pennsylvania, you know how people say like we are, right. But someone will just say we are at me. And I'm like, hello, what? Because I forget like, because I don't live in Pennsylvania anymore. And I'm like, oh, yeah, that's I forgot that.

Scott Benner 1:21:32
We are. I'd be blowing like a like a rape. Plus, I didn't get away from me. I don't know what's happening. Crazy people.

Chrysten 1:21:41
It's always when you forget you're wearing the shirt. So I'm like, Are you talking to me? Like, what's happening? I'm so awkward to so

Scott Benner 1:21:46
you're so awkward. I've never seen people more fervently supportive of a college before. And sometimes, people who didn't even go there. Oh, yeah. 1,000% That freaks me out. I gotta be honest, that one freaks me out. Like you have a pet snake like you and nobody in your family went to Penn State. I'm like, okay.

Chrysten 1:22:07
Just Just don't you know, that's one of those. Like, if you can't beat him, join it and kind of,

Scott Benner 1:22:12
please, everyone can beat you just fine. Penn State makes low draft, low draft pick running backs. And they used to make offensive lineman. I don't even know if they do that anymore. So

Chrysten 1:22:24
I don't we haven't been so good the past couple years.

Scott Benner 1:22:27
Do you? Did you go to those games? Yeah. Did you care about football at all? Yes. Okay. I did. It was. It was amazing venue. It was like you cared about football?

Chrysten 1:22:39
Oh, no, we care very much. It was also a drink. It was. Well, that's a whole nother story. The drinking is a little alarming sometimes. But that's me as an adult. But

Scott Benner 1:22:50
that's my opinion as as an adult who has now sent two kids to college if you if what you're worried about is let me hear. Let me look if what you're worried about is the ability to take breaks during class, including during test projects to self treat, or to attend to diabetes devices. For example, an insulin pump. I think what you're, you're, I think you're I think your concern should be more about Molly. Write one of these papers for your kid and should say, Hey, don't do Molly. And don't drink so much that you forget where you are for a day and a half. Like these are the things that anyway, you get what I'm saying? Like it's a little I don't know. I'm always interested in why.

Chrysten 1:23:31
Yeah, we could probably talk about that for another two hours, honestly. But But yeah, it uh it's there's dangers involved in all these things.

Scott Benner 1:23:39
Well, do me a favor for a second year. We I've taken you over time already. But do me a favor here for a second here. Tell the people who don't know. Like, really? How much? How many days a week did you drink?

Chrysten 1:23:54
Three? Ish, I would average out I would say okay, sometimes is for

Scott Benner 1:24:01
you smoke the devil's weed at all while you were there at Penn State? No, no. Anything else? Take a Xanax. No, no little bit of code. Kirsten. No, obviously, you were pretty good. Now all those things I just mentioned. Did you see them going on around you?

Chrysten 1:24:20
Oh, sure. Did. Yeah. Okay.

Scott Benner 1:24:23
Do you remember the first time you thought oh, wow, people do heroin. That's interesting.

Chrysten 1:24:29
I didn't want it to go. It was alarming though. I was like, what? Yeah, no, I didn't dabble. Honestly, and quite honestly, because of the diabetes. I was like, I don't know what that's gonna do to that. And let's not play that

Scott Benner 1:24:42
game, but cocaine's pretty big and colleges, right. Yes, I've heard that. You've heard that. Good. You keep talking like that. Because you're in the world now. I understand. Yeah. And so it's not just like, I don't know. It's not making sure you have a mini refrigerator that won't over. It won't freeze it. So have

Chrysten 1:25:02
bigger fish to fry.

Scott Benner 1:25:04
I remember sitting in an orientation meeting for my son when he was a freshman. And this parent who obviously was very anti drinking, said, What are you going to do to make sure my kid doesn't drink? And the guy at the front of the room was like nothing? Yeah, that was like it. There's like, what do you think we're going to? What are you talking about? Like, we're not in charge of that. And a woman was like, mortified. She's like, wait, no one's gonna, like, make sure. And he's like, No, he's like, they're, you know, they're 18. It's illegal to drink, obviously. But you know, we don't police them. Right. And that's what I heard him say was if they can get it to their room and keep it quiet. That's that. And, and, yeah, she was like, Oh, okay. And then, then the then this lovely woman stepped up to the lectern. And she, that's when she gave the stats that I know what she's like, Look, if it makes you feel any better. It's about 5050. Half the kids will come here and leave and never drink once. And her woman did not look comforted by like they'd like she knew that the only thing standing between her child in Obliteration was active monitoring. And she just walked out so defeated.

Chrysten 1:26:18
And I saw that poor woman, she probably saw our life flash before us.

Scott Benner 1:26:22
I felt bad for I also know people who have had to pull their kids out of college because they couldn't stop drinking. Yeah, no, it is really serious. Yeah, it's not it's it's no like, anyway. I don't know if the fish are bigger to fry. But there are other fish to fry, you probably should think about all that. And I'm being very serious, from my perspective on the diabetes front. Like, I know that some people listen to this podcast and think that guy just took care of his daughter's diabetes, and she's going to be in so much trouble when she leaves. And by the way, that's not true. You weren't listening to the whole thing. We were very slowly giving Ardens care off to her for years. So as not to overwhelm her. She got there and she really liked picked the mantle up. And she she's running with it. Like she's doing a really good job.

Chrysten 1:27:08
I'm so happy I was I was vicariously worried. Not not worried that you just because it's new, you know. But as I was listening, I was like, she's got it. Come on,

Scott Benner 1:27:19
come on. Does it feel like this is interesting? Does it feel oddly, as a person who listens to the podcast that like if art and succeeds, then that makes all of this? Okay? And what if she failed? Like, would it feel terrible if the kid who everything I know went off to school and was like, Yeah, buy it once? He's 10? And like, would that would that be defeating as a listener? Do you think?

Chrysten 1:27:44
For me personally, no, but I'm also older. I think, I don't know. I think well, I'm also kind of like a little hippie dippie. But like, I don't know, I think like, everybody kind of goes through their own journey with it, you know what I mean? So like, maybe her journey was like, hypothetically, like, she kind of screwed up for a couple years and then got back together. Hey,

Scott Benner 1:28:05
I will tell you, from my perspective, I've always been like, this is definitely what's gonna happen, like, she's just gonna be like, going, I don't know what to do. Like it'll, but it, it worked out. And I don't want to just say it worked out like, hey, like, I threw it up to God. And it worked. You know, like, I we were very purposeful. And about it, like had a very long range view of it. I've never been a person who's like throwing things on or all at once me, like, hear you take like, your mom was like, now she's got it, don't worry. You're like, wait, what? But, but we did that very slow. There's teaching moments, we've set her up with technology as best we can, that it's going to help her and there are days as much effort as I see her putting into it. And I really do see a ton of effort from her. I still think I don't know without an algorithm. I mean, this would be a show. Like really sleeping. You don't I mean, like sleeping. Like she she has maybe a low like once or twice a month at night. And they're, they're manageable. Like, you know, I'll text her and I'll be like, Hey, are you aware of this? And she'll be like, Yeah, I just did something about it. Or, and she also this is interesting. At home, will not wake up with her blood sugar's low at college has never not woken up for her low blood. Ah, interesting. Like she said, I can feel it in my sleep. And I wonder if that wasn't like a little bit of the thrusting of that responsibility for her. Like if she did, if she didn't look at that and think, Well, who's gonna carry the boat? I guess it's me. You don't me. Right. You know, so right. I should figure out who actually said that. So I'm not like, you want to google it when they first second who

Chrysten 1:29:53
I mean? Yeah. Well, I'm curious. So you mean the person actually physically carried a boat?

Scott Benner 1:29:58
I don't think it's like Like it's not like the SS minnow. You know what I mean? Like, it's smaller than that. They're like, Alright, hold on. It's David Goggins. He's got an incredibly popular podcast. He's written books. I don't obviously don't know a lot about them, but he's like a motivational speaker. Is this from? Or is it Cameron Haynes? Oh, there's a lot of these motivational guys who could pick me up and break me in half if they needed to. I mean, there's T shirts, it says, who's going to carry the boat? So

Chrysten 1:30:30
now me,

Scott Benner 1:30:33
you're like, Get out of here. Do you want to like the boat? It looks like, uh, hold on a second. This is like we're in. We're, by the way people listening. We're done. Now. You can go if you want to. Oh, it's like so like one of those really heavy, like inflatable? Like, like six guys fit thing. But oh, okay. But it looks like it wouldn't split if you hit it with an axe. Okay, and it looks really heavy. So

Chrysten 1:31:04
I can't stop envisioning like Hercules, the cartoon character?

Scott Benner 1:31:09
By himself. Yeah, yeah, that's not this.

Chrysten 1:31:12
That's all I can picture in my head every time you said it. And and whenever you said who was going to carry the boat? I was like, I don't know. But I would definitely get someone else to do.

Scott Benner 1:31:20
Like, I mean, the guy that I call or pay? Well, hopefully, I think that if they heard that they'd be like, yeah, that's why we're here, by the way, because you know, when the hits the fan, were the only ones that are going to show up. And they're, by the way that I think they're right. I've always maintained that if I was on the Mayflower the first body of whatever we got to I'd be like, we could just live here. It's fine. I don't know how to get on the other side of that. This is this is good right here. But yeah, oh, yeah. These are like big heavy. Like boats. Oh,

Chrysten 1:31:48
that's cool. Okay, I never heard this before. This is new. I'm gonna Google it later.

Scott Benner 1:31:52
Yeah, it's for me. It's it's, I've only obviously ever heard it like, firsthand. Quite obviously. To me. That's what it means. Like, to me it means like, I have to do this. Like it. No one else is gonna do this. I'm gonna do it.

Chrysten 1:32:06
And unless it's me, and then I'm never gonna do it. No, but you did.

Scott Benner 1:32:09
You did. You carried your own boat. Right?

Chrysten 1:32:14
The metaphorical boat but the physical boat. I'm definitely getting someone else to do

Scott Benner 1:32:17
it. But you carried your I think the boat is like, you know, doesn't have Why are you giving me until I know you are but I mean, like, why are you busting my balls now? Like we've been doing?

Chrysten 1:32:30
I know. I was just like, You know what I'm gonna, I'm, you know, I was being nice. And I just professional and shit. And now

Scott Benner 1:32:36
you're like, This is where I'm putting my flag in the sand. Dammit. I can pick up a boat. Like, why are you being so literal?

Chrysten 1:32:44
Just a massive deal. I had to mess with you.

Scott Benner 1:32:46
Oh my god. That's how my wife fights don't do that. It makes it gives me odds. I'm like, Oh, we got we're gonna get literal. That's not what we were doing.

Chrysten 1:32:58
It's a full circle. You told me about that in the beginning. So yeah,

Scott Benner 1:33:01
I know. Also, I appreciate that. Oh, nothing, nothing better storytelling, then bring it all back around at the end. Is there anything we did? By the way? What in the hell did you want to come on here and talk about just this?

Chrysten 1:33:14
I guess so. Yeah, pretty much. I didn't even know. I was all I was all like feeling adamant about it in the middle of our summer program. And now it's got so hopefully it was good.

Scott Benner 1:33:24
Well, I think that's interesting, too, that at some point, when you were in the thick of it. It felt like life or death. And now six months later, you're like, I don't know. Just don't be a dick. It'll be alright.

Chrysten 1:33:36
Pretty much. And you know, it's funny, because I was like, I don't know, a couple of weeks ago. I was like, I was like, oh, yeah, I don't know what I'm going to talk about. And then I was like, someone actually posted in the Facebook group. They were like, what, what advice do you have on transitioning to college? And I was like, oh, okay, this is still relevant.

Scott Benner 1:33:52
Awesome. Oh, it's always relevant. But the advice. Here's the can I give you the man? Any short, anything you think of that you need advice for? Here's the advice. Use common sense. It doesn't make it doesn't make a good podcast, but just use your common sense. And if you're at a loss for common sense, ask a friend. And if things are always going wrong for you assume you don't have the greatest common sense. Universe is out to get you. By the way, the universe isn't out to get you you make bad decisions. It's not your

Chrysten 1:34:34
I love talking to people like that, though, when they're when you're just like, Uh huh. And and it's just like, stupid decision after stupid decision. You're like, Oh, I've been

Scott Benner 1:34:43
a problem comes up and you go, that's what you think to do when you hear that. Like, wow, okay. Like no judgment. Like, I don't know how you got here. But like, that's not that's not I mean, it's not just my opinion, like that's nowhere near right. You that I can see where that's going to lead you poorly. And and I listen, I had a private conversation with the lady that helped us set up Arden's thing. And very privately she said, like, some of these people are just I don't want to say and she she wouldn't. She just she did one of those like Homina Homina Homina. Like, I don't want to say what I'm thinking here. But a lot of these people aren't really in the situation they think they're in. And some people and some people she said, just want to be angry. And she said in some people just want to assert a dominance over the situation. Like you have to do this because I have XYZ. And these are the rules and this is your job and do what I say. She said, there's a lot of that. And, yeah, we got done. And she's She thanked us. She said, This is the easiest My job's ever been in my entire life. She said,

Chrysten 1:35:57
Yeah, I would imagine they have to they spend a lot of time like weeding through information. No, and you did it for them.

Scott Benner 1:36:05
The vibe from her was she spent a lot of her time with very difficult people. That's what that's all we all Yeah, well, that's what that's basically and by the way, not a lovelier person, but you meet and genuinely concerned for everyone and had a child and had a child of their own, who had needs. And it's their own accommodations. And so was she was genuinely empathetic and sympathetic and motivated. Like, she was great at her job. But she's still trying to tell you that there are a lot of people in here just being a pain in the ass for no real reason. Right? And, and I was like, oh, it's interesting. So she's like, so thank you for not only setting up a great plan, that I have no trouble putting into action, but for not being in here basically asking, you know, for a Ferris wheel. You know, my baby needs something unreasonable. Or you don't I mean,

Chrysten 1:37:00
blah, blah, blah. Someone to carry on and around in a boat.

Scott Benner 1:37:05
What we need it for guys are with Arden wants to approve of them first. And they they should be shirtless constantly. She said, Isn't that interesting? And she wants them to put her in a rubber boat and carrier from class to class. And you have to do this because she could get low if she walks too much. Yeah, and yeah, there was nothing out of bounds or crazy or over the top that was asked for just you know. Anyway, all right, we're done. You were great. Thank you. I talked too much.

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