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Ashley's son wa diagnosed a year ago. He uses an iLet pump. 

• Diagnosed unexpectedly at a well visit, now using the iLet pump without doctor guidance.

• Managing puberty, sports, and challenges with consistent bolusing.

• Support from unexpected places has made a big impact.

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Scott Benner 0:00
Ashley's son was diagnosed about a year ago. He's 12 years old. We're going to talk a little bit about their diagnosis, and a lot of talk actually about their new eyelet pump, which was given to them with no help from the doctor. Surprise

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Ashley 2:18
Okay, hello world. I'm Ashley, and I'm here talking about my son who got diagnosed a year ago. Okay, unexpectedly, very unexpectedly. So I'm here to talk about that with you. Scott master Jedi,

Scott Benner 2:33
unlike Oh, I didn't know you're gonna say something nice about me. I wouldn't have talked over you. I'm so nice, so so nice. Yeah, I mean, I do you think most people are like, get diagnosed with things? They're like, I knew this was coming. I've got lambago. Like, or, you know what I mean, what is lambago?

Speaker 1 2:47
Well, I didn't know what lambago I I knew as much as what you just said, as I knew what type one diabetes was when he got diagnosed. Let's just go with

Scott Benner 2:57
that. Yeah, you just didn't have any knowledge of it. It wasn't in your life. It was not

Speaker 1 3:01
in my life. It was not in my family history. It type two was in my husband's family history. His grandfather had it so he had the sugars, as some would say, but he was in his 80s, and didn't really take that great of care, but at the same time, he did the best he could. But yeah, I didn't, I didn't really even know the difference between type one and type two. We went in for a well visit for Trevor. It's my son's name, and we had no idea, virtually no symptoms, besides being a angsty tween. Gotcha

Scott Benner 3:38
Wait, listen, let's go backwards for a second. First of all, lumbago is a general term used to describe pain in the lower back it can be caused by various factors such as muscle strain, etc. Anyway, it's lower back pain. There you go. There you go. Okay, that makes sense. It's got to be something I've heard like on an old TV show, because that seems like a word from like, like, hold on, when in time? Would this word be used frequently? Okay, it's got to be, like a, like an old timey word on a second. Also you said you're nervous. So I'm going to try to, like, figure it out the late 19th and early 20th century. Well, guess what? I don't know what that means, because I grew up in American my schooling was terrible. Well, wait a minute, when did the 20th century start? I just realized that nobody knows 1901

Speaker 1 4:28
really, I don't know. I think it was on Jeopardy some point,

Scott Benner 4:31
1901 god damn Ashley, get out of here.

Unknown Speaker 4:35
You know, well

Scott Benner 4:36
done. All right. Now people are like, Oh, wait, he doesn't know general knowledge. I'm making my meal bonuses off of something. He said, Okay, so you're not expecting it. You go in for a well visit. You said he was being a little cranky. How old was he then I'm sorry he

Speaker 1 4:54
was oh, let's see. Well, he his birthday wasn't. Year

Scott Benner 5:00
ago, how old was he now he's 12. So was he like, 11?

Speaker 1 5:04
Yeah, he was 11. We had the well, visit a little later than his birthday. So yes, he was 11. I

Scott Benner 5:10
want people listening to know before we go any farther, Ashley, that you and I have had a brisk half an hour to get to know each other while you're figuring out how headphones work. And so this isn't just me, like, jumping in and being snarky with a person who I met six seconds ago, like you and I, yeah, you and I are basically, like dating now. You know, we've been through like, a number, honestly, that's true. She did. She heated up, took off a layer of clothing, and I thought this is going great, actually. But what I said was, turn your camera off. I don't need to see this, although now I feel weird, Ashley, anyone would be lucky to see you take your shirt off. Okay,

Speaker 1 5:48
so I do, I do have multiple layers on. I just want to be clear. Yes, in

Scott Benner 5:52
fairness, she wasn't down to an undergarment. No, but, but nevertheless, why are you nervous? Do you think

Speaker 1 5:57
I just want to make sure that I'm emulating the right message, and I'm not going to say something that's going to offend or upset my spouse or my son. Should he care to listen to this? Because, you know, the internet's forever,

Scott Benner 6:14
right? I mean, I hope so for me. I mean, I put Can you imagine, like, if who painted the Mona Lisa? What was that guy? He's an Italian guy, right? Uh, fairly certain. Yeah. Okay. Anyway, if somebody paints the Mona Lisa and they put it online, it would have disappeared eventually, because people would be like, Oh, that's not a hot new thing anymore. I don't look at that anymore, thank God. Like, so I need the Internet to stay forever, or this will all just disappear one

Speaker 1 6:40
day. Do you really not know who painted the Mona Lisa. I just need to. I

Scott Benner 6:44
can't think of it off the top. It's playing art at Da Vinci. Da Vinci. It's very early in the morning. For me, I want to I am two for two. First of all, your general knowledge is rock solid. Well, I did go

Speaker 1 6:55
to school for art. Oh, wait, you did. Yeah, I have a sculpture degree.

Scott Benner 7:00
Oh, tell me about how handy that's come in paying the electric bill over the years. Well,

Speaker 1 7:04
you know, my husband's in healthcare, and I am the complete opposite, so, but I do dabble. I I am a floral designer. So, yeah, I I see now I am very handy with my hands.

Scott Benner 7:22
Is that why wait? I'm sorry. We haven't believe that. Okay, yeah, you're like, Oh, my son might listen to this. So are you saying being a sculpture, a sculpting major, yeah, got you a doctor? Is that what you're saying?

Speaker 1 7:38
No, he's not a doctor. He's an IT guy, but he just landed in healthcare. I'm just saying like he is one side of the brain and I'm the opposite. And, you know, opposites attract that way.

Scott Benner 7:49
Very true. Also you and I have something in common, although I have never arranged flowers professionally. I boy, I know for sure. I haven't said this on the podcast. I do very much enjoy doing it. Oh, very nice. Yeah, I do it like low rent. I go to the grocery store where they sell, like, bunches of flowers for like, no money, and I stand there very thoughtfully and grab things, and I'm like this, and this, this will go here. And then I go home and trim them up and arrange them in a vase. I give them to my wife, who seems completely unimpressed, because she's, you know, Irish and English, and she has no real heart inside of her, and so like, I'm like, hey, look, I did this for you. And she goes, they're nice. And then that's the end of it. But I sometimes think if I should have gone with a more Mediterranean background, because I feel like those girls would be, like, more passionate about stuff like that. I think you did a good job. I don't know. She's fine. I'm not saying anything like that. You're pretty Caucasian. Would you be excited if I brought you flowers? Or no

Speaker 1 8:54
actually knowing my profession, you should never buy me flowers. That's the last thing I want to see after I design flowers all day. Oh,

Scott Benner 9:04
I thought it would be because you'd look at me and be like, you did it wrong, or you shouldn't have put that red with that yellow, or something

Speaker 1 9:09
like that. Well, I mean, I have an appreciation for flowers for sure. No, I can appreciate flowers for what they are, but it's the end of the day when you work with flowers and then you come home, I

Scott Benner 9:21
understand, yeah. People used to ask, like, I worked in a bakery for a little while, and they were like, don't eat all the food. I'm like, Oh, that. That idea goes away pretty quickly. So can't do the same thing over and over again all day long. Yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 9:33
So okay, oh, I just did a Scott. We did the Yeah, yeah, yeah. Do I

Scott Benner 9:38
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Speaker 1 12:22
well, I'm sorry to have knowledge that that's one of the things you say, then just keep doing you. No,

Scott Benner 12:27
no, no, I'm okay with all that. Don't worry. I like, I like, knowing it's just, by the way, I'll forget, like, a week from now, somebody will be like, do you say? Yeah, I don't think, no, I don't think. So. Okay, so how many kids you got?

Speaker 1 12:39
I have two, I have a almost nine year old girl, and then I have a 12 year old boy, and he is the only type one that we know of in our family. How long have you been married? Oh, the married since. Oh, eight. So what is that going on? 17 years?

Scott Benner 12:58
Oh, congratulations. That's nice. You've gotten through all the difficult parts. There's one more coming up, and then it's just smooth sailing to death. All right, I don't know, yeah, right around 20 years. Oh, okay, you'll reassess in your brain. You'll be like, Am I really gonna do this till I die? And then you'll make that decision, and then it'll just be then it just goes, fantastic. This is the cruising part, right here, yeah, without all that pressure to have sex and do other stuff, it really gets easy.

Speaker 1 13:23
I love that. Looking forward to it. Oh

Scott Benner 13:27
yeah, it's gonna be great. It's also less expensive, because the kids get older and you stop paying for stuff that they do.

Speaker 1 13:33
Well, until the 26 year mark, I guess from Trevor. We'll we'll see how that less expensive part goes. Oh, I see. Do you worry about that? Yeah, I guess I do worry about, not on our end, but on when the transition happens. I I've already looked up jobs, you know, transitioning, you know, what kind of jobs he should maybe look into that has better health care, that kind of thing,

Scott Benner 14:01
yeah, well, don't work at a hospital that apparently doesn't do they, for some reason, they don't have great health care. Yeah, yes, and no. People in pharma have really good health care. You know what I find, generally speaking, if you work for a company that makes a lot of money, then they spend more money on health care. It's pretty much it, yeah? I mean, yeah, if you're gonna work for like, the lady up the street, who's, you know, you're, you're screwed. Definitely

Speaker 1 14:26
not a florist. That's not, don't be self employed.

Scott Benner 14:29
Yeah, no, that's horrible. I don't I mean, I get all my health care from my wife, and if I had to, I'm sure whatever. I mean, God, what could I do? You know what I mean, I'd be buying out of, I don't even know how that works, right? Like, how does a, how does a self employed person get health care?

Speaker 1 14:47
How does anything really work? I mean, somebody just says, This is how it works. So,

Scott Benner 14:53
you know, it's interesting. You say that because you're going to be the only person who knows this. If I see this out in public and. Next couple of months, I am going to know you gave it away. Ashley, okay, Arden and I are making a series for the podcast called I don't understand. And we just have this never ending list of things we do not understand, and we sit down and figure them out together. It's pretty fun. Yeah, it's gonna be good. Sounds great?

Unknown Speaker 15:17
What a great way to bond, too. Well, yeah, also,

Scott Benner 15:20
I figure most people don't understand those things, so might be interesting to listen to it get figured out. We'll find out. Nevertheless, yeah, you said earlier that I am like, fantastic. I forget the word you used. You were wonderful, fantastic. Something like that, a Jedi, I think I said, like, a Jedi Master or something masterful. I hear, heard you say. So what does that mean? How did you come to that? Why did you find the podcast? How's it helped you?

Speaker 1 15:49
Oh, um, so right after Trevor's mystery diagnosis, we were in the hospital. And, well, he was, like, barely in the hospital, because he wasn't in DK or anything. And I was completely overwhelmed, because not only did I not understand the differences between the types of diabetes, but I just was trying to just open any door and window and anything of trying to get education. And my husband is very much. He buys books on Amazon, and he just loves to just page turn everything. So he's doing that. And I went to Facebook groups and podcasts, and I found yours. I happen to come across yours, and got into just the you and Jenny, and listening to all of those pro tips. And it was really, really helpful. We did a lot of troubleshooting, a lot of I would listen to a couple get super overwhelmed, and then I would just stop and say, You know what? We'll figure this out. I'll let my husband take the wheel, and he seems pretty good. Get a good handle on what the books are saying. So let's just go that route. And then it was, Oh, let the doctors, you know, split that. And then that would kind of crumble. And I'm like, You know what, I'm going back to Scott and Jenny. Then I'll listen to those some more. And then I feel like I'd, you know, get some traction. And then I'd say, You know what, let's try this. And then that would work. And then I'd feel like, get some more confidence, and then a little bit more, a little bit more. And I'd listen to yours a little bit more and figure out glycemic load index and all the variables and fat, protein. And it was just and then you just kept saying, like, eventually it's just going to click. You just have to try and it'll click. You. So try it. It'll click. And I knew, like, I just needed to get over that hump. But you know, like you always say, we got to be bold with insulin. And of course, I thought I killed my kid a couple times, but we didn't. He's still here an event. You know, we're only a year in, so we still have a lot of learning to do. But I definitely feel like it's it's getting better, good. It's not getting easier. It's getting better. If

Scott Benner 18:00
you don't find yourself running through the house in the first 18 months going then you're not trying hard enough. You know, like things go wrong. And you know, that's why I would repeat over and over again to people like, you know, it's experiences, and then learning from the experiences, like so many people do the hair on fire thing, and then they lose the moment Right? Like, you like, yeah, it went wrong, but just step back and examine what's happening right now, because this is your answer to the next time and keeping it from going wrong again. Like, you have to have the experience. It almost has to go wrong, so you can understand what right would have looked like. And, you know, and that's a hard thing to like. How do you explain that to someone who, a couple of months prior, never thought anything like this was going to happen to them? You know what I mean? It's a big leap. And so I would imagine that what happened to you is pretty common. Like you listen, you go, this is a lot. And then something I said rings true, and you go, That guy might have known something, or that lady said something, let me go, like, find out again, because your husband was never going to get it out of those books. I don't think anybody I listen. No disrespect to people who read. There's so much right when you when you say something out loud, you have takeaways when you leave the conversation. And yes, that can happen with reading, but there's also so much information, it's so static, and it even if it was rock solid, you know, when it was written two years ago, now suddenly there's like, maybe you're using an algorithm pump and reading a book that was written before those existed, and then it's not apples to apples anymore. And you know, it's just, I don't know. I think this is the best way talking, you know, for me, I'm sure there are plenty of people are like, look, I read fine. I know there are people who read the transcripts of the podcast and don't listen to it. And actually, I

Speaker 1 19:53
do both. I do both. So I I think that's really helpful. Sometimes I do both.

Scott Benner 19:58
I'm glad to hear that, because. Is making those transcripts is a huge and utter pain in my ass, eats up a ton of my time. And I because I have to type each word out as I listen back, that's not really what happens. I just drop it in, AI, it's AI, but it's still, it's like, very time consuming, and like, in my heart, I'm like, nobody uses these. Like, that's how I I felt in the beginning. I was like, I'm going to do this, because three people asked me, but nobody's going to use these. And then I hear back from people all the time how valuable they are. So maybe I'm wrong about reading. I don't I don't know. How do you use them? Can you explain to me how you incorporate a transcript? Well, I used

Speaker 1 20:37
it yesterday, actually, when I was listening to a podcast, and I didn't have enough time to listen to the whole thing, so I read some of it, and I was like, okay, skip, skip, and read a little bit more. And then I got to what I thought was a juicy part, and then I skipped to that part. And then I was like, I don't have time to listen to listen to all this, so I'm just going to read it. And I was able to read faster than what you guys were talking and so I was able to read through it, and I went and then I was like, oh, man, I skipped this. I need to go back. So then I was able to go back and read. It's kind of like my, I don't know, I probably have dyslexia of some sort. So then I was able to get, I'm

Scott Benner 21:20
worried that you don't even know, like reading a book, and

Speaker 1 21:22
you're like, I need to get to the end and see what what happens, what happens? And then I go back and I read the whole thing.

Scott Benner 21:28
Do you mean dyslexia? Isn't dyslexia when you read? See things backwards? Yeah, I

Speaker 1 21:34
probably messed that up. Yeah, there's one point for you. Two for me, one for you. Scott, no, not that we're keeping track,

Scott Benner 21:41
you're gonna really enjoy the episode where Arden and I try to figure out what a blind person sees, color, blind or blind, no. Blind like a person who's completely blind, right at what percentage? What are they experiencing? If they're completely and totally blind, what is it they're experiencing? And is there context where we like we went through it. We tried to figure it out. We got, like, first hand accounts from people who were blind, like it was, that was us trying to figure out. Anyway, dyslexia is a specific learning disability that affects an individual's ability to read, spell, write and sometimes speak. Do you have dyslexia?

Speaker 1 22:15
No, I don't. I just, I guess I'm I can't focus.

Scott Benner 22:22
Do you have ADHD?

Speaker 1 22:23
Probably, yeah, I was the kid that got in second or third grade that got put in the gifted program, and then couldn't focus, and got all their work done super early, and then wanted just to, like, play around with all the kids got in trouble, and then they're like, put her in gifted program, and then they just always on stage, made my own, produced and wrote things and got on stage and got bored of that, then went back and became like a a B student.

Scott Benner 22:51
I couldn't get a B on purpose, that's for sure. I'd have to have a really bad teacher to get a B like that person would have to really not care that I was cheating, and then then I could pull a B, but of my own accord, a C, if I was lucky. Yeah,

Speaker 1 23:06
you're pretty smart that. I think you got it. You think you did pretty well for

Scott Benner 23:10
yourself there? I don't know. Usually, in a schooling situation, I look like a lead balloon underwater, just like that thing's never getting out of this, you know? I mean, like he's he's not getting out of here. He live here until he's 90. They're not even gonna let him out. I was terrible at school, like, really, genuinely bad at it. Hospital stay, not too long even.

Speaker 1 23:31
No, we were, well, like I said, we were, like, blindsided, like completely blindsided, by this diagnosis. He went in for the well visit. And honestly, I thought he had ADHD. I thought my son was, he was starting to get in trouble at school in fifth grade, and he was starting to get in trouble for, like, little things, you know, like someone, he took somebody's pencil through it, or did something. And I was like, You need to write an apology for that. And you know, they're like, Well, maybe he'll turn around after winter break or something, and then something else happened after winter break. And so I was like, Well, I don't know. So we did the whole had the teachers fill out the Vanderbilts and kind of like the first step on seeing if there's something there, okay, and we kind of piggybacked that doctor's appointment for the Vanderbilt with his pediatrician to go over those with his will visit. And when they went in with that for the well visit, they just happened to say, Oh, we also between ages nine and 11, somewhere between there, we'll do a finger stick. I didn't think anything of it, because he's my first born, and I never, never, we've never done that before. We never done it before. So I was like, Okay, go ahead. They finger stuck him, and it came back a little high. They, well, they weren't sure at first night. And I did understand what that was for. And I did mention, like, Well, he did just eat cereal about an hour and a half. Go about an hour ago. So just to let you know, like you did just have something sugary, like, okay, no worries. That came back and it was pretty high. I It wasn't astronomically high, but it was high enough that they said, Hey, this is concerning, but it could be a lab error. What do you want to do? And that's what I would say, what you want to do? What they asked me, what I wanted to do.

Scott Benner 25:22
What do you want to do? Like, Well, I I like to talk to somebody who went to medical school. What do you want to do? Jesus Christ, what do you want to do? You're like, like, I thought I was coming here to get a lollipop. Like, I'm making medical decisions now. Anyway, I'm sorry. What did you want to do?

Speaker 1 25:37
Well, I said, let's get a they, well, they gave me options. This is what they did. They didn't say, like, completely blindly, what do you want to do? They're like, you can either, you know, come back in and get a finger stick again, or you can maybe get lab tests. And I was like, let's just go ahead and get lab tests. We have no baseline of anything. Like, I don't even know those white blood cell red blood we don't have anything. So we had this scheduled. It just so happened that that was the same week that he had state testing for a school. And the school system, as you know, are pretty rigid about these schedules for their state testing, and I didn't want him to have to, like, go in for a makeup test for these he wasn't thirsty, he wasn't Bedwetting, not that I knew any of these telltale signs, but there

Scott Benner 26:20
was nothing extra. What was the finger stick? Do you remember what it read?

Speaker 1 26:23
I think it was like in the 160s okay, maybe somewhere around one I think it was around 160 I remember they were like, not overly concerned, but they were like, wow. So little high. So anyway, they had scheduled a lab testing, and it was right up the street from where we lived, and that it was the same morning he had to be fasting, obviously, but obviously we we're supposed to have a great morning breakfast and then send your kid to school for state testing the next day. And I was like, Oh crap. I forgot about that. So I'm like, well, we're not going to do the lab testing today, because we have state testing, we'll just skip that. We'll do that another day. We'll do that on Friday instead. So the next afternoon, when he's supposed to have his lab results, the pediatrician called him, like, hey, we never got those results. What's going on? I explained the testing, and they're like, actually, you really needed to get those we really need those results. We really, really, really need those like, it's Pam. Was like, I just didn't understand why they were what was, what was so important, big deal, yeah. And then they were like, explaining the dka and all this and that, I'm like, really, is that that big of a deal? And he has, he's never went and then they were explaining what that meant, and then I pushed back, saying he doesn't even drink water, like he doesn't even go to the bathroom. He's never wet the bed. You

Scott Benner 27:50
guys are screwing this up. I brought him in for ADHD, okay, so you're getting this all wrong. Yeah.

Speaker 1 27:56
No, I understand. So, yeah. So Friday is when he had his blood test, and that came back on my chart pretty quickly, but they also ran as a 1c that didn't come back until Monday. So all the results over the weekend came back fasting glucose was, I think, 109, his white blood cells were really low, I believe, and is late. Let's I think we're really high. He caught it really early, right?

Scott Benner 28:29
Super early. Yeah. I mean, a fasting 109, is still high, right? You shouldn't, like, if you're you don't have diabetes, your fasting blood sugar should probably be like 80, in the 80s, right? So especially for a kid and but still, that seems really early, so you didn't see no offense, like you weren't like, there's something wrong with my kid. He just, he threw some of the kids pencil one time, which, by the way, I don't know if that's getting to do with diabetes or not. Like we used to take pencils from people and throw them all over the place. I realized it's a different world. Now. People are like, nice to each other, but I think that's just what they say. I'm sure the same stuff still happens. Yeah, yeah. And you're like, hey, let's do the Vanderbilt test and see if he has ADHD. My dad would have just hit me. The 70s were so much different. You're like, let's get some testing to make sure he's okay. And my dad would have been like, Hey, did you throw that kid's pencil? Don't do that again. I would have been like, Oh, you're making a lot of sense, and that would have been the end. You're not supposed to hit children. I just want to say that out loud, no, and I'm not advocating it. I'm just telling you a story about 1978 when somebody would have just beat your ass for that, and then you would have never done it again. But it's okay. I know you said your husband grabbed the books and you went to online and everything to try to get your information, which is terrific, but like, can you dig down deeper into the actual like, in your gut feeling about all this? Do you feel like somebody shook up your snow globe? Are you in denial? Like, where's the deeper

Speaker 1 29:53
emotion? Deeper emotion I was I was grieving. I was. Grieving, but I was also thankful at the same time, it was like a weird juxtaposition of I was mourning that for Trevor, that he was no longer gonna be living a life with food that was gonna be free of just no longer after I understood what type one was like that. Yeah, he could live a normal, healthy life, but he has this relationship with food that I have, that he doesn't have, that he can no longer eat things without thinking about what it's going to do to his body, like I obviously have to do that too, but not in the way that he does not a life or death. He has to wake up every day and choose to live like that's just mind boggling. Yeah, no, I understand. I didn't mean to make you cry like I mean. And another thing that I I, I feel like it's important to say like he was, we were also shell shocked to this, like he was not in DKA, obviously. But when we got home from the hospital, his a 1c was eight, was 7.8 and they called on Monday and told us I did have the ADHD medicine and I was gonna go. And by this point, like on Monday anyway, I was gonna go. And so everything was, like, seemingly normal after that first result, or after the blood test, and everything the a 1c came back on Monday. By that point, I was just going off of the original blood, blood results, not even knowing what the a 1c was. And I my husband and I had just said, you know, let's just go ahead and try this ADHD medicine. Because they said, Yeah, we he might actually have a little bit of that. So I was walking into the pharmacy to just go ahead and try that medicine to see what that said. And that's when they called and said, Hey, a 1c came back. You need to get over here. Get over here now. Yeah, and he's going to be admitted to the hospital. What did you tell him? What do we tell Trevor? Yeah, I mean, we were honest with him. We told him what it was. We told him that we there's many, many, like millions of people that have it, infants, older people, you can live a long, healthy life. He's a soccer player. He plays competitive soccer. We told him about Jordan Morris, we told him about, you know, Nacho we told him about a whole bunch of athletes in a whole bunch of other fields, right? So he wasn't discouraged about that. You feel like that helped him? He thought, No, he didn't. It didn't help him at all. He felt like he didn't have it. We felt like he didn't have it. I mean, so, like, that's another thing that was, that's a huge thing with this whole whole thing. And I think we're still, he's still kind of in that little bit of a rut, even a year into this denial. Yeah, I think, Well, I think he's in acceptance now, but I feel like he kind of slips back into denial. He's always been the kid that's he's telling the stoves hat, and he's just has to put his hand on it, just to double check. So he just doesn't and also he just doesn't care. I think it's, I don't know if it's the age, I don't know. Listen,

Scott Benner 33:16
first of all, I don't think anybody cares. You don't even mean like, they don't want to, like nobody wants to think about this stuff. And we listen, you say the right thing, and it is the right thing to say, and I believe it, which is, you can live a completely normal life for this. Obviously, I think that right, but it doesn't make it go away. Now you're just doing more things to live normally, which, by definition, is not normal, and that's when it becomes attitude. That's the decision right there. Like, am I going to just accept this as part of my life so that I don't fight against it constantly, and I'm not always feeling like I got the short end of this stick somehow? Or am I going to decide to be ultra literal and say, No, this isn't normal, and I am getting screwed compared to people who are not going through something like this. That's where it's mindset. And I don't know how you get somebody to the right mindset like I think that. I mean, you can do the right things and as the parent and say the right things, and hopefully they end up there. But I don't know if you can force it, you know what I mean? Like, you mean, like, you're like, look, Jordan Morris, he plays soccer and has type one diabetes, and the kids probably like, yeah, that's good for him. Like, I don't want that though, you know, like, so, like, and he's too, yeah, he's young, so he's also going to start hitting puberty. He already has. He's like, nine feet tall or something. You know what I mean? How tall are you? By the way, I'm sorry I fairly know your kids, six feet tall. How tall are you?

Speaker 1 34:48
Yeah, I'm five seven. Okay, seven tall for a girl, as they say, is it? That's what they always want to be, five nine. So I didn't hit my goal.

Scott Benner 34:58
Yeah, listen, go ahead. A five three girl, if you're tall, so And how about your husband? Was he like a giant? No,

Speaker 1 35:06
he had potential to be. He's six one. People always think he looks really tall, though, but he's six one, yeah.

Scott Benner 35:12
How about tall? People in his family like, where's Where does a six foot? Girl was

Speaker 1 35:17
six four. My cousins are 6566, okay, my father in law is six four. I think 636

Scott Benner 35:24
they have any autoimmune stuff, those guys like, maybe, okay, I

Speaker 1 35:31
have Raynauds or raynoids. Look at you. Maurice, overachiever. Yeah,

Scott Benner 35:36
your hands cold. Do they turn your fingers turn blue?

Speaker 1 35:39
Oh yeah, they're getting pretty purpley right now.

Scott Benner 35:44
How come are you sitting a certain way? Is it? Do you know what brings it on? Oh, gosh, it could. Tuesdays, days it ends in y, stuff like

Speaker 1 35:54
that, yeah. Days, it ends in y. That's it. Yeah. Okay, so

Scott Benner 35:58
you have uncles with eczema, and you have Ray nods.

Speaker 1 36:02
My No, the eczema comes on my husband's side, on the

Scott Benner 36:06
husband's side. Oh, there it is. They should give a test when you're dating. I'm telling you, this is we could avoid these auto immune things if we just did a quick questionnaire before it got too serious. Darn here's a crazy question, how long you've been married?

Speaker 1 36:23
I think I said 1716, or 17? Yeah, I don't know something like that. I'm bad at math. Don't worry about I'm an art major. I didn't I didn't have to take math in college. That's one of the perks. I

Scott Benner 36:33
don't think that's math. I just think that's counting. But nevertheless, like, go back to dating. Okay, 20 years ago, whenever you were dating,

Speaker 1 36:39
and was 18 when I met him. I know that you were 18

Scott Benner 36:43
when you met your How old are you now? Oh,

Speaker 1 36:46
where I just I this was part of the podcast interview. Oh, wait, you don't want to I just turned 40.

Scott Benner 36:53
Oh, my God, you're almost gonna die. That's horrible. You shouldn't told anybody about that. So you're 18. You meet this guy, told the world, it's okay. You know what I tell people all the time, and I genuinely mean this, I'm old because I'm alive, the alternative not as good. You

Speaker 1 37:09
understand like, you know what I mean? Yeah, thank you for that perspective.

Scott Benner 37:13
Also, I saw you for a couple minutes. You're looking you're doing fine. Don't worry about it. Okay? Thank you. Arden asked me the other day, it's now on our list of I don't understand. Why do older people look younger than they did in previous generations? And we were in a restaurant the other day where the waiter guessed my age as 40. And I was like, oh, no, I just had a birthday. And he goes, Oh, happy birthday. How old are you? And I said, 53 and he was genuinely knocked over. And I was like, oh, is my hair is dark, and I act like a child. That's pretty much probably why. But the point is, is that when my dad was 53 he looked like he fought a war, you know what I mean. And his father, when he was probably died before he was 53 and probably did fight a war, you know. So no Stolen Valor here. I don't know if he was actually in a war or not, but point being that you look fine. You're don't argue about your age. But my question is, is, if I go back to you dating 18, Jesus, what did you know when you were 18? Nothing. Not diabetes, yeah. And I say to you, listen to me, Ashley, I'm from the future. Okay? And if you marry this guy, you're gonna have two kids. They're gonna be great. Here's all the great things are gonna happen to you, but your son, when he's like, 11, he's gonna get type one diabetes. And here's what type one diabetes is. So if you want to, just like, you know, you can date this guy if you want, but like, let's make sure we use a condom and then break up with him. You start loving him. See if you want to get out of this, would you have done that? Oh, 100% I would. You would have bailed on him when you were 18. If this, no, no. I mean, I would do it. I would do it. You still as at 18. You can look back and say, It's okay. I would, I wouldn't leave this situation.

Speaker 1 38:54
Yeah, yeah. I know what my husband looked like when I was 18. Yeah,

Scott Benner 38:58
of course. Oh, he was super handsome, is what you're trying to tell me he still is? Yeah, I would totally I love where that's so honest. Ashley's like, listen, I was 18 and he was hot. I'm not going anywhere.

Speaker 1 39:09
I'm not going anywhere. I'm locked in. Is

Scott Benner 39:12
that really what you meant? Yeah, that's fantastic. Thank you for being honest. I appreciate that. Are you still nervous?

Speaker 1 39:20
No, no, I really was, I mean, I was nervous, but I'm not, like, too, too nervous. Okay. Why'd you

Scott Benner 39:25
want to come on the podcast? Obviously, to meet me. I'm fantastic. Skip over that. What did you want to tell people? Yeah,

Speaker 1 39:31
I just wanted to let people know that screening, you know, I know, like screening super big right now, and that it really is important, because it truly. I feel like it saved our family. My son from going into DKA, which obviously he did not, although we're going through the psychological part of what type one can do to a family, I feel like that goes especially from listening to your pod. I feel like that is true in any regard, like what you just mentioned, like you just, you don't know, really, what your journey is going to be, as far as after diagnosis, but knowing is half the battle. So after you get that, you just, it's just what you do with it, what you do with the knowledge, what you can do with knowing what you know. Yeah, so I just, I wanted to come on the podcast to share our story, and then also to share how we're doing a year in we're on the islet pump, and to kind of answer any questions about how that's going with the kid on puberty. Because, shoot, I mean, you mentioned it before. He's six six feet. And I mean, he started this with he was my height, he was five seven, and now he's almost six feet. Wow, just shade under six feet tall.

Scott Benner 40:52
Well, let's talk about the eyelet pump. But before I do let me say this screened for type one.com. Is a sponsor right now, if you go into the show notes to the podcast player, there should be a link there, or you can type into a browser. I think there's links at Juicebox podcast.com now, that's if they're still sponsors six months from now. If they're not still sponsors six months from now, then scroll, don't. No, I'm just kidding. Do you know why it's because you said screening is like, is like, all the rage right now? Do you know why that is? I would think

Speaker 1 41:22
it's because of the the medicine that they can take to help prolong the Plymouth. Yes, there you go. Yeah, which is called, know what that was now called, you go ahead, you know what it is?

Scott Benner 41:36
It's because there's a push. Because, you know, I don't know if I'm supposed to say all this, but I mean, what are they gonna do? Sanafi bought tea sealed from a company called prevention bio, and this medication seems like it might be kind of revolutionary, like, at this point you take the infusions. I don't have all the details, so I don't want to, like misspeak, but there's these infusions that you get every day for a certain amount of days, and what they're seeing is it's pushing off people's diagnosis if you take the infusion early enough. My expectation is, is that they they think that it's possible that in the future, they're going to learn more about it, because that company paid a lot of money for that drug and so And honestly, you know how much they paid for it actually

Speaker 1 42:23
three. Dare I say $3 billion bill, oh, I was gonna say 1 billion. 1 billion.

Scott Benner 42:30
No, no. They bought prevention bio for $3 billion so I'm like, listen, they either think they know something, or, you know, somebody with an ego trip had the checkbook that day. I don't know which one it is, but like, point being that you know, if you get screened early enough and find out that this is in your future, and do this infusion, they're seeing it put off people's diagnoses for a year or more. And I think if you read between the lines in a lot of the interviews I did with prevention bio back in the day, I think they're hopeful that it one day might stop it from happening, or maybe modified somehow, might be that. So anyway, then when you think about that, like, how do you get people to screen for type one diabetes if they don't think they're going to get it and they're not showing any signs, because you really have to find out early. Yeah, that's a Herculean problem to get people to screen for something like that. So that's why you're hearing about screening so much. Anyway, screen for type one.com now that was not an ad, because I'm sure I said stuff in there that I'm pretty sure I'm not supposed to say if it's an ad. So anyway, that wasn't an ad. That's okay. No, it's okay for you, but I don't know if it's okay for them or not. But well, we'll find out. Well,

Speaker 1 43:43
it's really important. I feel like, I mean, the, I mean, listen, we go to a really great number one in the country, pediatric Children's Hospital for endocrinology. So the fact that, when we were there, they kept saying they we had multiple doctors coming in in the two day span asking, Hey, were you the kid? Was this the kid that got diagnosed with a they just a well visit or a finger stick. You give your pediatrician a gold like they that's an I just cannot believe it just to hear that that is unprecedented. I

Scott Benner 44:20
should stick on that for a second, Ashley, because I'm, I'm obviously quick to give doctors crap when they don't do something right. That was really well done by your pediatrician.

Speaker 1 44:27
Yeah, seriously, yeah. And probably I'm so thankful, yeah,

Scott Benner 44:32
saved your kid from being in DKA and saving him from, you know, but I mean, that could kill a person. First of all, is very serious, and you know, all the trouble that that goes through, plus you get a slower, you know, you're the onset still happening. You get a little time to figure things out before it gets wonky. Do you think he's honeymooning now, still? Or do you,

Speaker 1 44:51
oh, no, no, no, I feel like honeymooning ended in the summer. That was when I was saying. I was listening, dabbling. In your podcast, my husband was reading books. We were doing our first vacation. I think that's when we crashed and burned. It was

Scott Benner 45:08
all of a sudden, the need rose significantly. Yeah,

Speaker 1 45:12
we were insulin it was like, ours is insulin resistance was going on. It was just nothing was happening. That's when I learned about combo bolusing. That's when I learned about all sorts of things, all fat, protein rises. That's when I learned all the things. But that also that's when his honeymoon left.

Scott Benner 45:30
Did you sort of take over? Because it You made it sound earlier, like you're like, my husband's got a book. I'm gonna let him handle this. But are you that really is what you said? You're like, he's good with books. He'll probably take care of the diabetes. But, like, is it mainly you now, or do you guys do it together? No,

Speaker 1 45:47
no, I really feel like it's, it's a great teeter totter combo. You know, like, some days he's really great, some days I'm really great. It's a really good teamwork, nice. Yeah, and he's, like, I said he's, he's, my son is really into competitive sports, with mostly soccer, and he trains a lot and off seasons and does Futsal, and so, you know, we are really good at tag teaming and figuring it all out. It's just kind of like a little dance. It's

Scott Benner 46:19
excellent. Good for you. I didn't mean good for you. Like, shut up. Good for you. I want to move on. I just, I'm looking at the clock, and you did take 25 minutes to get your headphones on.

Speaker 1 46:27
So I'm trying to, like, talk about beta eyelet or something. We can do

Scott Benner 46:31
that. I have a phone call in a half an hour. So, yeah, go ahead. Somebody's inviting me next. What questions you got considering speaking in Canada next year? So I have to have a phone call to find out what they want from me. But my question is, once he has diabetes, is it syringes? Is it pens? Is it a pump? What do they give you? Do you

Speaker 1 46:50
an MDI? We got a g7 we were thankful that we had a one of our good friends is a an adult endocrinologist, and she had a sample g7 because he was diagnosed in April, and I think that was right around the time that it was available in the US, is that, if I'm wrong, I'm sorry. So she had a sample g7 and she gave one to us and said, Hey, try this. This works pretty well, from what I've heard, interesting. And we plugged that one on we plugged one of those on them. And at the time, I don't think it was on the formulary on insurance, but it quickly became on the formulary. And so we were able to get that for Trevor, so he's always been on the g7 and we are also doing that with MDI up until December, when the beginning of December is when islet became compatible with g7 and you've

Scott Benner 47:44
had it for almost eight months,

Speaker 1 47:47
islet, yeah, oh, yeah. We got the eyelet in January, January 7. So this

Scott Benner 47:52
is interesting, because you have no other experience with another pump. No. So what was his a 1c on MDI, but he was probably honeymooning.

Unknown Speaker 48:01
Um, he's always been in the sixes, sixes,

Scott Benner 48:03
okay? And he he wanted a pump. You wanted him to have a pump. He was

Speaker 1 48:09
always apprehensive to do pretty much anything so. But when the pump became available, we went through pump. We went through pump training in November, and there was like, nothing's available for g7 you can go back to g6 and we're like, we never run g6 and he was like, I am not doing anything other than g7 so we're like, well, we gotta figure out what's compatible with that. And so when the islet became available, we were like, Hey, let's go time if you want this and try. You ended

Scott Benner 48:36
up with an eyelet because it was g7 compatible, or because you liked the function of it and how it worked both we

Speaker 1 48:43
liked the function of it. During the pump training at the hospital, I had asked specifically to get a representative for Ilet to get more information about it. Again, the adult endocrinologist, my friend, had mentioned that this was going to be available and just kind of the ins and outs of the ease of what it did. I had also had you had also had somebody on talking about it, so I had listened to that in conjunction to, like YouTube influencers and things like that. Kind of like listening to other pumps and Trevor's endocrinologist at his three month appointments. Had also said, you know, asked him about like, Hey, are you guys interested in pumps? And Trevor had always been like, No, I think I'm okay with where I am, because he just got steady with something. And was like, This is it, it's working. This is it. This is working. This is it. And his endocrinologist point was like, let's get a goal of looking on YouTube and trying to see what pumps are available, what pumps you might be considering what pumps you're not like, just baseline. Just try and get try and get options. And so that was one of the options, was islet, because he liked the ease and the functionality of it, of like, not having to carb count. Okay, when that became available in December, I was like, hey, this one's available. Do you like this? Option. I mean, it's tubed, but, and he's like, Well, yeah, let's try it. And I was like, what's the harm of trying it? And then the summer, if you wanted to do Omnipod, there was no contract on that, you could always jump to that one for the summer time and then go back. I mean, there's options, right? So that's why we did that.

Scott Benner 50:18
Excellent. What was your finding like you, you started using this pump which explain to people, in your words, how do you announce a meal on an island, for example,

Speaker 1 50:27
depending on what his initial number is. Let's just look at what His number is right now, for example. Oh, well, let's not use this number for right now. Well, let's just say from when he woke up, his number when he woke up was like 140 if he is going to eat breakfast, I would have him announce a breakfast usual, because he usually eats his usual breakfast. And then I would have him wait about 15 minutes, and then he would eat so you are still pre bullish thing, and then he would eat his usual breakfast.

Scott Benner 51:03
They'll tell you not to do that. You know that, right? Like eyelet says don't Pre Bolus. The company

Speaker 1 51:08
beta biotics. Well, certain individuals at the eyelet will tell you not to do that. Other representatives will tell you it's okay,

Scott Benner 51:16
okay, gotcha. And that's all I just wanted to say. Then what happens? Like, like, just now, you're like, oh, let's not talk about this.

Speaker 1 51:24
I think he just ate. He might not have announced but

Scott Benner 51:27
so you think he ate without eating or without using insulin? Oh, yeah, yeah.

Speaker 1 51:32
So this is also what it is about him. When I said earlier, like, oh, he just doesn't care. And but also, he's a tween boy, so he could just be downstairs, just watching a show, and he might have gotten excited about whatever Lego build he's watching on YouTube, or whatever it is. I got some adrenaline. Yeah, adrenaline. And it just might have kicked it up a little bit, okay, and so. But what happens is, if you don't eat and your numbers shoot up a little higher out of range, it will, the algorithm will see that after a little bit of time, and will give you a little shoot of insulin, like a little herbs, a little bit, a little bit.

Scott Benner 52:21
Where is his a 1c, on islet, he's still in the sixes. And what about excursions at meals, like, what are high blood sugars look like, and how long do they take to come back?

Speaker 1 52:31
It just depends, uh, he can be in the two hundreds, or he could stay level. It just depends on what he's eating and the what if, is it raining outside? I mean, I don't know. So

Scott Benner 52:44
if he hits a 200 for example, off of like, say, a fatty meal, like something with, like french fries or something like that with some grease in it, how long do I expect him to be in the two hundreds? Does he get low when it comes back down? Honestly,

Speaker 1 52:56
it really just depends on the day. Is it a Saturday? Is it a Tuesday? Did he just work out? These are the things that I need to know. Right going he is going through puberty right now, so it is a crap shoot whether or not he's going to go high or low. Was he dehydrated? Did he have a soccer match? Is he going to a soccer match? Is he going to burn that off? I need to know what the fat, protein rise is going to be in that because if, if he's going to be high and he has a soccer match later, it's not that big of a deal, because he's going to burn it all off, in my opinion.

Scott Benner 53:26
Does a high blood sugar affect his ability to be athletic? No, he doesn't slow down, get tired, easier, stuff like that. No,

Speaker 1 53:36
a low blood sugar, for sure, does okay. He gets really weak in the legs. He gets like tingling, tingly in his leg. How low does that have to be for that to happen? He usually feels that around like 70, really, 6870

Scott Benner 53:52
okay. Is he generally higher than lower?

Speaker 1 53:55
No, he's usually around 161, 70. Okay. And do you know you would probably consider that very high?

Scott Benner 54:04
Well, I don't consider, I listen, I don't judge people. Okay, so, but I mean, I know, all I know is that I'm sitting here right now my blood sugar is probably 85 and 160 sounds like it's twice as high as 85 and so if my kid's blood sugar was 160 I'd be like, we need more insulin. But does the pump bring him from 160 down to a lower number? Or does he live at 160 like I'm trying to figure out, like, does his graph look generally lower, 80s, 90s, 100 and then big pop it food, and then back down again. Or is he always like, 121, 3160, with some pops to 200 and come back again,

Speaker 1 54:46
again. It kind of just depends on the day, I would say, like on his good days. Like, meaning, like he doesn't have a really strong or a really heavy, you. Athletic soccer, or a heavy training day where there would be like adrenaline spike, or what I call a false high, he would be somewhere around, like the 130s Okay, mostly, okay. And then the after he eats, he would go around highest would be around one, or would be around 190 200 and then he bought back down and like the 160s maybe, or back down to 120 and then that'd

Scott Benner 55:27
be like a good day. How does this reality compare to MDI?

Speaker 1 55:31
So much better. But the same time, we were at the very beginning of diagnosis, and he was binge eating because you were newly diagnosed, and he was finally, maybe, you know, getting the insulin he needed, hungry his body needed, so he was hungry, ravish Lee, eating. Who knows? I mean, there's so many different, like, so many different variables, that it's hard to see, yeah, and so I'm not quite sure. And now we're going through puberty, and he is an athlete, and it's also kind of challenging to really see a grand picture of, like, a great steady line all the time, because he gets these, I like to, like, I said, I like to call them false highs, because he gets huge bursts of adrenaline when he's working out. And, you know, he's starting to, like lift weights, pseudo kind of lift weights. And the liver is really shooting out that glucose, and then the muscles are really, you know, getting ripped apart. And then afterwards he drops because, you know, the recovery, because he's getting the muscles now. So,

Scott Benner 56:38
like weight lifters type one would tell you you have the Bolus to do anaerobic exercise so, but you can't do that with the eyelet, right? You can't say, Hey, I'm getting ready to lift weights now, Bolus. It's only for me. It's

Speaker 1 56:51
not really lifting weight. He's doing more like plyo stuff. And I'm not sure exactly what he's gonna do when he goes in for these training sessions. So I'm like, sometimes he's just running around in circles, and then he's, like, trying to do splits and stuff, and he's mostly a soccer training so I'm like, oh, a lot

Scott Benner 57:08
of running, yeah, a lot of running, yeah. Cuz, not really a sport. You can't use your hands and everything. I

Speaker 1 57:13
understand we really like the pause feature. That's really helpful. What is that? It's a new feature on the islet. It just rolled out about a month, a month and a half ago, maybe where, when he is disconnecting. So when he is playing soccer or on the pitch for a game or a match, sorry, on the pitch for a match, in his boots, um, he'll Disconnect his eyelet, and we will pause it so it's not spitting out anymore, basal or trying to adjust his numbers, and then you can pause it for up to two hours. And then once he gets done with his soccer match, we'll unpause the islet, and then it'll plug back in or reconnect.

Scott Benner 57:56
Is he high after he gets done playing? Um,

Speaker 1 57:59
he can be, but sometimes not generally, he usually is, but it's a then he comes straight back down, because that's an adrenaline high, and then he comes right back down. And usually we have to give him stuff. We usually have to give him a jerky or trail mix and stuff uncovered. Well, usually that's low carb stuff anyway, but we usually give him, you know, things uncovered in addition to protein, things

Scott Benner 58:24
to hold him steady after the exercise. Yeah,

Speaker 1 58:27
and we do that, we usually give him that kind of snack before he he goes in as well to work out, too. Okay, nice. And you're finding it's working for you some days, yes, some days no. I mean, sometimes we nail it just like pizza. Sometimes it's like, yes, we killed it, we did it. And other days, we're like, you know, what

Scott Benner 58:48
is it fair to say? You don't when it goes right, you don't exactly know why it went right.

Speaker 1 58:54
Are you at that point right? You're like, yes, we knew it. We rocked it. Rocked it hard. And other days, when it goes wrong, you're like, what happened? Are you

Scott Benner 59:02
ever able to, like, figure out what happened?

Speaker 1 59:06
Some days, some days we find the the candy wrappers. Some days we don't, you know, I mean, some days, some days it's that. Some days there's nothing.

Scott Benner 59:15
So your biggest concern right now is to get him to consistently Bolus for food. Mostly, yeah,

Speaker 1 59:21
mostly, if, I mean, yeah, I would say yes, we want him to learn how to manage, obviously, on his own accord, but also the right balance of pushing him to start to care. But as you well know, if you've done this so many years, you have to people care about what they want to care about. Yes, exactly right. So there's a right balance there.

Scott Benner 59:46
The goal is to, like, get them to care about it, or see the value in it, and, you know, etc, like, that's the kind of stuff it's that's where all the parenting comes in and not freaking out. And, you know, because you can't just yell at somebody. To do is like, despite what 1978 would tell you, hitting somebody is probably not a good way to get them to do what you want to do in the moment, doing that right, right? Yeah. My point is you can't force people to do things, right, yeah. Often when you try to force them, it just goes the opposite direction anyway, yeah, yeah. So that's pretty much the hill you're going to be climbing for the next couple of years. Yeah.

Speaker 1 1:00:20
I mean, the goal, obviously, is to get him to do this sooner. I would say, by high school. You think you will? I mean, if not, then I would hope girls would probably, or whatever he's into, would help the situation. I don't want to shadowing his dates. But if it comes to that, I think, hopefully that'll help. I don't know. So

Scott Benner 1:00:44
your expectation is, is that once he starts dating, he won't want people to see what's going on, so he'll take care of it, so it doesn't happen. I

Speaker 1 1:00:51
mean, he doesn't want anybody to know that he has his diagnosis. That's another hurdle we're trying to jump right now, is just trying to have him be open and honest with people, but at the same time, it's a heck of a difficult age to be diagnosed. So why do you think he

Scott Benner 1:01:08
doesn't want people to know? I mean, he's

Speaker 1 1:01:09
already standing out at a six feet tall person, six foot tall boy, so he's already that going for him, but I don't know. I think he's just, it's just his personality. I don't, I don't know. I can't answer that for him. I He just does not want anybody to know, to the point where he doesn't want to go swimming, he doesn't want to do things. Says he doesn't care. But we know that's just a 12 year old mindset right now. I don't know.

Scott Benner 1:01:35
Do you do therapy for that? Do you just keep working? We do? Yeah,

Speaker 1 1:01:39
he goes to and I love having that outside person that also has diabetes to help him and help nudge him. And we always see a great, great turn around after seeing that that's also with the hospital, you were able

Scott Benner 1:01:54
to find a therapist with type one. Yep, nice. So, oh, that's excellent. Yeah. See it is personality. Because if I was six feet tall and 12, I'd just be walking be walking around going, I'm so much taller than you like, I'd be so thrilled, you know what I mean. And then you see people who it happens to them. They're they're, they try to shrink. You know what I mean? Like, they don't want to stand out, or, like, I don't want to stand out. But I would definitely take that as a dominant thing and run with it. I'd be like, Oh my God, you're all so short and, you know, just like, live in the moment. But that's not how he feels about it. Yeah,

Speaker 1 1:02:22
yeah. Again, I don't, I can't get into the mind of of my son, but yeah, I don't know. Does

Scott Benner 1:02:27
he take after you or your husband with his personality? Me, okay,

Speaker 1 1:02:33
we are like oil and water when we get together. I see it very

Scott Benner 1:02:37
much. So because you're so similar, it's hard to get along. Yes. How would you manage if you had diabetes? Would you think you'd hide it from people? Probably, yeah, I think I would. Why? I think back in when I was his age, I would be in the blame and shame game for some reason or another. Yeah, just to but do you think that's what he's doing? Probably, in some regard. Yeah, I mean, I touched on this earlier, and I don't want to bum people out, generally speaking, but whatever, it's just, it's the end of the podcast at this point. So they're still listening. They'll go with it. It's the mindset you're going to need if you're going to be successful, which is, like, you know, I really don't care if I have diabetes. These are the things I do. It's normal. I can't sit around and belabor it and, you know, be like, Oh my god, Woe is me. Or like, want to blame somebody, but if you are doing that, I mean, I get it, you know what? I mean, like, you can live a normal life even you have diabetes, yeah, but it's not really a normal life. It's a normal life with diabetes. You know, like, no matter what would it? Forget diabetes. If you were born with nine fingers. You could live a normal life with nine fingers, but it's not exactly normal. You have nine fingers. You know what I mean? Like, it's that feeling in there. Again. I think some people get stuck on it and some people don't care about it, and I think you're gonna do better if you don't care. But how do you get people who are stuck not to care? That's like the million dollar question, or the $3 billion question, you know, if you're sanafi, but like, seriously, like, how do you, how do you make that leap to understanding that if you just accept it, it's better, you know what I mean? Like, there's that, um, I don't know how I haven't talked about this in a long time, but it came up in my life recently I was talking to, I shouldn't say who I was talking to. I was talking to a younger person in my life that isn't my kids. And I was explaining this, this commencement speech called This is water that was given like, I forget when by by an author who has since taken his own life. So, I mean, I don't know how much of his insight you're interested in hearing or not, but,

Speaker 1 1:04:41
well, I bought the book after I heard you on your podcast, so I'm sorry to hear that he's since deceased. He's long

Scott Benner 1:04:48
deceased, and not that. That makes it better. But nevertheless, this is not we're talking about. We're talking about it's this one idea in his commencement speech that I find to be like at the core of living. Happily. And, you know, I won't paraphrase him, I'll just tell you the way I think of it, which is, if you're driving down the road and someone drives past you like an absolute lunatic, they're probably an asshole, right? They're probably just driving unsafely, but they also might have a great reason for it. Their kids at home and sick, or their house is on fire, or they gotta take a okay, like there's a reason why they're doing this. They're not an asshole. They're just they're in a bad situation. My point is, is that you're in your car, they're in their car. They've just sped by you. You're never gonna see them again. You don't really know why they're doing what they're doing, and it benefits you to assume the best, because if you assume the worst, you're just going to have this anger, you're going to it's going to live inside of you. You're going to distrust people, you're going to have a bad experience. You know, the all these reasons why, if you decide to guess that they're just an asshole, it's bad for you. And if you just say, You know what, I hope they're okay, you know, and that whatever's happening is happening for a good reason. That's it. It's nice and light and airy, and you let it go. And I see the connection with diabetes there, which is you can decide to say, hey, you know what? You can tell me, I'm normal, all you want, but I'm wearing a thing on me that's giving me insulin, because my pancreas doesn't make insulin, and my blood sugar gets low, and my legs get tingly and etc and so on. And there's 1000 things about this that aren't normal, but if you just accept it, it just is easier on you. Like, I just that's, that's it really, like, just let it be easier on you, because life's already hard enough, and now it's harder. So give away as much of that anger as you can, because it's just better for you, like you're doing yourself a favor by just assuming that that person drove past you for a really good reason. And don't think about it anymore. I know that's probably overly simplified for people, but I just gave that book to two college graduates in my life, I was like, here. I read this a couple of times a year. It really helps me keep perspective, and it helps me be kind, and I hope you, you know, enjoy it now. Will they ever read it? I don't know. I mean, they're like, 20 some years old. They probably are just like, Man, I just want to smoke weed. Leave me alone. But who knows. Anyway, everyone smokes weed now it's a big thing. Ashley, as you know, all right, what did we not talk about that we should have?

Speaker 1 1:07:26
I don't I think we cut mostly. Did we do it? I think we pretty much did it. You

Scott Benner 1:07:32
sent me, like, two emails and the thing that you put in here, so I'm hoping I got to the stuff that you wanted to

Speaker 1 1:07:38
talk about. Yeah, I mean, I think that's pretty much it, unless you wanted to talk about Steve Logan, that's pretty much all. Wait,

Scott Benner 1:07:46
Steve Logan, what is that? Who is Steve Logan, yeah, I have no idea who that is.

Speaker 1 1:07:50
Oh, he is, like, arguably one of the best UC bear, cat basal players that's ever lived.

Scott Benner 1:07:57
What is that? Is that, like, a college,

Speaker 1 1:08:01
college? Yeah, University of Cincinnati. Oh, my God, you don't know who that is. No, of course not. Oh, Steve, okay. Steve

Scott Benner 1:08:10
Logan is an American former professional basketball player. He played college basketball for the Cincinnati bear cats. He's 44 years old now. He's 510 How do you play basketball in your 510 he must be like a super person. He was drafted in the second round in 2002 but it doesn't seem like he played professionally anywhere, because I don't see a listing for that. What does he do? Does he teach in the area now? Well,

Speaker 1 1:08:32
he was at a basketball camp that Trevor was signed up for. He did play professionally. He got drafted. Thank you. Oh, drafted for Golden

Scott Benner 1:08:41
State Warriors. He's a hands on man. Good for you. Steve, nice and hands

Speaker 1 1:08:45
Yeah, no, he's, he's really good. Well, anyway, it was so we had already had Trevor diagnosed. And so we had already had all these camps for Trevor, because you had to sign up for camps in February. Had diagnosed in April, and so we had all these basketball camps sign up. That's when Trevor still played basketball. He'd sent he has since quit basketball. He doesn't think he's good enough at six feet. I'm like, how do you I don't think you're good enough. But anyway, so we were still an MD guy and super nervous, and he had a whole week, all day long, all week at this University of Cincinnati camp spoiler. We live in the Cincinnati area.

Scott Benner 1:09:19
Come meet us. No, I'm just getting good. That's fine. As

Speaker 1 1:09:24
we're going to this camp, we're really nervous. The staff there is the trainers are wonderful. They supply lunch. They're all sponsored every, every day for lunch. So we're trying to figure out the combo, or the trying to figure out the Bolus is for every day. They're they're even able to give him the the injections for his lunches, which is great. So the last day, I gave thank you cards and gift cards to the trainers. And as I was there for the last day, I ran into Steve Logan, and as I was because I was one of the only parents that was kind of walking around. Uh, during lunch time, and he stopped me and was like, Hey, how's going? And just kind of chatted with them a teeny bit, and kind of explained, like, why I was there, just kind of handing out these thank you cards. And he was like, hey, you know your kid. He's the one with pink shoes, and Trevor had, like, neon bright pink shoes, like he couldn't miss them. And I was just blown away that he even knew that my kid was because there's hundreds of kids at this camp, yeah. And he's like, Ah. I was like, is he in your group? He goes, Oh, no, no, no. Some of the beginning of the week had mentioned that your son had type one, and I actually know the signs. So I decided right then that I was going to keep an eye on your kid, because I I have, I have type two, and I know it's not the same, but I know what to look for. So I've been keeping an eye on your kid all week, if any, if he needed anything, I just wanted to let you know that I had him covered. And also he's been, he's been doing pretty good. He's been working hard. And I was like, Oh my gosh. I just like, my heart dropped. And I just like, can I give you a hug? I know I don't know you, but I just also want to give you a hug. And he's like, yeah, yeah, sure, of course. And I looked at him, and I was like, my husband has always told me that you were his favorite basketball player, and I just want to let you know you are now mine, and I'll just never forget that. I just thought that was beautiful, so, so nice, unless

Scott Benner 1:11:30
that's how he gets the moms to hug him and then it's crazy. No, I'm just kidding. That's wonderful, though, and I can see why that's so touching to you. Yeah. Did you see I got uncomfortable with your emotion, and I tried to change direction. I know, I know. I was like, Oh, you're crying. Like he's probably just being creepy. No, I'm just kidding. He probably was not totally joking. That's really wonderful. It was so, so nice. And he has tight he told you, as type two. Yeah, that's something. Well, good for man. See, see, there's decent people all over the place.

Speaker 1 1:12:00
Yes, I feel like throughout this whole year, there's just been dabbles of that, just here and there. It's like, right when we needed it, things happen, someone you know, like the doctor, our friend who had the g7 I had no idea even which CGM to go for, look for, or even how to insert it, and all of a sudden, bam, there. It was wonderful. We had a neighbor down the street. She was the nurse. I had no idea what a 1c was. When that test result came back, she's like, did they check his a 1c I was like, I have no idea that came back. She knew exactly what to help me with. I mean, there's all these little steps all along the way. Ever since it's just been

Scott Benner 1:12:38
solid pieces together. You find a podcast, you read a book, you meet a person. No, no, no, I don't I didn't sound like I was trying to lump me something. I'm sorry. I didn't mean No, no, no, of course, you're lumped in there. No. But like, you know, these little things happen along the way, and you ascend and get better, and it gets easier and etc, and that's going to keep happening for him. You You understand right now. And by the way, if my phone rings, I gotta go. But like, I'm so sorry. No, don't be sorry. It's your fault for not knowing how to plug in your headset earlier. But that's Don't be sorry about it. It's no one's fault. It happens all the time. Seriously, please don't worry. But you know, like you're on a journey, he's on a journey. Your husband's on a journey. You got another kid who, trust me, is being impacted by this. You might not even notice it, yet. You're on a journey together, separately, and everybody's on a different timeline. So you just keep supporting each other, and it eventually, hopefully, people have the experiences they need to have the tools that they require, and they accept what's going on. And yeah, there you go. You know, yeah, that's what I'm calling the episode, by the way, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So that people can incessantly listen for like, maybe they'll turn into a drinking game. Scott says, yeah, yeah, take a

Speaker 1 1:13:47
shot. I think it should. Let's put one right there. What do you think I mean

Scott Benner 1:13:50
by Yeah, yeah? Do I mean I hear you shut up. We're moving on. Do I what is I

Speaker 1 1:13:55
think it's your Matthew McConaughey is all right, all right. All right.

Scott Benner 1:13:59
He sounds much cooler when he's doing it. Yeah, I did not do it justice. I know, no, not than you, than, I mean, than me. I wasn't saying your Matthew McConaughey was terrible. I was saying, Oh, it is. No, it is. But that's not what I was saying. What I was saying was that I my, yeah, it's not as cool as his. All right. All right. All right. Don't you think? Do you think he gets tired of it? Do you think once in a while he's like, oh, people are waiting for it. I'll whip it out here.

Speaker 1 1:14:22
No, absolutely not. He's Matthew McConaughey. He doesn't know. His ego thrives on that. Oh, you think he loves it 100% okay, all

Scott Benner 1:14:33
I know about Matthew McConaughey is, I think his wife is hot. That might not even be true. That's just the thing. I think. Also, I'm a man, so this is pretty much how I judge the world. It's something I'm so sorry. Oh, she is, I'm looking, yeah, okay, very beautiful. Yeah. Certainly is. What are the man? There's a reason to be famous. That lady will talk to you. Goodness gracious, yeah, I should have, I mean, it wouldn't have helped. Anyway. Oh, here comes my call. I gotta go. All right. Well, have a good one. Thank you. It's nice to do this with you. Hold on one

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