#310 She Is Having a Baby! Third Trimester

March 2, 2020Scott Benner

Part Three of a Four Part Series

Samantha is 24 years old, newly diagnosed with type 1 and pregnant. I'll be talking with Samantha after each trimester and after the baby arrives.

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Scott Benner 0:00
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Samantha 2:32
Morning.

Scott Benner 2:34
Hey, how are you?

Samantha 2:35
I'm good. How are you? I'm

yeah, I'm alright. Yeah.

Scott Benner 2:42
I perhaps overcommitted a little bit on the public speaking but I'm

Samantha 2:45
really tired.

Scott Benner 2:48
I got sick on the last flight. Oh, no. And I um, I had this situation where I was in Dallas. And it was a it was a quick turnaround on a long flight. And so I left my house at 9am Saturday morning, and returned home at 1am. Sunday night. So Monday morning. Yeah. And then I had to get up in the morning and go to like a long dentist appointment at 10am. And while I was sitting in the dentist's chair, I thought, My throat feels weird. Oh, gosh, I remembering the coughing kid on the plane. And I was like, huh, yeah, so I was like, I'll be okay. Because Sam, here's the thing you don't know about me. I don't get sick.

Samantha 3:36
My dad says that too, until he gets sick. No,

Scott Benner 3:39
no, it really like I will get sick. You know, don't get me wrong. Like it'll be 10 o'clock at night. And I'll be like, wow, I have a fever. I don't feel well. And I'll go to bed and wake up in the morning. I'm like, Oh, don't miss over like that quickly. So you know, I'm like, Okay, my throats a little scratchy. This won't get me the next day and the next day. And then like, the third day afterwards, I raised my voice. And then I lost my voice. Oh, and I was like, seven days away from sorry, the music's playing. I was like seven days away from having to go to Atlanta, which is now I leave for Atlanta in like three days. And I couldn't speak it.

Samantha 4:20
Oh, gosh. Well, you sound like you don't sound like Yeah.

Scott Benner 4:24
My body wasn't putting up with that. Yeah,

Unknown Speaker 4:27
I'm by job to do.

Scott Benner 4:29
My jeans are a mess otherwise, but I don't get sick for very long. But I was in a bit of a panic. Because I felt Yeah, I thought oh my gosh, this whole Atlanta thing is it's built around my being there. Like there's four. There's four sessions that I'm in. There's not that many sessions. Yes, I was. Yeah. Oh my gosh, I'm in trouble. So I was real quiet for a couple of days. I didn't talk much. My wife was like, This is amazing. Alright. But he's funny, you know? Anyway, you're super preggers now. How's it going?

Samantha 5:01
I am I'm, I'm good. I it's three weeks from today that he will be here if he doesn't decide to come earlier.

Scott Benner 5:10
So are you being induced?

Samantha 5:11
Yeah, they're inducing me on the 17th of March. Wow,

Scott Benner 5:15
is that a day isn't the 17th of March something?

Samantha 5:18
Yeah, but it's also the only day my doctor is working the entire day. So I have to St. Patrick's Day, but

Scott Benner 5:27
I was just thinking all the Catholics listening are like, yes, idiot. It's Saturday. That numbers ringing true in my head for some reason. Um, are you excited to have the baby on St. Patrick's Day if it happens? Or do you just don't care, it's just the day they had.

Samantha 5:41
Um, I mean, I'd rather not be on a holiday but. But as long as I mean, it's fine. I because it was really important that my doctor was the one that was there to be the one to deliver. And so like, they're having me come in right after midnight, on the 17th. And then, because she's like on call, and then she's gonna be in the office all day on the 17th. So that was the best chance to make sure she was there.

Scott Benner 6:13
Here's my thoughts. My brother was born a few days before Christmas. And he got screwed over every year because my parents would just go Christmas shopping. And they? No, no, they would just go to his Christmas pile and pull out like two or three things and a birthday present. So the kid was getting less stuff. He was totally getting hosed. And now I'm thinking, What if your child your son grows up to be a bit of a drinker? I don't think I don't think we want his birthday on St. Patrick's Day.

Samantha 6:39
Everyone says that he'll like it when he's older. Yeah.

Scott Benner 6:42
How much? And how much were you like it? Yeah.

Samantha 6:46
So it's fine. It's

Scott Benner 6:48
so I'm super interested in how, because I realized when we started doing this, like, the first time we spoke, it was gonna be you know, there was a lot there, like you were getting, you're getting over a personal tragedy. You were pregnant again. You know, it was a lot of excitement. And like, and, you know, little consternation, maybe a little wary. And then the second one's always like, that's the cruise control part of the pregnancy, usually like that three to six month range, but I'm gonna curse and then bleep it out. It's real in the last three months, right? Yeah, what's going on?

Samantha 7:21
I mean, huge. That's definitely. And people keep saying how big I am. And I'm tired all the time. It's really hard to sleep, because especially in the last couple weeks, when he is like, big enough, in my stomach, where he's like running out of room. At night, he likes to stretch. So it's like his butt is pushing on one part of my stomach and his feet are pushing on the other part of my stomach. So it's very hard to sleep because his feet are on my right side. I usually try to sleep on my right side. But then it's like, he's poking me. And then I try to turn over. And he doesn't like that. Because like his whole body shifts, and it's a lot.

Scott Benner 8:13
It's hard to sleep with other people, whether they're outside of you, or inside of you, apparently,

Samantha 8:17
yeah.

Scott Benner 8:18
Are you able to move him? Or do you have to move yourself? Have you figured anything out? Or is there it's just kind of fruitless?

Samantha 8:25
At night, I think I'm just too tired to deal with it. During the day, if he's doing the same thing. I will like push on him until he moves. Gotcha. And

Scott Benner 8:35
go ahead. I'm sorry, I just I started to talk in my brain was like, You have nothing to say. So.

Samantha 8:41
Yeah, my husband gets worried when I push on my stomach a lot. But I mean, he's fine. Because sometimes you like you can't feel him at all. Like right now. He's not awake. So I can't feel him at all. But like, in a couple hours is when he usually wakes up. And he'll be like, poking insides and my stomach will look deformed because he's poking at two different sides of it.

Scott Benner 9:06
How do you find the commentary? Because I was thinking about it from my perspective. Sometimes you see a pregnant woman who's clearly like towards the end and yeah, it's nice like it's like oh my god you're so big kind of means like the baby's coming or you know, like something like that but that's if you hear at once what happens when every person who passes you is like oh my god, like a big year. Like, how does it end up feeling?

Samantha 9:29
I don't mind much the only thing that runs through my mind is like he has to get out of me. So Stop saying that. I'm like, so big, because that means he's so big.

Unknown Speaker 9:40
The exits not so big. Yeah.

Samantha 9:43
Like I'd rather him be like, Oh, yeah, you look like a normal size. So yeah, he'll be normal, but he's already he was measuring like, perfect normal size. Up until like two weeks ago. We had our final ultrasound where they measure him. And his, his. His like body is measuring a little bit bigger. So

Scott Benner 10:09
have you ever been behind a tractor trailer on the highway and you're coming up on an overpass? You think oh my god, it's not gonna make it's not gonna mean that it goes right under it. It's not a problem.

Samantha 10:17
Yeah, that's what everyone keeps telling me. He told me not to worry, but

Scott Benner 10:21
oh no, I would worry about it. I'm just saying that you won't see that you won't be behind the tractor trailer on the 17th. But your husband's gonna have that feeling he's gonna be like, this isn't gonna work. There's no look the baby came out that's really feel like it actually tell him unless he's got a strong feeling about it. He should really probably stamp on your half of the of the game. It's just,

Samantha 10:45
it's easier. Yeah, I don't know what he plans to do. Actually, we haven't talked about that. I always just assumed he was going to be next to me because I'll need him to be there for me. But I don't know. I wonder

Scott Benner 10:56
how that always goes. Because I felt like I was well, with my first son, with my first son, like, I have 17 sons with my first my son when my son was born, my wife was in labor for quite a time. And at one point, I was trying to do all the things that I thought I was supposed to doing, like comforting stuff. And it's she's like, why don't you go get something which I look back on now. And I feel like she was like, What if he just got out of here for a little while? realizing right? So back then I was younger, and a Dorito was nothing. So I had a sandwich and a couple Doritos or something come back up. She goes into labor later and I have diritto breath. My wife will retell this story with the same anger that she had. On the day of my son's birth. She'll tell that story right now. It just I must. I was like, it's gonna be okay. And she was like, Oh, my God, like, get back if he's going to screw something up. Or perhaps he won't. Excuse me. I'm excited to find out what happens like? Or if you get irritated with even the support at some point, if you find it necessary. Like it's a really interesting what happens in the moment? Are you thinking about epidural or what are you planning for? touched by type one has programs and services for those living with a daily reality of type one diabetes, they offer a supportive community with many interactive programs, and creative resources designed to empower one to thrive with type one. program programs like their annual conference, their awareness campaign bowl for a cure their dance program, dancing for diabetes, the big show every year. And they even have something they call a DI box that they send out to newly diagnosed people. That conference, by the way, touched by type one. It's on May 30. in Orlando, Florida, and I'm pretty certain I'm going to be speaking at it. I hope to see you there. Check that out. And everything else they do at touched by type one.org.

Samantha 12:55
As soon as they can give it to me or as soon as it starts hurting my eye yesterday, I was talking with the nurse. And she was saying like, if you don't feel anything and you're fine with the pain, then you can always put it off. And I was like No, I want it written on something that you give me the epidural right away. Like I don't want to feel.

Scott Benner 13:14
I don't know if you understand how pain relief works. But once you feel the pain, it's too late.

Samantha 13:19
Yeah. And I was like, I don't want to feel any pain. So I want it right away and keep it coming. It's 2020 lady.

Scott Benner 13:28
Yeah. No reason for mama to be like, Oh my gosh, why someone stabbing me?

Samantha 13:33
Yeah,

Scott Benner 13:34
I hear you. Oh my gosh, well, I'm okay. So so the people talking to you really just makes you think about the delivery more than anything. Like you're not like, don't feel like a body image problem. When they're saying like, you're pregnant, you're supposed to look like that.

Samantha 13:48
Well, I have a double chin now, which I'm not used to. And that's the only thing that I have an issue with. That's fair. But other I mean, other than that, that's a small thing. It's not like I dwell on it all the time. It's just like, it's there. And I know, I know, it's there.

Scott Benner 14:05
Not that I'm pregnant. But I have a double chin. And I daydream about having it altered. Oh, yeah, monthly, monthly. I look in the mirror. And I think How hard would it really be to make a small incision here, just whatever this is here. Just take it out and pull the skin the tiniest bit. I owe that to myself. afford it? But yeah, I feel like I'd be happier.

Samantha 14:26
Is that strange? No, no, I mean, I think I think it's something that everybody goes through your normal.

Scott Benner 14:33
I avoid taking photos sometimes because of it, which I don't have any other feeling about having myself photographed. Except for that.

Samantha 14:40
Yeah. See, that's when I noticed that the most in photos. And I'm like, Oh, wait, no more photo. me.

Scott Benner 14:48
Sure. Everyone's like this. I look in the mirror and I think I'm having I'm having a good day. And then I'll let someone take a picture. I look at the picture. I'm like, how is the person in the picture now? in the mirror like that's not I mean, and not that. It's like It's so far off.

Samantha 15:02
One of these things is lying. I don't know which one it is

Scott Benner 15:05
hundred percent. And I think it's I think it's anytime I look and think I don't look so bad today. Yeah, the light must be right or something. Oh my god. Okay, so we've got it, we've got a delivery date, but you're hoping that maybe he comes sooner.

Samantha 15:19
Um, I kind of well, not too much sooner. Because I mean, I'm working up until like, the 17th is a Tuesday, and I'm working until that Friday before

Scott Benner 15:30
so interesting. So it's a little bit of a money thing to like you. You need him to stay in.

Samantha 15:34
It's, um, it's a money thing. And it's like I otherwise I'd be sitting at home and what am I going to do at home? kind of thing.

Scott Benner 15:42
You're about to find out because you're having a baby.

Samantha 15:45
Yeah. And then the baby will be here. And I'll have things to do. But

Scott Benner 15:49
you certainly will. Oh, my gosh, I there was like a three year span where we'd watch the Academy Awards and just think I heard about this movie. Yeah. Yeah. I so okay. So you don't like staying a little bit hoping maybe? Do you prefer natural over being induced?

Samantha 16:12
No, I don't care. It doesn't. Yeah, as long as I don't, I don't want a C section. I really hope it doesn't turn into me having to get a C section just because I don't want my stomach to get cut open and have to deal with the longer recovery. But other than that, then, yeah, induced or natural whatever. Whatever happens.

Scott Benner 16:34
My son came out two weeks late.

Samantha 16:37
Yeah, usually what the first he they at least stay in their full term. So I'm thinking that he'll probably make it unless something happens where they're gonna like where they decide he needs to come early. Yeah,

Scott Benner 16:49
Arda needed a parachute on her on her due date. Like she was just like, coming out. Yes, we were we were our Kelly was going to be induced on Arden's due date. And the night before we're like packing up and getting ready. It's like 1230 and she's like, I think my water just broke. Oh, so we just made it that long, though. Should we made it to the hospital and Arden came out? A few five, six hours later, we actually were just at lunch the other day, where am I was chest I was chastised again by my wife for not knowing the times my kids are born. Oh, gosh. So my son's born in the early evening and Arden's born in the early morning, but I mean, the exact number. You would think I was really taken, taken to the woodshed at this restaurant for not knowing and then I start then I start guessing I'm like, I don't know. 716 then my brain doesn't remember. So they'll ask me 20 minutes later, and I'm like, I don't know.

Unknown Speaker 17:45
Doesn't matter now.

Scott Benner 17:46
They're here. I'm taking a great jet. Look at how good she's doing.

Samantha 17:50
Like me, like if it really matters what time they're born, then we're only selling they're celebrating their birthday at that time. For a minute.

Scott Benner 17:58
I'll say this yesterday was my son's birthday. Yeah, I turned 20. And it was the first day his first birthday. We weren't with him on his birthday. Oh, more impactful than I thought it was going to be. Yeah, but we saw him the day before. He played baseball the day before we went to see him but it just kind of didn't feel the same, like not being there for some reason. So anyway, all that sadness, you have to look forward to

Samantha 18:22
awesome, yay.

Scott Benner 18:25
Turns out when you love somebody, it hurts almost as much as it is. It feels good. All right, so how how's your diabetes been? How's that been going?

Samantha 18:37
Right now, in the last couple of weeks, it's been a lot nicer to me than it has before I went through like maybe a month plan where I wanted to scream because my my insulin resistance kicked in. I was hoping that it wasn't I thought I was gonna get like, it's gonna be a miracle. And I wasn't going to deal with that. Because everyone had said that it kicked in earlier for them. And it wasn't happening for me. So I was like, maybe I skipped that part. But I didn't. I hit that and I was needing a lot more insulin and I was changing my Omni pod, like every day and a half. Because I was going through so much insulin. And I mean, I probably could have eaten less carbee things and made it last longer. But I didn't really change the way I was eating. So I was going through my Omni pods. Like every day

Scott Benner 19:29
we had that chin defeat.

Samantha 19:31
Yeah, exactly.

There now so you guys will take care of it.

Scott Benner 19:38
What are you gonna do? What are you gonna do give birth of that chin and then ignore it. That's not okay. I'd have to call Beifuss on you for that.

Samantha 19:48
So that was really I felt like I was changing it like every second which was crazy. And then like once that's I think the most frustrating part is that it doesn't like change, like, your settings don't change, and then they're good. It's like my settings were changing every day to something different than the day before. So it was really hard to like, like, I would figure it out. And then the next day, it would just be completely different. And then I'd have to figure it out again. And that that's the most frustrating part to me.

Scott Benner 20:23
So that's probably off the F Jenny at some point. But that's probably hormones, because you're describing Yeah, you're describing like, like doing like, like, I don't know, like a period situation or something like that, where like, one day, it's, it's going this way. And then you know, a couple hours later, like, Oh, I got it, and then all of a sudden, it heads in a completely different direction. And it's really tiring to keep up with,

Samantha 20:44
it is tiring, and it's totally the pregnancy hormones it has, like it probably has to do with something like he's growing or something, I don't know. But definitely, it's happening. And that was the most frustrating part. Not that I was using so much insulin just that like, I like it when, like if it changed at one day, and it was like that for even like, even the next day, I would have been happy. But it was changing every single day, every hour, like the morning of Wednesday was going to be different than the morning of Thursday. And it's just really exhausting.

Scott Benner 21:20
I feel that. So you're using 200 units of insulin about in 36 hours for that amount of carbs. How much insulin Do you think you should have been using? In that 36 hour time period?

Samantha 21:32
will usually my pod while I'll be able to make the the for what? Three days?

Scott Benner 21:41
Yeah, doubling your insulin? Almost?

Samantha 21:43
Yeah. And like, right, my carb ratio is already pretty like I've ever since I was diagnosed, my carb ratio has been kind of crazy. So I use a lot of insulin in general. So when I hit when I need more insulin, it's just like,

Scott Benner 22:01
a ton more. Did you say you did it? Or did was it hard to do sometimes, like what is your current ratio? Now? 12124

Samantha 22:06
is my current ratio when like pre pregnancy

Scott Benner 22:12
artists is aggressive at like one, one to like seven and a half or something like that.

Samantha 22:16
Yeah, I've always been one to four. It's never it wasn't. It's not like a pregnancy thing. It's like since I've been diagnosed, it's been wonderful. And it works for me. So obviously, it's right. It's just when I'm needing more insulin on some days, it's like, my half I, I use a lot of insulin.

Scott Benner 22:37
Is it Mom? I'm thinking for you. But is it scary to use that much?

Samantha 22:42
It was in the beginning. I especially during the pregnancy, I've gotten a lot more used to using more. And I don't. So I break up the Bolus in the pod just because I worry about like, I have problems with the pod leaking. Sometimes if I do too big of a bolus, and I don't know if it's because of where I have it on me, or it's probably something that I'm doing wrong. So I'll break it up. And that kind of fools my mind also into thinking that I'm not taking so much.

Scott Benner 23:16
Because you're looking at like 445 carbs. You're looking at like 11 units or more. Yeah, one for four. So you mean you could have had a 45 carb meal and been doing 25 units like Yeah,

Samantha 23:28
yeah.

Scott Benner 23:30
Jesus, that must have been that does. There are people right now have kids that are just like, Wait, what?

Samantha 23:36
Yeah, cuz Yeah, it's crazy. And that's why I always find it so interesting to hear other people's carb ratios and settings because mine are so aggressive that it's just like, it's so interesting.

Scott Benner 23:50
Arden's I would say that, to get 11 units into Arden would be for something pretty carb tastic in the 80. To 90, maybe it might be the 70 to 80 carb ratio. Oh, yeah. And, and that's, you know, she does not very frequently eat more than 6070 carbs at a setting. Unless, unless it ends up being something like crazy, like a waffle and it has, you know, syrup. Yeah. But but every now and so what I wanted to kind of talk to you about a little bit is that from all of the other people I've spoken to adult women who have had babies, as hard as this part is right here. As far as your management goes, the real time to be vigilant. And for somebody looking in from the outside to like maybe be a little more concerned is going to be the after part.

Samantha 24:43
Yeah. And that's and that's what my the nurse was talking to me about yesterday to she was just because everyone says like, she was saying that my my needs are going to go back to pre pregnancy pretty quick after he's out of me. Which right now in the last two weeks, I have been doing my pre pregnancy settings. So I haven't needed as much insulin as the month before, like previous, which has been nice because everything's been more steady. And I've been able to keep things in my range easier. But I hear breastfeeding drops you fast.

Scott Benner 25:22
Okay? I didn't, that's interesting that I didn't, that I didn't hear what I was thinking about more is you're going to be tired. And the baby is going to suddenly seem more important than anything else. And that there's a concern, people stop paying close enough attention to their blood sugars and stuff like that.

Samantha 25:41
Yeah. And I met, the nurse was telling me because she knows me, because she is a nurse that went through our previous pregnancy. And then I see her all the time now. So she knows that I'm a little bit crazy with my management. And so she was telling me like that I need to kind of relax a little bit, because she's worried about, I think she's more worried. I had a whole kind of argument with her, like a month ago, because she thought my agency was too low. And I was trying to explain to her that I didn't go low. So it's okay, that my agency was on the lower side, because I wasn't having any hypose. And she was very adamant that that like that it was just too low, because I think she's used to dealing with different kinds of people. And so I think she's just worried about me going low and being with a baby, and not fixing it, and then something bad happening, which I understand. But

Scott Benner 26:45
so I have to say something from a more theoretical standpoint, let's keep in mind a I don't have type one diabetes. MB, I'm not a lady. C, I could not give birth but D I did take care of two newborn children. Like my, you know, joking, joking, and no joking aside, like, somewhere in the mix in the middle of my wife's job is to go to work, make babies and hand me the babies. You don't I mean, so it's not that she's not involved. But, you know, the overnight stuff, you know, that kind of stuff is I know what it's like to raise a newborn is what I'm saying. Yeah. And so from everything I've seen doing this podcast and everything I've heard from hearing from people who've do well or struggle vice versa. I sort of think that in the in the vein of bumping and nudging, the bigger concern would be letting it get away from you. Yeah, right. Because like management, obviously takes a little focus. Mm hmm. But not managing takes way more time. It's going to make your blood sugar higher a person like us not going to feel well with their blood sugar higher. Yeah, that's gonna just create different problems. Like I don't understand the idea of trading a possible problem for definite problems.

Samantha 27:59
Yeah, and that's what my husband said yesterday, when I was telling her telling, sorry, telling him what she said when she was a hurt, because then you wouldn't have this baby inside of you, but go ahead. Yeah, because I told him, I told him like, she was like, telling me if I go over 200 then it's okay. Like, we'll correct and, and they'll come down. Oh, I'm sorry. I lost I lost the earphone. And that my husband, my husband's reaction was, well, if you go anywhere near 200 you're gonna feel like, like, you're not gonna Yeah, you're gonna feel terrible. So that's not gonna help you any. So we'll see. It's gonna be an adjustment. And I'll probably

I'll probably mess up somewhere along the way.

Scott Benner 28:44
But all I'm saying is that it's not that you're gonna mess up it's that you're adding a layer of responsibility concern and like love and affection that you at this moment and I don't mean this pejoratively. But I also try not to use too many big words that I know while I'm doing the podcast, but I don't mean I don't mean this poorly. But people are like, is this guy smarter than he says he is maybe me. Okay, and, but the concept here would be you don't know what it's like to have a baby. I know you, won't you do you right now. You know what it's like to be pregnant. That kid's gonna come out. It's gonna hit you so deep in your heart. It's going to change everything you care about in a split second. Yeah, you're going to value your own health less. Yeah, soon as it feels like valuing his health comes first. I sat in a doctor's office yesterday, because my back has been a bit of an issue and I have plantar fasciitis in one of my feet, right? And so it sucks because my ankle gets stiff. I can't run when I can't run. I can't work out when I can't work out my back gets that from you know this cycle. So I go to a place where they offer physical therapy and chiropractic stuff. Like this whole kind of like Wellness Center, and I'm in there going, like, just let me go to the chiropractor guy. And they're like, no, if you do two weeks of physical therapy to like, we'll get you back to where you need to be, and you keep going. And I'm like, I don't have time for that. And the guy's like, What do you mean, I'm like, I just, I don't have time. And he's a younger guy. You know, he's a married man, but he doesn't have kids. And I'm explaining to him like, you mean, you don't understand. Like, I have a job like this. This podcast is a job, it takes up a lot of time. It doesn't make a ton of money, but it makes enough money to help me send my son to college. And this is how much college costs every weekend. And this is what my mortgages, my bills, and you know, and I have to support my wife who's making the lion's share of the money that's taking care of all these things. And I have a daughter who has type one diabetes, she has hypothyroidism, she's been struggling with muscle stiffness and other problems. She just had a surgery to have this thing taken out. I'm like, you don't get it, man. I'm like, I'm not a person. Yeah, I'm a facilitator. And then at the end, if there's anything left, that's when I'm a person. And the guy's like, that's wrong. And I was like, No, I know. And I completely agreed with you on that, right? Until I had a kid. And, and so like, you know, theoretically, for all single people listening, you're right, I need to value myself and make more time and all that stuff. But when you're in the fight, you know, when people are shooting, that's not how it goes anymore. So I just want to caution you against that, because you have a different layer with diabetes.

Samantha 31:27
Yeah, I feel like

Scott Benner 31:28
if Arjun was about to have a baby, this is what I'd be saying to her, that I you should learn from me, and value yourself enough that you can find strike a better balance than what our monkey minds do once we have kids. Which is just like, like, Oh, I'm gonna just die sooner as long as he's okay. Doesn't matter.

Samantha 31:49
I know. And that's probably something I'll struggle with. Because I already see myself like when we babysit my, my nephew more than my niece, because my niece is older, but my nephew was four, like, I, I noticed that when I'm taking care of him, I kind of don't, because I'm caught, like the person that constantly checks my decks calm. And every five minutes, I know what my blood sugar is. Because I like, if it changed, for whatever reason, I need to know so I can stay on top of it. Because that's just who I am. Probably not the most healthy, but

Scott Benner 32:24
you're probably insane. But, um, yeah.

Samantha 32:26
And but I, but I understand that I'm insane. So it's okay. But when I'm watching him, I don't really pay attention to it as much, and then my alarm will go off. And I'm like, Okay, I need to do something

Scott Benner 32:42
where your alarm set.

Samantha 32:44
Right now I have my alarm set at 80 and 120. So it's, it's the alarm when I have time to do things. But also, if I'm at and running around with a four year old, then I couldn't be 60 in the next five minutes. Right? Right. So it's something that I'm going to have to figure out,

Scott Benner 33:05
yeah, it's gonna be different, right? You're, you're gonna have to, you've now known what it's like to be, have type one, and not be apparent. And now you're gonna find out what it's like to have type one and be a parent. And maybe, you know, maybe stability at a slightly higher number than you're accustomed to, maybe will be the way to get through the first number of months. And I'm not also saying, like, for the rest of your life, because that's the other thing is that if you think your diabetes has changed a lot over the last number of months, day to day, like, Wait, do you see what happens? Like, you know, there's a stretch of time, where the baby is just like, you know, a drinking pooping mission with that. But once that stops, it's just like, I don't know, it just feels like you're on a roller coaster constantly going down a hill, and then one day it flattens out, and they leave for college. You know, so the rest of it is going to change frequently. And yeah, and it's going to happen so quickly, you're not going to notice it happening sometimes. So, you know, if you can't be fluid and be a parent, you're going to be in trouble. Yeah, of course. Yeah. So I I'm saying I think your management, like if you chose a slightly higher number to stay stable at and that benefited you not saying that even that's your answer. But if that's what you choose, it's not going to need to stay like that for long

Samantha 34:22
before. Yeah,

Scott Benner 34:23
life's gonna shift and you could probably shift along with it.

Samantha 34:26
Yeah, which is I'm sure. I mean, I'm thinking that because I've heard that your hormones are still wacky and will mess with your settings and your insulin needs. Like in the entire time you're breastfeeding up to just and then after you're done breastfeeding because your body still needs to adjust to being normal again. So I assume it's gonna be crazy for a while. A wild ride to say the very least, and I'll just have to do my best.

Scott Benner 34:57
And they remind us again with the with the Little Man is going to be called when he gets a name. Harrison. That's 100%. Correct? Yeah. After Harrison Ford in case any of you missed? Mm hmm. And by the way, if you missed the second episode, what are you doing the Sam's given her time Sam's came on? Right when you found out you're pregnant. Mm hmm. And then at the end of the trimesters, and now we're right, ready for the birth, you're going to come on once more. When I after the baby. And here's what I expect the last episode of viewers to go like Sam ready, I just, I don't know, I just say, Please, help me we eat the cat. We didn't mean to. We didn't even have a cat before the baby. We got a cat. I don't know where it came. A toxic shock. So we eat the cat and I don't know what to do. We're thinking of having another baby. Yeah, watch all this stupid stuff that happens to you now. Really, really excellent. Listen, having children, to me is is one of those things that you could put me on a deus and say, Scott, I want you to spend the next hour arguing against having children. And I could do it fervently and mean every word I'm saying and then move me to the other side of the stage and say, Scott, I don't want you to argue for having children. And I could rebut everything I was saying and I'd be right on both sides of the stage. So good luck.

Samantha 36:26
Yay.

Scott Benner 36:27
Really start looking back at what kind of a child you are. And your husband was because trust me there in is gonna lie. what's about to happen to you

Samantha 36:35
somewhere? Well, from all the stories, my husband was a little perfect Angel. So

Scott Benner 36:41
did his did his mom tell those stories? Yeah, you need someone else to tell those stories?

Samantha 36:46
Well, I believe it. He's very good now. So yeah, this whole thing it continues on through the generations.

Scott Benner 36:53
So if you told stories about your husband, they'd all be like, super positive about what a great guy is?

Samantha 36:57
Well, yeah, mostly, he's a great guy.

Scott Benner 37:01
Maybe you're gonna get lucky here. Some people's kids are nice. But

Samantha 37:06
I mean, I'm sure I'll think my kid is wonderful. So Oh, isn't that old? Man.

Scott Benner 37:12
I don't know if you'll think that or not like. So I'm wondering now, I'm super intrigued now to all the mothers that are listening. Like, I wish I could hear all their thoughts at the same time, because right now they're like, you know, the first one's nice, but the second one's kind of the very first thing you're going to notice when you go to Contour Next one.com is a yellow button at the top that says get a free Contour Next One meter, just give it a little click. When you do that, you're one step closer to the most accurate, Handy blood glucose meter, my daughter has ever had. To get started today with the Contour Next One smart meter and their contour diabetes app, you're going to discover that smart blood glucose testing with the Contour Next One meter. And the contour diabetes app is just what you've been looking for. get to that link, scroll down, fill out a little bit of information, find out if you're eligible for that free meter. And get started today. If you don't want to do that, you can just ask your endocrinologist at your next appointment say, Hey, come on. I've been using this meter right here forever. I think things been on the market for you know, a million years. I don't know how accurate This is. Is this the latest greatest technology and blood glucose metering? I don't believe so. But I'm hearing that the Contour Next One might be worth a looky loo. Your endocrinologist will probably say, I don't know why you're saying looky loo, it's not 1924 then they'll write you a prescription and get the thing yourself. That's it, get some test trips, a new meter, you're on your way. whole new life with accurate tests. Don't forget to be hit that blood drop once and you don't get a you know the beep with the Contour. Next One, you can go back in and go again without affecting the accuracy. So you don't have to waste that test trip if you don't get it right the first time. It's got a great little light for doing it in the dark. And this little neat system with like colors and arrows that shows you if your blood sugars in the range that you've preset, you got to check it out. Contour Next one.com I'm super intrigued now to all the mothers that are listening. Like I wish I could hear all their thoughts at the same time because right now they're like, you know, the first one's nice, but the second one's kind of then like it just it really does. It's interesting, like my wife and I were talking last night my son had a uh, his very first start at college. And they his team was getting like, they they were really putting it like getting it put to them. They had maybe two hits the whole game, but my son was putting the ball in play like hitting the ball hard. He just kept hitting it at people and even just hitting the ball seemed like an accomplishment in that moment but it was certainly not the excite exciting debut. I think he was hoping for in his second season you know, like nobody plays in there. freshman season if you get on the field in the first game in the sophomore year, that's pretty exciting for you. Yeah. And and so there's a doubleheader. And after the first game, he comes over, we brought some food for him. And he comes over. And as he's walking towards us, my wife and I, like, how's this gonna go? Like, is he happy that he's like, like, that he reached this goal, is he going to be upset at how the last, you know, hour and a half didn't go is probably the way he diagrammed in his head, like, where's this going to be? And we knew for certain that the year before he would have walked up to us, and been disappointed and probably aggravated to some degree. But instead, a completely different person walked up to us. And we had to admit, when he walked away that as good of a kid as he was prior, he had been short a lot in the last year, in some ways that we had not seen because he's been away at school, sometimes. His reactions were just measured and thoughtful. And we were like, Oh, my gosh, and he walks away. My wife's like, wow, that one really worked out. And sitting right there, and she's like, yo, you're doing fine, too, just like, we only time will tell with you. We're just like, he's starting to look like he's not gonna ever rob a bank. Like, maybe we can sit back a little bit pretty good about what's happened here, you know. But, you know, but last night, going to bed, I still felt like, I can't believe we didn't, you know, we didn't see him on his birthday, more than just like a FaceTime, you know, for a few minutes. And yeah, a couple of text messages. So I definitely don't want to be trite. But I have not found any better way to say it really does go fast. You know, just to try to enjoy it. And if you can, big picture once in a while, it helps on the really slow days that are mind numbing. There are going to be a lot of days, where you just start questioning your existence like why am I here? Even one of my kids no bigger doesn't look any different than yesterday.

Samantha 41:59
All he's doing is sitting there crying.

Scott Benner 42:01
If he was an egg, at least I could just turn a lamp on him and go out. But you know, it's illegal to leave them by themselves. In the 50s, you could put a kid in a crib and go outside. No one cared. Nowadays that'll get you locked right up. So I just I'm so what do you expect? You have expectations now? Are you clear minded about what you think is about to happen?

Samantha 42:30
Uh, like when he actually here for I think

Scott Benner 42:34
it's gonna be like to be a mom. Like, I want to match this up against what he's

Samantha 42:38
saying? Um,

I don't know. I guess I don't really have. I'm just more worried about him like getting out. Get like escaping getting getting out of me, like no sleep

Scott Benner 42:57
and have that kid wander off someday?

Samantha 42:59
No, I'm like, I haven't got farther than that. I'm like, I worry. I worry that he's not going to be able to fit into his clothes, because he's going to be I think I'm making him a lot bigger in my head than he's going to be at least I hope so.

Scott Benner 43:13
Did they give you an estimate of how big they think he's gonna be?

Samantha 43:15
Well, last, and was that it was either two weeks ago or it was last Monday. Whenever the holiday was. It was last Monday. He was measuring at six pounds 10 ounces, which is bigger, or than he should have been measuring. For my comfort.

Scott Benner 43:38
zone. Okay, so. So how tall are you? I'm five nine. I see you're taller person. Yeah. How are your hips? Are they narrow?

Samantha 43:47
I see my my ob told me that I'm tall and I have wide hips. So I should be okay. But that doesn't assure me any.

Scott Benner 43:56
Absolutely shouldn't listen. But my wife is five nine. And my son was 711 when he was born 710 maybe. So is your kid gonna pack on another pound in the next three weeks?

Samantha 44:08
Oh, that's what I'm worried about. If he's if he's not if he's eight is like the maximum okay with but I'm worried he's gonna be over.

Scott Benner 44:17
Did you let me do some math here? three more weeks. Baba. I bet she's seven, four maybe? Yeah, it'd be like that. Yeah. We'll see. I mean, I have Keep in mind, no medical training whatsoever. Go with it. But I'm just trying to make you feel better. I don't think I don't think that's not doable.

Samantha 44:40
Of course, it's not doable. But

Scott Benner 44:44
can I ask a delicate question, and there's gonna be a lot of bleeps in this. So feel free to answer but prior to this. It wasn't like super tiny or something, was it? Yeah.

Samantha 44:55
No, but I have to push and pull baby out of me. Basically.

Scott Benner 44:59
comes out on its own. It really your body just rejects it at the end. It's just like, Yeah, get out.

Samantha 45:05
And I'm afraid of like the leg ripping. Oh, you might be worried about that. Yeah, I'm worried about I think I'm more worried because I'm hoping I'm not going to feel anything during the delivery. I think I'm more worried about how much pain I'm going to be in afterwards.

Scott Benner 45:24
Yeah, I listen, if you have a nice natural birth, that should be you should have too much trouble. Are you doing any prep stuff? Let's talk like adults for a second. any of that, like oil massaging around your exit?

Samantha 45:37
Are you know, I've never heard of that.

Scott Benner 45:40
A whole bunch trying to keep things like loose. No, here's

Samantha 45:43
everything is uncomfortable. Listen, you want your cake and

Unknown Speaker 45:47
eat it too. Like

Scott Benner 45:50
have to have some uncomfortable sex with your husband to get this together? I think or by the way, you don't actually have to do it with him. You know what I'm saying? But if he's become a problem, but But no, I mean, are those things wives tales?

Samantha 46:06
I will I've never heard that that help. I've never heard the oil thing ever, ever. And then I've never heard I've heard that. Having sex couldn't do like couldn't make you have the baby. But I haven't heard that it loosens you up to get ready for the baby to come out. Hold on.

Scott Benner 46:27
I've googled. Okay, there are six things you can do now for a better delivery on your labor day. Find the right caregiver when this isn't eat well, okay. This is

Unknown Speaker 46:38
we're talking about how do we take breathe

Scott Benner 46:43
and make it more accepting of what's about to happen. Right? This is not let me be. Let me be more clear about my googling make childbirth

Unknown Speaker 46:55
easier.

Scott Benner 46:57
On my vagina. There we go. vaginal stretching, how to stretch your vagina before giving birth? You got to Google more

Samantha 47:06
like cables or whatever they're called. Is that isn't it? Oh, oh. Learn To Play shouldn't do that.

Scott Benner 47:16
Lengthen pelvic muscles and soft tissue practice getting into labor positions, practice relaxation techniques, prevent or treat urinary incontinence. Oh my god. You're not incontinent, or you

Samantha 47:25
know?

Scott Benner 47:26
Yeah. How's your back pain? Anything?

Samantha 47:29
Yeah.

Scott Benner 47:31
The sex hurt or did you just give up on trying? Don't say your husband's lovely. Let's not say that he hasn't gotten laid in six months. Okay. for him. Oh, here's my thing. perinatal massage perineal. Massage lengthens and softens the tissue of the peronism. You can start this at 35 weeks, how far you and 36 weeks. Thank God I'm here. This massage technique for 10 minutes once a day, take a warm bath or hold a warm compress on the its premium right? I thought yeah, premium per diem? I don't know I don't have one. Or do I? Just the taint? What are we talking about here for 10 minutes to help you relax. I'm gonna send you this link. Sit or lean back in a comfortable position. Put a water soluble lubricant on your thumb. And apparently, um, place your thumbs one to one and a half inches inside your vagina. Press downward toward the rectum and to the sides until you feel a slight burning, stinging or tingling sensation. Hold the pressure for two minutes until the area becomes numb. Oh, this sounds fun. pretty painful. Breathe deeply. Listen,

Samantha 48:42
I want to put myself in more pain that I'm just gonna still feel pain later on. This baby's

Scott Benner 48:47
gonna fire out if you just loosen these muscles up deeply and concentrate on relaxing the muscles as you continue to press down with your thumb slowly and gently massage back and forth over the sides of your vagina. If you would have done this, you wouldn't have gotten it would have been like, you know what Never mind. And massage thing was enough. Thanks. Relax, repeat this process once after you give birth, you may experience new physical problems that prevent you from fully enjoying life with Wait. Hold on a second. skip that.

Samantha 49:16
Don't send me this link.

Scott Benner 49:19
But just talks about getting your body back into shape afterwards that did a physical therapist might help but this massage thing I'm telling you this is all you have. You gotta gotta like you know, when you get like a new baseball

Samantha 49:33
well, then my husband will be good at it. I'll have him do it.

Scott Benner 49:36
Tell him to get some oil out and beat that thing into shape. So you can play with it on the 17th I think that's worth talking about.

Unknown Speaker 49:43
Oh my god, I'm so happy. I don't have

Unknown Speaker 49:47
realized that as I was reading.

Samantha 49:48
I keep telling myself that people have like another child after the first so it can't be that bad. Because why would they do it again. I

Scott Benner 49:57
think some women are trying to keep wealthy husbands I think that's

Samantha 50:04
because women that are having babies because they want, because

Scott Benner 50:07
they love their babies. Oh, I do. I mean, I think it probably just feeds that dopamine part of your brain,

Samantha 50:14
right? If it was so terrible, then there would just be only children everywhere. Yeah, right is what I keep telling myself hundred percent

Scott Benner 50:24
and don't listen, we're joking around a lot here. Of course people have babies all the time and it goes all the time. But yeah, I listen, I think if you don't need what is that word when there's when they when they cut to make the space?

Samantha 50:42
Oh, I don't know what you're talking about. I don't know what the

Scott Benner 50:45
word is such a silly word to I'll think of it in a second. It starts with the P. program note, I realized it was a PC Atomy as soon as I said starts with the P but then when I remembered what it was it felt mean to say in front of Samantha, I'll figure it out. That doesn't happen. And if you don't prove yourself when you're pushing, I think you're doing really well.

Samantha 51:04
Yeah, I'm fine with that. That's not gonna matter to me.

Scott Benner 51:07
I like your line. You're like, Listen, if someone's got to clean that up. that's their problem, not mine. I'm paying to get in.

Samantha 51:15
Yeah, I'm paying plenty they can clean up my poop.

Unknown Speaker 51:25
Yeah, exactly. All right, Jesus. I think

Unknown Speaker 51:35
we'll end on

Scott Benner 51:36
early today, but I feel like we've covered a lot. I didn't realize we'd be reading about the massage technique. I just came up like, because I remember hearing it somewhere. I don't know if my wife did it or not. I don't think she did. If she did, she was like, I don't need him for this. But I mean, I just it makes sense, right? Like, if you were gonna go for a run, you'd stretch your legs.

Samantha 51:56
Right? I mean, yeah, I logical.

Scott Benner 52:00
I will tell you this. I don't think that your concerns are unfounded, or unreasonable. My daughter is 15. She has like, zero. You know, besides thinking some boys are cute and something like that. She's not thinking about having a baby. But anytime the subject comes up, she immediately says, I'm adopting kids, because I don't want anything to have to come out of my vagina. Like, you might change your mind. She goes, I really don't think I'm going to just like okay, yeah, so um, yeah, that's it, you're gonna be great.

Samantha 52:35
Yeah, I can do it.

Scott Benner 52:37
Hey, listen, you're gonna do it.

Samantha 52:40
I have to do it. Now. It's way too late.

Scott Benner 52:43
backing out now would be unprecedented in the history of the world. I think you're having a baby. Let's talk a little bit before we go about. I mean, I feel like I don't feel like we can Jinx the last three weeks of your pregnancy? Do you spend much time thinking about your first pregnancy? Um, or does it just make you feel like I'm

Samantha 53:05
me? Um,

I don't think I spend time thinking, well, it's, it's a little bit. This is like I was pregnant in January, February, March, April, May last time. So it's kind of that time zone. And it's getting to April's when my diagnosis anniversary is. So it kind of brings up the thoughts. But I don't think we're really thinking about the actual pregnancy rather than just like her. The fact that like, we were supposed to have another baby before this. And she's not here. And like, like, we just kind of think, I don't know, it's hard. It's hard to not like, compare that technically, this could have been like our second child, you know?

Scott Benner 54:01
Yeah, no, I think I mean, I don't understand from Kant, you know, from context. I obviously, it hasn't happened to us, but I feel like I understand what you're saying. Like, even though your daughter was never born. It doesn't feel like she didn't exist.

Samantha 54:16
Yeah, yeah. She she's still very much like a person to us. And we say that she's up watching over us and like, she'll be watching over Harrison, and she's very, she's very much a part of our family, even though she never like took a breath.

Scott Benner 54:36
Does she have a name in your mind?

Samantha 54:38
Yeah, her name was gonna be Elena.

And then I mean, we even have, like, I don't know if I had said it in the first episode, but the doctors made her footprints for us. So we have her footprints, like framed in our bedroom, and we have her ashes. So like, she Is the person to us?

Scott Benner 55:02
No, I agree with you. I, I don't think that's Um, I don't think that's something anybody could argue with, you know, just the idea that that you were going to have a baby. And just because she didn't make it all the way to the world doesn't make any of that less. Anything, you know?

Unknown Speaker 55:17
Wow.

Scott Benner 55:18
You guys are doing great. You really are you you've rebounded from, you know, a tragedy and turned it right around. It must have been incredibly scary to try to have a baby again. And then to have diabetes on top of all that is a stressful a lot. Yeah, but you're doing it.

Samantha 55:36
Yeah. Yeah, that is, I am doing

Scott Benner 55:41
the truth. Right. Like, yeah, you hear people say things like, you know, just try it. You'll say, you know, that kind of stuff like anything's accomplishable. And I have found that my life just,

Samantha 55:52
yeah, completely doable. I want people to know that just because you have Type One Diabetes doesn't mean you can't get pregnant. I've had people tell me that their doctors have told them because you have type one, like that sole reason alone, you cannot get pregnant. And I think that's terrible have a doctor to even say, because if my doctors had said that to me, then we wouldn't be here. And both my doctors were very supportive. And they told me as long as I manage it, too.

The point like where I need to do management.

pregnancy is completely doable without complications.

Scott Benner 56:40
Yeah, I no lie. I get a lot of emails from people who say that though, they can now have kids because they listen to the podcast, they got their agency down and their blood sugar's are more stable and stuff like that. But almost every one of their notes includes some statement about they didn't think they could ever have a baby or or a doctor told them they couldn't. Listen, I don't know when this will come out in the timeline. But since I pretty comfortable yours will be out soon. I've been helping my daughter's friend, Jani. So Arda met a girl online years ago, and they've been friends, you know, for a while. They've never met in person. But Jani and Arden are the same age and Johnny's had diabetes for six years. And so there was times where Arden would come to me and say, I think Jani needs help. Like her blood sugars are high a lot and Arden was concerned for but it didn't feel like anybody's business. Do you know what I mean? Yeah, so one time I just said to her, like, Look, if you want to, because they were comparing their blood sugars. And so you know, I said, if you want to tell her, I can help her just, you know, have her ask, but I wasn't going to push it on her. I wanted somebody to ask me. I don't know why that seemed to make a difference to me. But eventually, it came up and we start talking about it right before Christmas. And about four weeks ago, she and I spoke for the first time and I've been recording with her like 10 or 15 minutes at a time a couple of times. Oh, yeah. So she went yesterday. Yesterday. Yeah, she went to her. She got her a one c done yesterday. Now this is not a full a one c after she and I've spoken it's four weeks after she and I spoke and her a one c went down two points. Oh wow. From the last time and so to tell somebody you know your you know your blood sugar's don't support having a baby. That might be true in the moment. But yeah, the rest of the statement, you know, like, here's what we could do to get your blood sugar into a place where you could have a baby, and by the way, enjoy your life more and be healthier.

Samantha 58:38
I think that's the most important thing from like, hopefully people are getting from listening to at least at the very least, like my episodes, like it's completely doable without any complications. And to have I mean, despite having to deal with the diabetes to have a completely normal pregnancy.

Scott Benner 58:58
I'm super excited for you. This is really great. I feel like I'm having a baby a little bit.

Samantha 59:03
I'll send you a big shirt in three weeks.

Yeah, hundred percent. That's what my endo, I'm not going to see my endo again until the end of April. He said that I just need to make sure I text him a picture of a baby.

Scott Benner 59:16
That's so nice. It's cool to have so many different people like thinking of you and supporting you and everything that must be helpful as well.

Samantha 59:22
Yes, definitely. Yeah.

Scott Benner 59:24
The only difference between you having this baby and me being involved is that on the 18th, I'm not going to be tired.

Samantha 59:31
Well, hopefully, the 18th all already have the child by them.

Scott Benner 59:34
Well, let me give your husband a tiny bit of advice here. That night you have the baby and they get you up to move around the room and there's not a lot of space so he sits down on your bed for a little while. Don't fall asleep. Oh, yeah. Because I might have done that after hours after hours. Like I got in the bed notice like, and she's the other day she's like, I can't believe you fell asleep again. 15 years ago. And I said I was tired. I just had a baby. And I said, Kelly, I know I've said this a million times, right? But just because you're tired doesn't mean I'm not

Samantha 1:00:16
feeling so you understand we were talking heard your struggle doesn't

Unknown Speaker 1:00:19
negate mine.

Scott Benner 1:00:23
I don't think she accepted that, by the way as a viable excuse. But anyway, I was sleepy. And it turns out, I used to have really low iron, so this isn't my fault at all. Oh, there you go. Hey, I'm good. I've valuable medical reasoning. I can get a doctor's note for that. I should. Each time I go in for an iron infusion. I'm gonna get the doctor to write a note. Back on the date Arden was born excusing me for fall asleep.

Samantha 1:00:48
It's gonna matter much but

Scott Benner 1:00:52
trying to when we're in a point system here. We've been married a long time. I'm way behind. Okay. All right. So, I hope the I hope everything goes great. I'm sure that baby's gonna be fine. There's no gonna be any problems. Fingers crossed. Yeah, yeah. Hundred percent. I am sending you this stuff for the massage. I'll take. I'm sending out I'll send you the text. So okay. And if you do it, you have to tell me.

Samantha 1:01:18
Yeah, it'll be it hurt a lot. And it's still frickin hurt when I gave birth.

Unknown Speaker 1:01:24
All right, that seems fair.

Scott Benner 1:01:27
Alright, happy birthday. I will talk to you soon.

Samantha 1:01:30
Okay, thank you. Bye.

Scott Benner 1:01:34
A huge thank you to Samantha for coming on again to describe her journey through pregnancy. She's going to be back one more time. A few months after she has Harrison to tell us what it's like to be a new parent with Type One Diabetes. huge thank you to the Contour Next One blood glucose meter, please go to Contour Next one.com to find out more. And of course, touched by type one. When you go to touched by type one.org, you're going to see an organization helping children and people living with Type One Diabetes, you're going to find an organization that's helping to raise money for a cure, and so much more touched by type one.org. Give them a look. Once again, I want to thank the Georgia chapter of the jdrf for having me down to Atlanta this past weekend. I had a terrific time. I met a ton of wonderful people. Want to wish you all success if you're listening for the first time here. Hello. Coming over the next couple of episodes. a two part conversation about looping coming soon. Maybe it'll be Friday. Maybe it'll be next week. I haven't decided yet, but I'm getting close to deciding. Anyway, it's gonna be really soon. Dan, don't

do you think I have a future in this ASMR thing? I could just make like relaxing sounds into a microphone. That would be so much easier than interviewing people. I don't even know how to begin to do that. What would I do? What I was I don't think I can whisper Oh, you're listening to the Juicebox Podcast. Today, I definitely can't whisper it makes me like shorter breath whispering I need to like fill my lungs and go you don't mean like that? Yeah, I don't know. I couldn't do that. Alright, I fallen down a rabbit hole here. A s m R stands for Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response. The Autonomous Sensory Meridian Response sometimes auto Sensory Meridian Response is a tingling sensation. That typically be excuse me that typically begins on the scalp and moves down the back of the neck and upper spine. A pleasant form of para thesis paraesthesia paraesthesia. I think it has been compared with auditory tactile synesthesia, and may overlap with Phrygian well, hell now I don't know what Phrygian means. Give me a second Phrygian is that a made up word? A sudden strong feeling of excitement or fear a thrill that just comes from like what what's an example of ASMR then? Alright, people give me a second set of video here. Listening to a video from Mashable. Get to it, man. What does it mean? Common triggers. Here we go. whispering crisp sounds like tapping and crinkling Hold on.

Wait, you have to roleplay and pretend you're doing it like I'm not doing that. Just like a whole business. Not everybody gets the sensations from the trigger sounds, the video says, well, it's definitely not doing anything for me. So I thought I could make a little extra money on the side here.

By the way, if you're still listening, examine your life. I don't even mean because the SMR I just mean like, I mean, the the part about the diabetes has been over for a while now. Alright, let's keep going.

Here's an idea. We try this.

Now it's not working. It's not as easy as it looks.

Okay, I'm done.